Ya because I don't have a penis giving me directions lol!Quote:
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Ya because I don't have a penis giving me directions lol!Quote:
Originally Posted by CAM [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
My penis doesn't give me directions :)Quote:
Originally Posted by smackie9 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Woman #2 is a lot more responsive than Woman #1. My sense is that she's a warmer person. Everyone is different, I suppose.
#2 is the obvious winner, Cam. You're having to work too hard for #1 and that's tiring at our age. Skip the games, its not your style anyway.
I was thinking the same thing this morning. #2 is definitely more affectionate. She's just a warm person. Another thing: very bright, but has interests outside of her work to which she is committed. A good scientist, but an artist, too. That's not to say that she has any free time during the week--she works very hard. Truth be told, I don't have any time during the week either.Quote:
Originally Posted by IndiReloaded [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
If out of two, I find one...well, that is all that matters!
#2...all signs point to her being the "winner" (as Indi put it). We're going to get together this coming week. I said I'd come up with some plans and get back to her. I just got a text message saying that she's been thinking about some things we could do, events, etc. A very good sign...she's enthusiastic.
Is #2 the Asian one?
She is from Northern Japan.Quote:
Originally Posted by searock [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
not a lot of people know this, but tiger woods mother is also a chinkey. something to talk about with your date if the convo dries up.Quote:
Originally Posted by CAM [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
your welcome
i don't think you should get too attached yet. i would keep dating both of them. sometimes it's nice i n the beginning and then you find out something that you really don't like and then it gets weird.
and sometimes things go slow for a little while and then you find out something intriguing and makes you like them more and feelings develop.
and the kitchen thing. i would freak the **** out if somebody i just met started masturbating with my silver wear.
I agree. I still have a scheduled date with Woman #1 the week after next. I'm maintaining contact.Quote:
Originally Posted by misombra [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
That was the ex-gf...nobody current would do that! Yeah, she was a weird one. No doubt. That kitchenware was thoroughly washed with bleach and then run through the dishwasher twice (on the sterilize cycle). It is now at the bottom of my silverware drawer until I stop associating it with being in her body. Yuck. I could tell you more stories that would make the Silverware Incident seem pretty tame, but I don't want to become the Uncle Remus of Abnormal Sex.Quote:
Originally Posted by misombra [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
The ironic thing...I will likely never have that much wild untamed sex ever again. There wasn't a room in my condo that wasn't defiled in some way. Took me a long time to stop remembering everything. Now, I get the feeling that things will migrate towards 20 minutes of Middle Class Missionary followed by the Evening News. Big yawn.
Thanks. Yes, I knew about Woods. He calls himself "Cablinasian" (Caucasian, Black, and Asian). I think I'll avoid using your word, "chinkey" though...might make her feel like I'm bigoted or something.....Quote:
Originally Posted by iamaninnocentma [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Well Cam, now that you've gotten the equivalent of 'mid-life crisis sex' out of your system, hopefully you can move on to someone emotionally healthy. Also, I can assure you that its not a choice between what you experienced w/your ex, and missionary for the rest of your life. There are women who are intelligent and responsible, with a good value system, who are also attractive and able to cut loose regarding sex in a loving relationship. It seems to me this is what you are looking for. Don't give up on finding this; it exists. You aren't asking for too much. Best, Indi.Quote:
The ironic thing...I will likely never have that much wild untamed sex ever again. There wasn't a room in my condo that wasn't defiled in some way. Took me a long time to stop remembering everything. Now, I get the feeling that things will migrate towards 20 minutes of Middle Class Missionary followed by the Evening News. Big yawn.
Thanks for the encouraging words :)Quote:
Originally Posted by IndiReloaded [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
its not eally bigoted to call an asian a chinkey, so dnt worry. its just like calling a french a frog or an american a yank or a german a nazi. i doubt she will take offence, but dont call her slantey eyes whatever you do. ive still got a death warrant on my head from the local chinese restaurant owner for callin him that. and those fckrs can go bruce lee on your ass.Quote:
Originally Posted by CAM [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Referring to an Asian as a "chinkey" (your word) is highly insulting and would/should lead to a resounding ass-kicking.Quote:
Originally Posted by iamaninnocentma [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Referring to an American as a "yank" is not the same as calling a German a "Nazi" (again, your term)...many Germans were not members of nor were they supporters of the Nazi Party. All that clapping and cheering when the leaders went by...it was either that or get shot. Same thing happened in USSR...of course, there you might get shot even if you were cheering the leaders.
It is just as annoying when I go overseas and people refer to Bush or Obama or whomever...as "your president" as if I'm a huge fan of these people. One sits there and smiles and nods while the rile away as if I represented the political class in the US.
Referring to the French as...whatever. This doesn't bother me...after all, if were not for the US, Canada and the British etc., the French would have been Germans long ago...two times we saved their collective ass. Charlemagne should not have divided his empire among his sons.
BTW: The Asian reference you make is racial...not quite the same thing as the US or French references which are cultural...and the German, which is political.
I see that CAM has had the sense of humour bypass operation.Quote:
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This actually made me smile. Cam, you are awesome, carry on.Quote:
Originally Posted by CAM [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Indi--thanks :)
I will continue to date both of them because...well, modern dating is very interesting, particularly when it involves busy professionals. Weekdays are generally "out." In fact much of the week involves little to no communication. Towards the end of the week, emails and texts. With a high degree of statistical certainty, I am confident that both of them are not "looking around." So, there is a very high probability that both of them are "with me" for the time being. Don't ask how I know, but I know. Nevertheless, the busy nature of everyone's lives...things operate in slow motion, one makes plans to get together in a week or two, based on busy calendars. The long and the short is that there is no reason to make any decisions...just have a good time with both of them.
Oh dear thats a very wrong move!!
Youre not joking. Hes not been seen since.Quote:
Originally Posted by prettygirl [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I'm still around, although rarely have time to visit LF....
Two months later...still seeing both women. One is a very hard worker, and I see her less frequently. The other one works hard, but makes time to be with me and she is more demonstrative in her affection towards me. The former might end up a friend since we've have had great times together, but not even come close to "first base." There's just an emotional wall there--she's a very sensitive woman who doesn't want to make a mistake in life. The latter woman waved me over to "second base." I'm a better kisser than her, but she's learning and I let her take the lead in French kissing...makes her feel a bit empowered!! LOL
I'm keeping an open mind--I'm not in love, I'm "in like" at the moment. I have no intention of trying for home plate. They are both nice. I think the latter woman actually likes me more and I find that I like her, too. She's direct, smart, nice, the right height for me, and she's cute (personality and otherwise).
Whatever else they are in my life, they are a very refreshing change from my ex-gf.
That's creepy.Quote:
Originally Posted by CAM [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Anyway, does the first woman know that you aren't interested in anything romantic with her? And does the second woman know you are seeing the first one, albeit platonically? I'm only asking because after 2 months, I would definitely want to know if the guy I'm dating is dating someone else too.
The second woman and I went to third base. She may/may not remain in town for longer than a year, but everything is very "up in the air" in her life. The first woman is very devoted to her work and doesn't have any time.Quote:
Originally Posted by searock [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
So, continue to date the second woman and see if things develop emotionally. Otherwise, "just keep on trucking" (as we used to say in the old days...used to be a saying written on the mudflaps of trucks).
So, I'm only dating one now. The first woman is just not going to work out and that's fine. It will also ease your minds, I think. As soon as I sensed that the second woman was more my type, then I've cooled my jets. :)
So basically second woman has been dating you for 2 months without knowing you were dating another woman in the meanwhile (I'm assuming this is the situation based on the fact that you avoided to answer my direct question - I might be mistaken in my assumption). Nice way to start a relationship! Anyway, good for you for finally dating just one.
The direct response is--they didn't know about one another (i.e., the two women). They didn't need to know. It was early days--once a week being taken out to nice places or to do nice things. Everything was Platonic for two months.
This is exactly what makes you repulsive and disgusting. You're like a 40-year-old doppel.Quote:
Originally Posted by CAM [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Your comment is lost on me. A 40-year old "double?" Maybe your comment got lost in translation from git to English, huh?Quote:
Originally Posted by KingZ [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Doppel:
A secondary posting identity of a regular poster on an internet message board. A poster may develop several different doppels using different email addresses in order to troll and make comments that he wouldn't make when using his primary username.
I was referring to doppelgaenger: [url]http://www.loveforum.net/members/15495-doppelgaenger[/url]
He's in hell now.
Technically, this thread should be called "dating one woman" now.
Meaning that he is physically deceased and you know that he has descended into the Abyss? Or, does it mean that he is in your personal Hell? (as in "hell is other people") Either way, pretty big of you to take on the role of St Peter, huh?Quote:
Originally Posted by KingZ [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
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Originally Posted by iamaninnocentma [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
LOL....Very true.
I've been getting my coffee from two places lately: the organic shop on campus and [gasp] the local Tim Hortons. I'm so ashamed my lips have touched both their cups. I'm such a coffee whore. Neither of them knows about the other, tho I've been worried they might recognize the bean essence of the other on my breath (and my pants if I spill it). :( Maybe now I'm up to frapaccinos with the latter (and like them better), I should probably stop visiting the former.
Cam, if you were sleeping with them both (or having sex) I'd call you a pig. But these days, caveat emptor. I'm glad you found one you like.
Well, a caffeinated coffee will immediately recognize decaf on your breath...so beware... And, avoid using cream...the coffees can always smell cream. I suggest a cream substitute...harder to detect. I hope that you haven't given either of them a rim job...a coffee cup rim job, that is. If you have, I would oink ...but these days, caveat emptor.... LOLQuote:
Originally Posted by IndiReloaded [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Have not slept with either of them. The goal here was to find a compatible person...not to add another notch to the gunbelt. In fact you'd be proud of me, us. The woman I am with now let me get to third base and made homeplate an option. I started to go there, but then said: "Do you want to wait? I would like to." She said she wanted to wait, too.
Do you want to wait? wtfQuote:
Originally Posted by CAM [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Stop watching dawsons creek and get in there before she gets pumped by a real man. Although, tbf im not sure what 3rd base and homeplate is. Stop naming womans bits after baseball terms. It confuses us europeans.
What a ****ing idiot. Sexual compatibility is pretty bloody important. Or did you not know that. Imaginine this excellent scenario. YOu keep on dating. You keep your dick in your pants waiting for that ever so special moment. Then you **** each other and realise that sexually you're going nowhere. Just how great would that be?
I am a real man.Quote:
Originally Posted by iamaninnocentma [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Sexual compatibility is important, but everything I've seen thus far says that we'll be fine. She's sensual, she's a good kisser. And as was discussed elsewhere...really, how bad can sex be? Seriously. The most boring sex I've had was certainly not horrible. Why are people so obsessed with 'sexual compatibiltiy'? If I discovered that her orifice is sewn shut, then okay...that might be a problem.
As a society, we are not obsessed with other forms of compatibility, which would be better issues of focus...like my friends who married raving feminists, but as they say to me "Well, she's hard to live with, but the sex is GREAT!" Wonderful...they got their gals, huh? And this of course contributes to the stereotype of men...as long as they get laid, their women can pretty much walk over them. That isn't being a "real man," is it? That's not even being a self-respecting human being....
Home plate is sex. Third base is you are doing everything but sex. A reference to stages, not to "a woman's bits" as you might put it. We will have sex soon enough, but it makes sense to take it at a reasonable pace--after all we've only gone out 7 or 8 times.
CAM has said before that he doesn't really care if he ever has sex, so I am guessing it's not so important to him.Quote:
Originally Posted by Boisdevie [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]