i hope it turns out ok too... it will kill me if it disolves into an arguement... i just want to talk to him like a normal person
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i hope it turns out ok too... it will kill me if it disolves into an arguement... i just want to talk to him like a normal person
I know exactly what you are going through, buzz bee. My ex and I broke up, because he found someone else while we were still dating. He told me that he would come back for me, we'll get married, I was the only girl he cared about. He said he did not want to be brought down by a woman, and no girl was going to be his "woman". He claims wanted to "play the field." I believed him, not because he was telling the truth, but because I held onto that hope that he would come back for me when he was done dating other girls. I really wanted to believe that he really did not want to be tied down. The truth is, he's not coming back. When he said "I don't want a girlfriend", he meant "I don't want you as a girlfriend." It took me a couple months to realize this, and still to this day I have a very faint glimmer of hope that he was telling the truth, but in all reality it's a crock. He just didn't want me to get upset, because I have quite the temper lol (As evidenced when I caught him cheating) He's moved on, is dating some girl now. It's not his "girlfriend". He sure does take her out alot, though, for being "just friends." Bottom line, I know this is hard, but you have to move on. I'm trying my hardest to move on, it's very difficult. Sometimes when I think about him, my eyes well up. I'll pass a place that we went together and I am reminded of him. It sucks, but everyday is a little better. The best way to heal is to stop contacting him for a while. Trust me, this really works. When we first broke up, I called him ALL the time, but I finally realized that it just makes for more pain. After the first of not calling him, it got easier, but then he would call and the cycle would start over. Your ex is going to call you during the N/C but you have to BE STRONG! Don't answer the phone if you have to. The more you keep him in your life at this time, the more it's going to hurt.
Cowgirl, thats good advice, painful but i guess true. My ex said all those things. uno that wed get married, he just dont want a girlfriend but your right he just didnt want me, adnt to be honest if these guys are too dum to see a great girl infront ofthem then they deserve all the rubbishthey get. No contact is the best way forward, when he txs i dotn even reply. because what will i gain from it? a cry? lol I think we all have to accept that even though they were the loves of our lives at the time we will move on and we will love again. I cant wait for that day! x
yep thats what i have to do now too, this weekend couldnt of gone any worse... its time to move on, painful as it may be.... he now basically doesnt even want to talk to me anymore.... dont think that no contact will get him contacting me somehow....
thanks to everyone for giving me support and advice on what to do... now its time to move on with my life... hes never going to come back to me, he prolly just about hates me these days and i have to stop torturing myself thinking that it will all get better when it obviously will not.... hes out drinking every nite and im at home mopeing around hopeing he will realise he still lvoes me... it isnt going to happen!!
thanks to thoes who have tried to help, this one is out of my hands and out of my control, there is nothing i can do to make him change his mind about me
i jsut cant do this guys... i miss him so much i dont know how to cope with all this - i thought i was doing better but im not - i wanna call him, see him, text him but i cant cos it only pushes he further away.... i dont know how to deal and how to leave him alone ..... its not gonig to bring him back to me that much he has made clear....... i dont know how to do this HELP
Yikes! You are scaring me!
im scaring me - i love this guy and i screwed up so badly hes never going to want anything to do with me again - saying we can try again in a few years, saying that this attraction and connection is always going to be there between up is all crap - no one has a few years apart then decides to try again
Darling, maybe HE doesn't have the "attraction and connection" for YOU anymore. This is not all about YOU. His feelings are as important as yours. Move on. Watch the movie "Fatal Attraction". You are starting to remind me of Glen Close.
my friend always tell me this.. put your foot down. and stay there..Quote:
Originally Posted by buzz bee
just forget it.... no one in this forum can tell me what he is going to do - no one in this forum knows our history... thanks anyways but no one can give me an answer to this, its time that will be the decider
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Originally Posted by buzz bee
Yes, it's really our time to be the decider..do what you want...
yup.... eventually no mater how much it hurts youve just got to let go.... and hopefully if he ever comes crawling back to me ill be in a place where i can say - you where never any good for me and i dont want to risk my heart with you again - its hard, but i suppose with time it will get easier, as long as i dont have to see him - hes already dating other people - 6 weeks after we finished so if i ment so little to him its time i started to get over him - hes never coming back it was all just a bullshit line to try and let me down easier
pain is a friend buzz bee ,
keeps us awake in life
Hussain
dont worry pain is one thing im not short on at the moment.... its something hes not feeling