That's true Vash, most dances that they do in Texas, two-step, etc and most modern dance aren't as sexy, just more for entertainment and socializing.
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That's true Vash, most dances that they do in Texas, two-step, etc and most modern dance aren't as sexy, just more for entertainment and socializing.
Doesn't matter, I love them anyway!
You wanna Samba with me?
I thought you'd never ask! :D
This thread is filling me with loads of nostalgia. I remember my first dance and the first girl I ever dance with. There's no love like young love.:D
If my dislike of dancing was important to somebody I was interested in, well, I wouldn't be interested in them for much longer. That's ridiculous to me.
"There's this guy I really like, and he likes me. He's kind, generous, intelligent, he treats me well, and I'm really attracted to him, but it's just not going to work out. He just doesn't enjoy swaying and flailing his limbs to music..."
Inability to dance shouldn't be a deal breaker. But from my experience, it's such a big plus that I can hardly think of anything that rivals it.
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Originally Posted by Glith [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
This is a flawed counterpoint because you're already assuming she likes you. And then you portray dancing with a really negative connotation.
You can pretty much say: "There's this guy I really like, and he likes me. He's kind, generous, intelligent, he treats me well, and I'm really attracted to him, but it's just not going to work out. He just [insert almost any bad thing here]," and make that undesirable attribute look like a seemingly ridiculous reason to break up.
Well really that's all dancing is, moving your body to a beat...and as I said, if that's important enough to somebody that I may not meet their requirements because of it, they're REALLY not for me. I'd rather somebody who looked for qualities which actually matter.
Hell, I'd love my girlfriend to have won awards for back massage and fine cuisine, but it matters not a notch that she doesn't have those qualities, and the idea that it'd be a dealbreaker is nuts.
Yea and all talking is moving your mouth to make sounds.Quote:
Originally Posted by Glith [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
So your point is that if someone doesn't like you, then they're not for you.Quote:
Originally Posted by Glith
Not really, my point is that if something as shallow and unimportant in life as dancing is enough to stop a woman from being attracted to me, she's not the sort of woman worth worrying about.
I'm an artist, I love art, I love to paint and to visit galleries. It's an absolute passion, especially creating art WITH someone. My current girlfriend really isn't interested in art in the slightest, and that doesn't matter for a moment to me.
I have my passions and interests, she has hers. I like to think that the lack of a similar interest in a specific area wouldn't be enough to turn me off somebody I'd otherwise love.
I dunno what we're debating about, but I did say "inability to dance shouldn't be a dealbreaker."
My original point was that if dancing was that big of a deal to a girl, she wouldn't have liked you in the first place. So your comment about how a girl can like everything about you and then saying it won't work out because you can't dance is a flawed argument for your point of view.
And the rest of your posts where you minimalize dance is no better than when someone says art is stupid and worthless.
Except from my point of view, in the context of getting girls, dance has near universal appeal. I haven't met a single girl that doesn't like to dance.
But not being able to dance shouldn't be a dealbreaker.
Yeah... Dancing feels really good, and it's usually a package deal. You can hang out, have some drinks, work it out on the dance floor, get paid some compliments, and have fun!
For the record when I say it IS a deal breaker I do not mean the inability to dance, I mean the refusal to dance is a deal breaker. If he comes to join me on the dance floor and can't dance worth a shit it still dancing. The guy who refuses to join me to sit at a table all night long is the deal breaker.
I wasn't pointing fingers at anyone, or commenting on anybody's posts in particular. I just find the whole concept of refusal to dance being a dealbreaker, a little sad.
I mean, I've not actually been to any 'dancy' places with my current girlfriend yet (usually just restaurants or quiet bars), but if and when we do, she decides to end it after 7 months because I don't enjoy swaying to music, well....I don't think I'd understand it. It's just something that somebody either enjoys or they dont, and I can't imagine somebody's lack of mutual passion for one of my passtimes being a factor which would change my view of them as a person or potential partner.
I may be able to dance, I may not, but I don't do it because it's not something I'd get anything from. Again, it's just the thought that somebody could have the conviction that I must also enjoy a certain pleasure of theirs or we're not compatible, amazes me.
I don't really get why (some) males are so resistant to dancing. EVERYONE can slow dance; it takes absolutely no skill, and it makes women SOOOO happy. Kind of like how watching a football game is for most women.
I guess I "get" the resistance to anything faster, though it sure does detract from the joy in life.
It's not about being able to, it's about wanting to. I have a good ear, I enjoy playing the guitar, I enjoy music...I have a decent sense of beat and I'm sure with a little practice I could be an ok dancer, the problem is that I get NO joy from it, I can't see the sense in it or why it's an issue to some people. My girlfriends over the years really havent given a damn whether I dance or not. It's not about resisting, it's about choosing to do the things in life you get enjoyment from.
I think it's about accepting that your partner isn't going to enjoy everything you do, and if doing it is only going to make them uncomfortable, why would you want them to?
I find it difficult to comprehend that some people don't enjoy standing with a paint brush and blank canvas in front of them. Some people will be better at painting than others, but even those who aren't skillful could at least get some joy from pushing the paint around. However, there are plenty of people who aren't interested at all by it, and I wouldn't try to push somebody into doing it just because it's my thing.
I find it so amazingly dull It bores me to absolute tears. Granted, if she really wants to I'll get up there and flail around or sway or whatever. I'll even try not to yawn while I do it.
Maybe if I could figure out how you people get into it I'd view dancing in a different light. I cram myself onto the dance floor, wedged in like a sardine and surrounded by smelly, gross people while noise blares, and then I'm expected to wiggle around. And somehow that's supposed to be fun.
How can you guys get no enjoyment from holding a pretty girl in your arms?
Oh I certainly do, but I don't need music ;)
do you not enjoy music at all? does your body not feel or react to the rhytm?Quote:
Originally Posted by Gribble [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I know you're not asking me, but my response would be that I love music. I love to listen to it, go to see it live, play it myself. However, I get NO impulse to move my body in time with it, and I don't understand why it would matter to anybody else whether I do or not. You like dancing, go dance.
What he said. Sometimes music triggers a surge of adrenaline and I want to fight or **** or drive a car fast, but never have I wanted to move to it.
bull*shit. I don't believe you for a second. not "never".Quote:
Originally Posted by Gribble [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I absolutely wouldn't want to make him do something he detests so much which is precisely why it's a deal breaker. Because I enjoy it so much and the fact he detests something I'd love so much to do WITH him. I would never push dancing on a guy. If he doesn't he doesn't but he's not going to be my guy who doesn't.Quote:
Originally Posted by Glith [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
It's like if you're a pilot and your gf HATES flying and will never, ever jump on a plane with you. For a pilot this could be a deal breaker. He (or she) would love to take the partner up in the air- it is a passion. A girl who doesn't fly wouldn't fit into his lifestyle.
Yes, dancing can be a lifestyle.
The music you nondancers enjoy must not be very danceable.
I guess we just choose partners or go into relationships differently. I can deal with a partner being very different to me so long as they have certain values and personality traits which are important to me. Their likes and dislikes don't play much of a role for me.Quote:
Originally Posted by girl68 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
In your example, if I were the pilot I'd just carry on doing what I enjoyed doing, before I met her. I did it without her before, I'll do it without her now, except when I get home, there's a girl I adore waiting for me. :D
I can see how people are turned on by different types of music in different situations. I can't stand certain Britney Spears songs on a daily basis, but you can bet your ass that I'll dance to her tunes on a Friday night!
So people enjoy more rock, or metal too. Maybe shakin' it on the dance floor isn't your thing. Maybe you prefer to mosh and get bloodied up a bit. Maybe you want to head bang those luscious locks. Maybe you want to be a hipster and stand there nodding your head with your arms folded.
We're all so different. My guy doesn't dig dancing at all. He's headed to Mexico for 10 weeks and I told him you better prepare to learn to salsa, 'cause they will make you! He started whining about how he at least wishes I could be the one to salsa with him. Ah well :)
Possibly, I guess the likes of Pearl Jam, Led Zeppelin and David Bowie aren't particularly known for encouraging dance enthusiasts ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by Sanctuary [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
david bowie has a lot of danceable songs!
Spanish dancing is so sexy. And I love the music. I wish I could salsa. But I can't move like that at all without the training.Quote:
Originally Posted by lahnnabell [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I guess I've just spotted the irony of 'Lets Dance'..........
If you listen to a song and make any kind of movement in reaction to it, that's dancing.Quote:
Originally Posted by Glith [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Well, in that case I do dance while I'm stood at the bar, or sat at the table holding a glass. Somehow I dont think the 'no-dancing-no-date' types on here would be too willing to accept that though, heh heh.Quote:
Originally Posted by Sanctuary [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I have great rhythm and timing and I needed EXTENSIVE training when I was learning. I was originally taught by the brother of the family I lived with in Mexico during college.Quote:
Originally Posted by Sanctuary [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
My boyfriend is a sports guy. While he's 6'2" and athletically built, he doesn't naturally possess the kind of finesse it takes to move your body to salsa. He has an elegant walk, but it's more of a casual, gangly "I'm a guy" walk. If that makes sense. Crazy San Diegans and their flip-flops!
Oh, and this is my favorite!
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Glith, you might wanna take a look at some of the ladies' responses around here. Just sayin'.Quote:
Originally Posted by Glith [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
The thing with dancing is, you gotta find a style that works for you. I tried swing dancing for awhile and really didn't get it; it's a 3-beat dance set to 4-beat music, and that kept throwing me off. But salsa works pretty well for me. The basic steps are a snap, and there's probably no limit to how much you can add to your repertoire.Quote:
Originally Posted by Gribble [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Neither could I. :) That's why I'm taking some classes...which reminds me, my next one is in just a few hours!Quote:
Originally Posted by Sanctuary [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Dancing is a workout, it's exciting. Even if it is slow dancing. Not saying you have to bust a move and get jiggy with it. But like Vashti mentioned...
Turn on some beautiful music, hold that woman in your arms, pull her close to you and caress her while you move slow to the music. Swaying and kissing. It's romantic. It's sexy. It's the mood. <3
I love to see a guy dancing I think its cute!
I am happy to dance by myself but I woiuld rather dance with my man. Dirty dancing even better. Its nice when a guy is not shy about dancing, even if he dances badly LOL
And not being a dancer or being into dancing isn't a deal breaker with me... but if you don't mind me dancing with other guys and girls... you can sit on the sidelines all you want or don't come at all. If you try to stop me from dancing then that would break the deal for me.
I think we should reference a few 'moves' for the non dancers on the forum:
1- "Rolling the dice" - As your grooving in your place with your friends, move your right hand as you are rolling a pair of dice. For visual reference, refer to Seth Rogan in "Knocked up".
2- "The Grocery shopper" - Pretend like you are pushing an invisible grocery cart and every 2-3 steps, pause, look up and pretend to grab an item on the shelf above you. Place into your cart, and repeat.
3- "Airing out the laundry" - You just took a load out of the washing machine and you don't own a dryer, that means its going on the line! Step 1: lift clothing item in the air, one arm at a time. Step 2: once in the air, pretend to clip the item to the line, one time each arm. Step 3: Shimme your arms from left to right as if your pushing the items out. Repeat. Should be done in rythem with the music, relatively upbeat.
4- "the lawn mower" - Ever struggle while trying to get that damn machine to start? It happens to most of us, which is what makes it so easy to perform! Just keep pulling on that string trying to get 'er started. The more exaggerated your arm motion, the better.
5- "the sprinkler" - Last but not least, this classic is the imitation of your favourite watering tool. Start by placing your right hand on the back of your head, forming an 90 degree angle w your elbow. Place your left arm straight out, and begin to move your left arm (the extended one!) from right to left while slightly moving your elbow back and forth in a rhythmic motion. Once you get to the far left, quickly twist your body so your extended left arm comes back to its original starting position!
These moves can be most likely observed on you tube.
Enjoy men!