you dont want her to pity you or she will lose respect for you
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you dont want her to pity you or she will lose respect for you
yeah i know i try to not contact her as much as possible but it turns out whenever she talks to me i will kind of break down, esp if the conversation is going nowhere
does she contact you first?
Yeah she usually either sends me an exclamation mark to attract my attention or simply "how're you today". In fact that stupid msg i sent her was after she did the former but did not follow up my reply. I guess I was nuts as well but today was our get-tog-day, and I really thought for a moment that when my doorbell rang it was her -_- she used to stay with me before finding her own room after graduation..
I'm not sure if I've managed to convince her that I'm not needy tonight (which I actually am), just acted upbeat and stuff to try to put forth the impression that I'm more than fine. She's going to sleep now and asked me to give her the morning call which I suppose indicates that she's slightly missing me or at least not put off by me? I know I can only be patient but considering she used to call me all the time and now it's only occasional texts the disparity is huge - hell it's not even as frequent as when I was courting her (or perhaps its more of the other way round, but that doesn't matter now). We're supposed to meet next weekend but I'm really afraid that time is running out for me to recreate the spark, at the rate this is going.
dont call her.. tahts my recommendation
Won't that show me as irresponsible since I have agreed to?
Hmmm or maybe I'd still call her but after which do not respond to any small talk messages throughout the day. You think?
I dont know... im in the same boat as you different problem same result... but i think if you do everything she wants it shows that shes got you....
I know what you mean... on one hand I have to create this aura of "unavailability" to increase attraction, so to speak; yet on the other it's quite a moral dilemma to play all these games because she is someone I deeply love ultimately...
Thanks for the talk btw Helmet, I'm turning in and hope it will be a good day for us tml :)
Hello, babe. I wrote an essay on how I feel towards you. Here is my essay:
Idiotic cunt.
BYE! :)
you kept nagging me and pissing me off and got me in a bad mood and then when I didn't speak to you, you started to come jump to the conclusions of me not caring about you anymore. NAG NAG NAG is all i got and once you pissed me off you had me cornered and started complaining. I HATE U
it's been a whole month and still here I am at 3:30 in the morning crying cause I miss you. what is wrong with me. why do I still care about you and think about you all the time? I wish I could forget about you and it was as if I never met you
I know that love is not a negotiation, that logic should not play into love - if it did then you and I would never have made any sense but why are you walking away from someone who treated you with complete respect, care and love. After all the terrible relationships we have both been through you would think you would recognize the one you would want to hold onto. Why I thought that I would be the one to change you I don't know - you are completely and utterly an emotionally unavailable commitment phobe. Seek help.
I want to believe that someday you will see the errors in your ways and that someday will come after I have fully moved on but I am scared that it won't come and I won't have moved on. I don't profess to want you to be happy - I want you to feel the sheer panic and terror and hurt that I felt. Most of all I just want the 1.5 years we spent together back and it was as if you and I never existed as a couple. The scars you have put on me will never heal. I am a changed and different person because of you and not in a good way.
): ): ): ):
this is exactly how I feel too! why should the other person get to be happy if they put us through so much pain and heartache? it doesn't seem fair. and I know they say if you truly love someone you want the best for them... but, no hahahaQuote:
Originally Posted by BeingAlpha [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Argh i hate you how can you get through your ****ing conscience to tell me "happy valentines day" thanks to you all my scars are opened up right at this moment it hurts like mother****ing hell
Thanks for calling last night it was good to hear from you, you will be ok, chin up.
Because life isn't fair. No matter what anyone tells you -- some people get dealt a bad hand in life. There are tons of people in much worse situations -- homeless, jobless, without family or any type of support so I count my blessings...spend time doing some volunteer work and the first time a little kid latches on to you because you are the first person to pay them any kind of attention you will understand that not only are things not as bad as you think...but it also helps me to feel like I can give "love" to someone who really needs it.Quote:
Originally Posted by ashley89 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Dear Ex,
Stop texting me asking to get back with me. No, I will not be thinking of taking a sexy little weekend down to yours, so don't hold your breath on that...
I'm sorry you broke up with your on/off girlfriend of 2 years. Perhaps if you had stopped texting me through it all asking me to see you again, that it would have had a better chance. Alas....
I'm also sorry you have the tiniest dick in the world. Probably another reason the above failed.
Have a nice life.
Sorry I shouldn't laugh .... butQuote:
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LMFAO! this is hilariousssss :)Quote:
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FFS! What did you go do that for!
It's bad enough that I know I have to move on because you can't make up your mind about what you want, but the last thing I need right now is you waking me up with a text saying you are thinking about me and you hope I'm ok.
No I'm not farken ok! A perfectly good, loving and wonderful relationship has disintegrated in front of me because you pushed me away, and now your worried about me.
Don't worry about me, just focus on sorting yourself out !!!
And just because I decide I'm not going to text you today because frankly I'm over having to text you just to get any form of contact from you, doesn't mean I've gone off and done something stupid.
Now do me a favour and stamp on your phone
Oh and thanks for thinking about me I was wondering when that might happen
Hey ex, I know it's been awhile since we last talked but I just want to tell you that even though right now I can't stand the fact that you are happily dating another girl who is not only less attractive than me, one day I will be free of you at last
One day I wont think about you and how miserable you made me. One day I'll look back on these times and wonder what the hell I was thinking? I hope you and her are happy because she probably has everything you want and I hope one day we could actually be friends, but if that never happens that's okay. You will just be a bump in the road
why are you such a ****ing psycho? Why are you lieing to yourself? You told me not to play games when in face you did that to me for months!
you can keep all my shit and claim it as your own. it's all small price to pay to be rid of your bullshit. by the way, you'll neve find someone as good as me!
my blanket misses its real owner..
Please stop texting and emailing me, Im trying to move on after you ended it and it's difficult enough as it is, and yes perhaps we can be friends in the future but only when I'm ready. Oh and your new boyfriend is a knob.
lol :evil:Quote:
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I wish I could talk to you. I love you so much and I know you love me. I dont want to let you go. Damn this life that can't let us be together. We are both in so much pain and all I want to do is hold you and tell you things will be ok.
I don't want to have to stop loving you. I don't want you to have to stop loving me. Why does it have to be this way? Why is this the only option, even though we both know it is.
I'm probably going to talk to you a lot here becuase I'm going insane not being able to talk to you for real. This probably won't help the healing process but right now I don't care.
I love you, I miss you, I'm dying without you, I can't let go.
Thanks for the year and a half we spent together, possibly the best year and half of my life. I will never understand how you can say you love me before you broke up with me, must be lies! Also you don't know I know this but hope going back to your cheating ex made you happy, it didn't last very long did/will it?? I would of done anything for you, spent my year and a half running around after you, treating you amazing, buying nice things and taking you to nice places. Them memories will stay with me forever and some of them places I will never be able to go again because if I did I would have a break down. Thanks alot.
I am trying my best to put as much distance between me and you as possible..because I just want to move on. I know that you and I would never have made it, I believe you will never make it with anyone due to the way you are. You are always thinking something is missing about everything in your life: where you live, where you work, your life in general -- being part of that mayhem is not fun in the slightest. If I could predict the future I see you divorced...because you will have married for all the wrong reasons and rejected the guys that would be truly great companions, friends, etc.. Your lesson to learn...hell I honestly believe we would have ended up divorced...
Please change your ways or stop dating...no one deserves to go through the hell of dating you.
Hi sweetie,
Its been almost a week now. I know that I mess up our relationship. I didn't pay enough attention to you when you were feeling lonely or stressed, and I'm sorry. I really love you. You are my family, and like I said to you on our first day. I don't care how you look or what kind of person you were. I will always love you the way you are. please forgive me.
I dont understand why you called me last night.You wanted to check on me and see how i was doing?????....I wasnt good enough to be your girlfriend, but you want to be friends?
I miss u, but i have to let go. I hate i openned my heart up to you. I never give my heart to anyone
I was right all along. you lied to me
I hate that i cant stop thinking about you and i cant stop thinking about not wanting you at the same time. I know we said this was a mutual idea, but its not. This was your fault. Im going to get someone better just to spite you
i really loved you and you cheated on me, you lied to me. you strung me along for months telling me you loved me then pushing me away again. when we got back together you put no effort into showing me you cared and you made me hate myself. you slept with someone i thought was my friend, and someone who had the indecency to come up and tell me he ****ed you in a bar surrounded by my friends. i doubt you'll never know how i feel, and even now 6 months on i forgive you and love you. however i have too much self respect to talk to you, and im sorry but theres no way in hell i can be around someone i love so much who doesn't care or want me back....
you wound up being a real ****ing bitch... i hope you die in a car wreck
Hi Sweetie,
Sorry for everything that i did to hurt you, made you feel lonely. I love you. I hope you will forgive me, and give me another chance to speak to you again. until you open up to me again, please take care of yourself.
Why did you have sex with her? Why didn't you say anything when I broke my leg? Why can you be an ass and life go so awesome for you while my just keeps sending me setbacks?
Your friend is the only thing that is helping me through this crap time, and you are ruining that too. Why should you get a say? You broke up with me when I needed you the most.
How can you live your life without even thinking about me? I want to know so I can do the same.