my sister is contemplating breaking up with her bf

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Originally Posted by RdHrshyKss [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

the last i talked to my sister, which was the day she broke up with him, she said that he told her he'd give her all the time she needed for space, etc. i think he is grasping onto the hope that she just needs space and will go back to him...i don't know if my sister was trying to be nice and was afraid to tell him the absolute truth about what she wants, or if he is denying the truth about their breakup

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I really, REALLY hope your sister let this guy know there is no "hope" (assuming shes moving on)

I flat out told my ex there is "no chance whatsoever of us getting back together." She was distraught, tried to contact me for about 2 or 3 weeks, and then stopped contact altogether (minus one text message about a month later that I ignored.)

I didn't sugarcoat the break up to her because I am a nice guy... does that make sense?

yeah, although, i don't know if my sister has the mentality that they are NEVER getting back together. she sees a lot of nice qualities in him, qualities she would like in a person she'd ultimately marry, but there were just too many issues right now. he's having issues with money and family, she's having issues and is craving some independence. it was just bad timing. i don't think she's thrown the idea of them completely out the window, she just wants to concentrate on herself right now. and she feels she needs to be single in order to do it so that's what she is doing. i'm sure a part of her doesn't want to let go entirely. they have a lot of mutual friends so i'm sure they will cross paths every now and then.

all these problems, yet it only takes on simple solution. just leave..... and never look back.


raverboy

easier said than done. although i really do think she is trying. she increased her hours at work and is trying to get on top of her finances so that she can move into her own place.