I'm infatuated with my mum's secretary/paralegal. Who has a boyfriend. Who wants to go for a drink on Friday. So controversial.
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I'm infatuated with my mum's secretary/paralegal. Who has a boyfriend. Who wants to go for a drink on Friday. So controversial.
American Dictionary:Quote:
Originally Posted by Aeradalia [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
LOVE
–noun
1. a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.
2. a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend.
3. sexual passion or desire.
YOU FAIL
There is no exact definition of love.
Infatuation...love...same shit.
cool story broQuote:
Originally Posted by Charlie Boy II [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
yeah doesn't stack up so well against your epic: pining over a girl who's engaged and who'd have zero interest in you if she was single anyway.
You would be a terrible narrator for me. This story is epic and years in the making.Quote:
Originally Posted by Charlie Boy II [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
you mean years of you masturbating in your darkened bedroom between World of Warcraft binges.
Precisely! How did you know? Till my super mount mage got stolen and I "pined" for it. You know, not all of us can get blow jobs in the bushes out of nowhere.Quote:
Originally Posted by Charlie Boy II [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
**** it, i knew of people who stole married women. point is, if you want them and they are wiling, how is it YOUR fault? you're just a better seducer than the married man. hahaha
raverboy
Exactly, what do I have to lose? nothing.Quote:
Originally Posted by Illusional [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
that's what i'm thinking... if she makes any sort of choices, it will be her doing. you can always blame the woman because it's usually her fault.
raverboy
so what did u ask for? no1 can tell u how easy or hard she is, the real question is more like 'is she worth it if she does choose u?'
the answer depends on what u're looking for, if u just want to have casual relationship with her then sure it's all fine, u have fun, she realises she didnt want to spend her life with him and he gets heart broken but saved from a failed marraige before it even begins
but if u think she will be marriage material/"the one" after that then i think u need to reconsider.
as u said "what do u have to lose?" if she rejects u then u still get to lust over her but atleast u tried, and who said u only get to try once? if u keep trying she will be more likely to see how serious u are (so long as u do it properly ofc, no stalker stuff :P)
breaking up any relationship is gay cos some1 always suffers but it definately takes 2 last time i checked
Says the man who's pining over a woman who has no interests in him.Quote:
Originally Posted by Only-virgins [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
How's that for logic? :detective
in⋅fat⋅u⋅a⋅tion
–noun 1. the state of being infatuated.
2. the act of infatuating.
3. foolish or all-absorbing passion or an instance of this: a mere infatuation that will not last.
4. the object of a person's infatuation: When I was a kid, my infatuation was stamp collecting.
in⋅fat⋅u⋅ate
–verb (used with object) 1. to inspire or possess with a foolish or unreasoning passion, as of love.
2. to affect with folly; make foolish or fatuous.
–adjective 3. infatuated.
–noun 4. a person who is infatuated.
Infatuation more specifically tends to make you appear foolish... which in this case... applies. ;)
Just like I thought, Same thing...adding the word foolish is really an opinion. Love is foolish. Same damn thing!Quote:
Originally Posted by Aeradalia [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Once again you fail. Sucks to be you. Oh and what difference would it make with this fact if I am pining over someone or not....none at all.
3. sexual passion or desire.
3. foolish or all-absorbing passion or an instance
same shit, sexual passions or all absorbing passion...really just same shit with two different opinionated adjectives in front of them. Passion would have just been fine. Instance or desire...whatever...I desire...and nothing really lasts....ever.
Gonna see her tomorrow!
If I were You I would wait till the wedding and in the moment :
-If you know of any reason why these two should not be joined together in holy matrimony, speak now, or forever hold your peace.
... I would arrive and scream : DON'T MARRY HIM! I LOVE YOU! RUN ,LOLA , RUN!
:) You know... A bit of dramaa...
Come on at least this guy would have enough alcohol (from the almost wedding) to get drunk and screw some almost-bridesmaid :)
I would have two families chasing me with the nearest blunt objects they can find lol. If life was like the movies I would totally do that . The wedding would probably continue it is just that they would have to dig a hole for my body.Quote:
Originally Posted by Pettit-Papillon [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I dunno if it's Your avatar, or the fact that I just watched another Dr.Hourse episodes. But it is so similar to the s06e1-2 that it can't be :) But still ask her. I mean YOU have nothing to lose. She actually will have a bigger problem because she will have to make a choice between a fiance and well ...You.
Yeah exactly. Ask,and leave her the choice. If she rejects You than just do... NEXXT :)
What is s06e1-2?
season 06 episode 1-2 ;)
Lol You never download series from internet? Ah wait. You Americans have everything first ;)
I have house series I just didn't know what those numbers like that meant lol. My avatar is House mixed with another character . :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Pettit-Papillon [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Hah yeah I thought so cause he look like a mix of House and Harry Potter with lordosis lolQuote:
Originally Posted by Only-virgins [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
No but going back on Your issue... If she choose You then fine,You will save somebody from unhappy marriage.If not, it means they have something stronger than You and her. Btw. did You already sleep with her? If yes, then she's a cheater,and You know how it is with cheaters (in most of cases).If not ,then fine let her know how You feel but don't push.She has to know what to do.
Anyway, somebody will get hurt.But that's life
I pity you if your only understanding of love is a few words in a dictionary.
But alas... you'll find there is a difference between love and infatuation in practice -- a very big difference.
Anyway... I'll just sit back and let you make your own mistakes. It's more fun this way... really. When she breaks your heart --- or ego rather... you'll be back here crying about how horrible women are or how much of a bitch this particular one is.
Yawn... have fun...
Aww, jeez OV.... the girl from Jr. High again? I think you're crossing over into "creepy stalker" territory. Does she need to get a restraining order to be rid of you?
This isn't her but I can't forget that girl. I am not stalking anyone. I don't know where that girl is anymore and haven't seen her in over 2 years. I do miss her though, all other girls seem plain and boring. I almost don't want to bother...might as well have fun trying to ruin a wedding though :D ... I only wanted to know why Mish thought that .Quote:
Originally Posted by vashti [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I understand the workings of attachment and exactly what it takes to have a good relationship. I understand that love is not sufficient but rather just necessary. There is a difference. It is just all terminology.Quote:
Originally Posted by Aeradalia [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
OV, if she wasn't interested in you when she was single, why would she be interested now? I don't see why you're missing that point completely. You're setting yourself up for an epic fail my friend.
If you pursue her now, the only thing that would happen is she'll get an ego boost out of it. Along the lines of "Damn, I'm such a hot commodity guys are willing to chase me down even with a RING on my finger!"
Do you really want to be that guy? I don't think you do.
You are completely right but in this case I can pull it off. I talked to her today. I am supposed to go help her "fix her computer" tomorrow, man I so hope that means something else!Quote:
Originally Posted by bluesummer [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Lol, but what if it just means 'fix her computer'?
Don't go whipping out your wang too quickly.
LoL, I fixed her computer. I don't know how the hell she can still go through with the marriage. I don't get it. She started crying though and I didn't know what the hell to say. She ended up forcing me out and saying that she is still getting married. I don't mean fix her computer literally by the way. She didn't let me comfort her and called me a jerk...why go through with it in the first place? It is 3:30 am here now and I just got home, I was just driving around for about 2 hours thinking.
Ugh, why are you interested in a chick like this OV? She cheated on her fiance with you, then calls you a jerk and throws you out? She sounds like a freakin headcase.
I'd just throw another notch on the bedpost and walk away from this mess of a girl if I were you. Say you got involved and everything was going great and you got engaged.....you spend the whole engagement wondering if she was banging someone else.
Honestly OV, I hate to Monday morning quarterback, but what you described sounds like a downer and a mess. What I had was a fun fling, I never let it get past one night of having that forbidden fruit that tastes so incredibly good.
I was thinking you'd have something similar which is why I shared my experience with you...one last bit of fun and a good memory for both. Trying to tear something apart never brings any pleasure, even if you succeed. You should've just let her know your true feelings and if she wanted to come back to you, she would.
I feel like shit today. She called me and said "How could I let that happen?" I am so confused. :S Isn't she the one who "let it happen". I'll be honest, I engaged.
I can't just leave now. She said she is going with the marriage. Should I let the guy know?Quote:
Originally Posted by bluesummer [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Is it because I show some feelings for her? I don't mind if it was just a one night stand really. I actually thought that is what it would be. Just like yours. However she started crying and getting emotional but ONLY after the fact. Cheating is cheating though. That is what both women did in our cases man. That entire "one last fruit thing" sounds great from your perspective...would hate to be the fiance or soon to be husband.Quote:
Originally Posted by Primo [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
well if things don't really work out with this one, then someone can unban elle and you can have your go at her.
raverboy
I can't afford her :P lolQuote:
Originally Posted by Illusional [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Are you kidding? That one would tell you to STFU and not realize you hadn't spoken to her for over a week. :D
You've done enough damage by placing a stumbling block before the blind. Leave this girl and her (future) husband alone.
Of course it's because there's feelings there bro ! When the attraction between 2 people is strong and the sex intimate and intense, that bond forms quick !! There's alot more detail to my experience OV...there's what happened, a middle part, and an end. The bottom line though is that it started out as a fun, purely physical encounter and ended up being only that. I resisted anything more and now it remains a very good memory.Quote:
Originally Posted by Only-virgins [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
In your case, or in any case, if you truly are drawn to someone, even if they're taken, there's no harm in letting them know how you feel...maybe someday things won't work out for her and perhaps you'll be there. Hey, look at the other thread...you have 80-90% chance one day, so it's not all bad news :lol:
In the meantime, yes, please let her go and live her life. You do the same :)
I now completely regret getting involved at all.
Ahhh there is saying in polish ' Kto ma miękkie serce, ten ma twardą dupę' . I think it says everything :) And You sure as hell have hard ass. Don't worry, You meet someone else. It's always like that ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by Only-virgins [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Shit dude, don't beat yourself up. Life is about making mistakes and learning...haven't met a perfect person yet myself :)
what happened?Quote:
Originally Posted by Only-virgins [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]