...would that be directed toward me?Quote:
Originally Posted by jane
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...would that be directed toward me?Quote:
Originally Posted by jane
You know what's so funny Jane? After all these years, I don't really feel guilty about it. Eventhough people tell me how cruel it is, I just don't feel like such a thing. I guess because I'm young and full of independent sex appeal. Perhaps this guilt will take place when I get married and start my own family.Quote:
Originally Posted by jane
NLB.. I feel bad... I do. I think its becuase I want to be married myself and to have someone love me enough to marry me..ya know? Sad isnt it? lol. I didnt feel guilty when it happened.. when it happened.. I was anything but guilty .. but I know what I did was wrong. It just sucks now because I am totally in love with someone who can never be mine. :(
Just reading through this post, and seeing everyone's negative responses towards Jane when she said she 'fooled around' before with a married man and now has feelings for him...I don't know why I felt the need to post and say I am indeed in the same type situation as she finds herself in. And, as bad as some of you might think it is, I too have 'fooled around' with a married man, and now have very strong feelings for him. It kind of hurts to know he'll probably never be mine, as jane said, but that was a chance I took. But none the less, I feel terrible about doing it, but it's not something you can take back.
Anyway....it's something that no one should ever judge another person for doing, especially until they know the whole story and all the circumstances. It's not something I can justify people doing by any means, but it does happen. People develop feelings for a married person and married people develop feelings for someone else.....unfortunately sometimes we just can't help our feelings :sad2:
in certain situations, you can do things to curb your feelings. my father recently left me and my mom because he had an affair, and affairs can most definitely **** up peoples' lives a whole lot.
you may not be able to control your feelings but you CAN control your actions.
This is awful and tragic and believe it or not... this happened to me too. My mom cheated... I am so sorry and you are so right. It really can **** up people's lives ... a whole hell of alot.Quote:
Originally Posted by HastaSiempre
Forgive me HastaSiempre...
Rach... thank you for understanding this situation... and I appreciate someone who knows that this isnt something I planned... nor did I expect to have the feelings I do .. but like you said.. you cant help who you have feelings for.. sometimes it just happens.
HastaSiempre, I know how you feel, and I know it can **** up people's lives...my Dad cheated. I know how hurtful it can be. I feel terrible about having the feelings I do, But I also know I could never act upon them to the point of having sex with him, or being with him if he divorced his wife. I wouldn't be able to live with myself if I broke up or hurt a family the way my Dad did ours.
But, I also know how hard it is to change and/or hide the feelings you get for a person. And as terrible as it is...like Jane said, sometimes it just happens...
you know something guys? I'm starting to feel the guilt now. I'm starting to fall in love with my friend, but she don't know it, and I can't see myself messing somewhere else while she thinks that everything is ok. Seriously, I think I am falling in love????
um... wow... that sounds like love.. but only you know...
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Originally Posted by jane
Yup, pretty much. Nice Lover Boy is willing to settle down for her. Too bad she don't know it. I'm gonna post the info in the Dating Column, I hope you can help me out Jane and every other honest person in this forum.