Yeah thats true but if she told me straight up NO im not interested then ill move on quicker than being sort of strung along the hole tiem she was never interested.
Women need to man up
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Yeah thats true but if she told me straight up NO im not interested then ill move on quicker than being sort of strung along the hole tiem she was never interested.
Women need to man up
Oh, please. She had no obligation to you. She told you it was for giggles, so she WAS honest about the whole thing. Your reaction (or rather, overreaction) is YOUR responsibility.
True she said it was gigges but that hole night she was telling me how im the nice boy shes been looking for and that shes happy shes met me and her friend was impressed by me and was hinting to me that she really did like me and that i should treat her good!
So i was led on.....but WHY ? is what i dont get, i know girls do this because its happend to me several times before but i cant help my feelings and im learning, im starting to trsut birds less when im talking to them and tell them that because ive been heartbroken and ****ed about before by girls lying and boys being wankers.
Im not like other wankers, i want to be happy, with a girlfriend that i can see myself bringing home to my mother, then marrying her then having a nice family with.
I have a high standard of the type of women i want, call me picky or whateber but why settle for second best in life, if im marrying and having kids with her she has to be the right perfect girl. Yes not everyone is perfect but at least: trustworthy, honest, caring the basics on what a relationship should be based on. !
Maybe because ive been so ****ed about so many times has made me more aware and more of a truthful person.
It has made me who i am today, so thats why im so honest and more to the point, in life wether at work or with a girl.
Especially if shes something like yes ill come out with you tomorrow ring me ? then you ring and no answer then nothing, see them out 1month later and they pretend like they dont know you. Whatever this is me being me now its all coming out.
But i wish i was more laidback, but im out to prove to a girl were not all wankers, that i can provide for you and make you happy and give you the nice things in life, im not a cheat, i dont get tempted to cheat, im not a nutter who goes round causing havoc, ive got a job, car, family, friends...........but all the girls especially the nice girls seem not to like that????
Seem to like more of a knobhead bloke who cheats, bullys them, even i know cases of boys hitting gf's and the gf's are crying to me hes a dickhyead, then they go crying back to them when they want somethiong.
You know those clingy little highschool girls that claim they love a boy after a mere smile flashed her way? You know the girl who at first glance is beautiful, she's funny, amazing everything you look for in a girl? The one who is as sweet as can be? The one who is so clingy its digusting? The girl who calls/ texts 15 times a day? The girl who is so god damn annoying it's pathetic? The one that you can't stand to even look at anymore after she turns from sweetheart to nutcase? You're that girl- except you're a boy. DO you get it yet?Quote:
Originally Posted by BarmyArmy [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
You WERE a sweet, nice funny guy... until your went all crackhead over her.
What you want is not unreasonable at all. What you're doing to get what you want is the fastest way to NOT get what you want. STOP IT.
You were not lead on. You went crazy. She thought I'm not interested in crazy boy.
OMG, I want to nominate you for the most annoying creepy stalker poster of the year. You are the kind of guy that makes girls want to carry a stun gun in their purse.
Please! just stop.
True but if it was the girl i really liked texting me 15 times a day then yeah i would be happy andn ot find her annoying and would love it.
Would prefer a bird to text me first instead of me texting her :(
I would agree your problem is that: SHE WASN'T!
This will hit home I'm sure: clingy is when one person likes the other more... and it shows. Clingy will never happen when both parties are on equal footing (as another poster puts it).
You know, after 4 pages you'd THINK you'd get it... but I don't think you get it at all.
I do get it, just its hard when your led on.
Oh we're trying to date animals? The play on words is awesome here because in this case we can make a perfect analogy!Quote:
Originally Posted by BarmyArmy [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Yuo saw a pretty bird, you had a loafof bread. She was interested, but as you moved too quick and tried to grab her she saw through your guise and knew what you were after and flew off. :detective
So i was after a nice girl to date, and what she dont want that....she def dont wanna just shag around it werent like that.
She was telling me i would be perfect etc proper led on
Yeah- you scared her off. Learn the lesson and move on...
Lesson learnt.
She said she would still wanna do something. Like go cinema or dinner etc
So was thinking maybe next step, give her a text or phone call out of the blue over the weekend maybe, see how she is and what shes been up to etc.
What should i do or approach this matter?
Thanks
Barmy...you know what?
I really like you. For all your clinginess and pushiness on this issue you certainly win the price for persistence and for the 'If I believe in it, then it will happen' attitude.
Are you a sagitarius by any chance?
Anyway since you're not following our tips here and there just do as you think.
I am sure we'll get some great follow-up on this!
I always root for the underdog...you might be winning the girl over against all odds!
So yes keep us posted!
Lol im not im a Pisce's.
Yes, when i want something wether alloy wheels for my car, TV, a girl i liek to have the best.
Im not ingoring the advice im going to back off which I have. Last time we spoke she said still wants do something but shes busy this week,
So im thinking maybe you know still be nice person that I am and sometime give her a text or call just see hows shes doing and see if she
wants to go out.
Lisa also said not lookign for relationship or any tie downs but were meet as mates and if things change they change.
So what you honestly reckon......forget abotu her completley and move on?
I mean i honestly dont even mind if nothing happens, just to go out to cinema, dinner or round a girls house is good,
as i dont have many girl mates something different.
She's either stupid, or she's a whore. Or a stupid whore. You shouldn't sit on a guy's lap for two hours if he's as needy as you unless you're positive that you two will connect. Obviously, she either was too stupid to know whether or not you were initially connecting, or too much wanting to sit on someone's lap to care.
Haha true.
She was holding my hand all night in the club, when we went out for a smoke, hugging me and kissing me, slowly.
It felt like we connected when we kissed, as it werent a drunken game of lose your tounge in each others mouths, it was how can i say it right..... romantic....passionate??
You know hands on each others faces, really deep it felt.
Was cold out and i was sitting on a concrete block, she wanted sit down and keep warm so she sat on my lap for half hour cuddling up and kissing.
You were not led on. She did like you until you began crazy clingy man.Quote:
Originally Posted by BarmyArmy [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I've done this too. I thought I met this awesome guy in the club. We flirted, held hands, made out. It was great. He started calling. He started texting. He wouldn't leave me the hell alone. Needless to say it was much to overwhelming considering he didn't know not one thing about me. I was terrified of this stalker and ran. He got the clue about 3 weeks down the road.
Yeahh i hear what you say Girl68.
So what should i do with regards to texting / calling her over next couple of weeks see hows shes doing and if shes still up for doing something?
Thats why i feel to be persistant as she may think that he does like me and has chilled out and go out once and if she has another giggle,
and go out again perhaps things like she said could become different, if we play it like mates at first.
So when and what should i say to her?
Absolutely nothing.
Remember when she claimed she wanted to see you again? Yeah, I know you do. You're going insane just thinking about it. If she *actually* wants to, she will call you. If she said that just to shut you up she will not. If YOU call her instead she will pull the same bullshit, tell the same lie to shut you up yet again and you'll be here wondering the same thing in 2 weeks.
Yeah i hear your point but maybe i was forward and clingy to her and when she said i told her that i shouldnt have got like htat so early, but i had a laugh too and friends sounds good :) thats when she said yeah we can be friends and go out together soon and if things change they change. ( ie from not wanting a relationship to now wanting one)
:S :'(
So? Give it up already. You scare me, honestly. It's like you can't take No for an answer even when you've been slapped across the face with ti.
But i havent been told no have i ??
I put across to her too early i wanted a relationship which she dont want so soon obviously because how can you judge that 1 or 2 days after meeting the person, like she said she had a giggle and is up for meeting up soon again and were mates and if things change they change, im seeing it now from the view she was just putting me in my place in a nice way like....hey i dont even no much about you and your already talking about relationships....
Didn't I already explain this?
She didn't want to dive into a relationship too fast but you sure did. Funny- she's smart but you're crazy man.
You know what when a girl likes a boy she will definately call him to hang out. So why can't you just wack off until she calls? Seriously? I don't understand you. You're making every excuse in the book to get me to say it's okay to go ahead call her- AGAIN. (crazy man).
Ya remember now? I've already explained why she didn't say no, she took the easy way out to get you off her back yet you're still leeching onto her. Get a clue man.Quote:
Originally Posted by girl68 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Ok ill wait for her to contact and if she dont after week or two forget her?
But Ill prob get tempted to text her one weekend when im bored lol.
But what if she's thinking if he does like me he will contact me ?
By the way, they made out for heaven's sakes. In my book that screams relationship. Do you really take that sort of physical contact so lightly?
And yeah Barmy, you did it wrong, but that girl comes off as a bit of a slut anyway so don't sweat it. Making out with guys "for giggles"... sheesh.
Yeah, when I said she was stupid or a whore (or a stupid whore), I didn't mean to imply that the OP is not also at fault. As soon as you realized this, you should have stopped your obsessive behavior. She is not good for you, but the way you are dealing with it is unhealthy and inappropriate. I know your feelings can get the best of you, especially if you've been single for so long, but you have to take her off the pedestal. Think rationally.
Yeah true, but on the night am i supposed to be like we need to slow down or something or still do it and see it as a giggle and then make contact with her few days later and then see how she is etc and maybe up for doing it again?
Where on the night i thought yes shes the one, if she dont text me back tomorrow i wont understand and ill start to wonder why she not replying?
I need to be on here wavelength Which is the same for most and go with the flow, enjoy it but don’t think and don’t think to the future with this bird? But ill only chat up girls that I can see having relationship with, looks etc. So obviously if one of these nice girls comes along I get carried away so now im going to settle down, enjoy it laugh it off, go home wake up next day without having a girl I just met on my mind.
Ideally I guess I want her to wake up Sunday morning, thinking oh he was nice last night I like him I wanna text him?
So should i text / rign her next couple of weeks see how she is etc.
I feel that if i see her out and about and not made any contact she will think screw you, but then again i may think the same, why dont i think oh screw you bitch you didint text me or anything.
But if i saw her out, she would be all nice and ill be the mug.
So me just being who i am, nice, so i will drop ehr a tetx just as MATES as she said and just be nice. not expecting anything.
Look, everybody is saying DONT contact her again unless she initiates contact. If you are not going to listen to any advice wtf is the point in asking?!
Girl68 hit the nail on the head with her posts.
Everybody, LISTEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Barmy is an obsessive, and WILL NOT listen to reason!! There is no point in beating this horse, it's been dead for quite some time. BARMY, this woman does NOT want you, period!!!!!!
How do you no she dont want me, my guess now is that she prob aint even thought of it because its early and i jmuped the gun!
I have listend to you and everyone, just i dont see harm in texting her soon week or two see how she is etc? If i get no reply what so ever then ill bun her off. but i still like to have mates
ohhhh sweetheart you are not a girlfriend taker you are the girlfriend repulser.
5 pages late... do you think I should call?
what about after 2 weeks?
maybe she's thinking if I like her I will call?
this is the biggest face palmer thread of all time. you have lost all of your marbles.
Lol your signature is priceless!
Dude, you need help! See a counselor. You won't listen to reason.!!!
I am listening.
My signature is a song sorry, it puts wrong impression out of me
Lisa:Elo pickle how you doing?
Me: Yeah im good thanks, weekend was hectic and pretty messy, what abotu you good weekend?
Lisa:Yeah working 7 days from Tuesday, just went into town and went into every pub and club you ?
I've not text her bakc yet, i dont no what to say next in making things go weel and saying the right thing.
HELP
Check it out... she didn't call you to hit up the pubs and clubs. Take a hint.
well i text her back anyways saying about my weekend and she said we will do something after her 7days of work and to give her a ring then and give her a text soon defo.......
Mmm,......?
Wow dude, you're out of control. Even if you do manage to"play your cards right" it's not going to last f this thread is any indication. Just promise us you won't kill her ok?