Help my GF has SERIOUS rape fantasies.

I personally think that this is just what she knows. This was the only kind of sex she was having, maybe the only time she ever "finished," and this behaviour was coming from someone who she thought loved her. Most women have a domination/rape fantasy, but it doesn't go nearly this far. She has a lot of issues that she hasn't worked out. You need to show her that she can enjoy sex and that sex can be fun without going this far. I'm not sure she even likes this, but this is what she knows. This is what sex is to her. And this is something that she really needs to work on. And you're going to have to work on it with her if you want to stay with her.

She likes it. You don't. Doesn't mean something is wrong with her. She was probably with the guy that beat her up because she liked it. Believe it or not, that works for some people.

Decide whether or not you're willing to continue the relationship with bad sex for both of you. And hey, I feel your pain. I've been there. I'm all for a lot of roughness but I refuse to hit a girl's face or punch her and I've been with a couple girls that wanted me to, I refused, and eventually ended it 'cuz she just kept trying. I've also broken up with women because they only enjoyed vanilla, missionary sex. It happens.

You have two problems:
1. You two have conflicting sexual turn-ons. In a normal situation you could get over this and compromise, however this comes down to problem two--
2. You're in an abusive relationship. She's putting you down emotionally and trying to control you.

Has she ever wanted to physically/sexually hurt you? It's possible and don't underestimate the power of women. You never know when she'll turn around and want to sexually control you. Be careful my friend because she sounds psychologically not well.

I agree with MarkB's statement. Get her help.

Lol I tell mine to choke and hold me down..

Yeah. I probably would too red_sparrow.

You'd tell her to choke you and hold you down, Ryan? Come on... are you aware of what you're saying?

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You'd tell her to choke you and hold you down, Ryan? Come on... are you aware of what you're saying?

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LOL. Not really my thing actually. I have a very weak throat muscle as it is.

Just for the record people. I actually like gentle sex. Not rough sex.

Get out before its too late

why do women have rape fantasies??? is it in their nature?

Turn it around - if you had a rape fantasy, and she didn't, would it be ok to push her into it?

It's not ok, man. A woman that wants that has serious issues, and what's worse, it's clear that she doesn't think she has the problem - she thinks you do. This tells me she's going to be totally unwilling to see a therapist. Unless you spell it "the rapist".