When I treat them not differently, I still get no response.
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When I treat them not differently, I still get no response.
Oh... and I've been resisting since I saw this thread... Forgive me.
Of course you're a fungi. :D
Dude, stop being so shy. Just be your own self. Some girls like quiet but amazing guys.
It isn't really shy. I literally don't have the mental pathways to talk to a girl; the words don't formulate properly in my mind in a way that a girl would understand and be interested in. It's like I don't have the aptitude for it. It's not even that I'm not an interesting person; my life is truly fascinating. But it doesn't help in any way whatsoever with girls; it doesn't help me text better or send a good first message. It doesn't send signals to my brain to go in for the kiss or hold a girl's hand. It just isn't there, for some reason..I once kinda had it. That was 5 years ago. Never been close since (except once, when I almost got a BJ).
LR. You are awesome, really and no BS. Saw your pic, btw. You are a real cutie. Maybe get some more hip (less bottle-sized) specs or contacts but you are a handsome, intelligent young man. Lots going for you.
Be wholehearted--do you understand my reference? A simple 'yes, mom' will do. If not, do your damned homework.
Yeah; I guess as a writer, I might make a good contributor to...I dunno yet. But maybe I just ain't BF material.
Is "Be wholehearted" from GNC?Quote:
Originally Posted by IndiReloaded [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
To be honest, it's not just about pointing out the attitude problem. It's also the broad insults to my gender such as "This experience just proves good looking chicks aren't ever earnest. They're all a buncha game-playing bitches."Quote:
Originally Posted by HeartIsAching [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
LR, you may have noticed that I've said nothing bad to you for a while (until yesterday). That was because, for a change, you were being respectful of others. And it wasn't unpleasant to have you around. But then you go and broadly insult every good looking girl of my gender. Being a female and good looking in my hey-day, your insult includes me. And when I'm offended, I pay it back. So if you don't want to have me paying it back, I suggest you stop the broad insults in the first place.
In short if you can't take the heat, get out of the kitchen. But don't go all whiney when I return the insults you dish out.
Eh, I guess what I said out of frustration just proves I should aim WAY lower. That way, instead of bashing a gender, I can just express my disappointment in having a partner I don't like whatsoever. Seems more fair.
I started off believing, doing what you guys said...Now I just want to blow my brains out.My stupid brain just doesn't work normally.
The PM I sent. Did you do your homework?Quote:
Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Consistency, kiddo. That's the ticket. We all struggle with it, btw. I'm procrastinating like the best of them this morning.Quote:
Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Thanks for the help. It just seems I lack the aptitude for it so I'm thinking of just quitting.. I don't really hold much hope for all the meetups I've got planned, either. I guess all I really need is anti-depressants and things to keep myself busy.
No your brain does not work normally. I can honestly say I've never seen such a spray of vitriol over something as relatively minor as a delayed text. And even if she WAS playing games, it still deserves nothing more significant than a roll of the eyes and a "next" on your part. That level of outburst should be reserved for being cheated on.Quote:
Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Also, being frustrated is no excuse for being obnoxious. How will you manage to maintain a relationship if this is how you behave when frustrated/confused? You really need to learn to control this temper of yours...and especially to not sweat the small stuff.
Have you re-booked that psychologist yet?
Well, I'm not just thinking for myself: the other guys like me being abused by attractive women who exploit their looks to violate societal conventions. Cases like this girl just prove that attractive girls are as generalized; rarely do homely girls act in this fashion. Besides, I'm in no position to just shrug off a tease: I get extremely few, limited opportunities. If I don't take advantage of one, it could pretty much be my last.
Lol and speak of the devil, I got a text from her a half hour ago. LOL....Even more hilarious, NO mention of why my call was "missed" nor my text "missed"...Every other human being Ive ever met has always asked for a pardon. NOT THIS ONE. And anyway, as re: frustration, it would be a lot easier to handle in a relationship: what I don't like at all is finally having cause to get excited and then it goes abominably such as in this instance. That's the worst thing of all, like Providence putting a million dollar bill on a string and...well, you know the trick.
Nope. Didn't think I was going to need a psychologist, since I'd already had visions of going on a date. Boy, was that misguided.
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Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
You're proving it spewing that bs ^^^^Quote:
Maybe I'm just not a fun guy
Lol. I think that baby would have better luck than I...
ahaa.. you saw that before I deleted it. Good. That's you, dude.. not "that baby"
Whatchu talkin' 'bout?Quote:
Originally Posted by Wakeup [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Go back and read what I quoted. You're proving you're not a fun guy. Fun guys don't keep spewing that crap about themselves every chance they get. You are NOT a fun guy. I believe you.
If she is rude then call her out on it. Just tell her ... "Thanks for the text. But I assumed since I didn't hear back from you that you were uninterested. Wishing you all the best in your search. Cheers." Who knows? Maybe she laughs at you for a fool or maybe... noone has called her on her rudeness and she apologizes.Quote:
Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
You don't want to deal with anyone who starts out your interactions being rude. It never improves.
Good point. I'm going to use that right now.
Don't lower your standards, LR. I mean it. You don't want to be with the wrong girl when the right girl comes along.
Eh, I'll just take whatever I can get. Any girl who likes me, I like by default.
Oh hell no.Quote:
Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Trust me on this - being with "Mrs. Right Now" when "Mrs. Right" shows up SUUUUUUUUUUUUUCKS."
Lol. Yeah, those are true. But that's predicated on there being a "Mrs. Right"...Frankly, I don't even have or could get a "Mrs. Right Now", anyway. High school stalker is God knows where, and the girls I know like(d) me are all taken, some even married!
LR if trying to date one girl online gets you in a state like this, you do need psychological help. Thing is, it's your psychological state which prevents you finding a girl - the lack of a girl isn't causing your psychological state.Quote:
Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
This isn't my normal reaction; then again, this ain't a usual situation. She had the looks of a dream come true. Those are the ones that sting the most. And well, at least I know it isn't genetics to blame (she said I was "handsome"). It's just my stupid brain can't function in dating or social situations,
1. There is a "Mrs. Right" out there for you. I'd wager that most of the divorce rate out there is caused by "settling for what you've got". It solves nothing, it just postpones the inevitable breakup, wasting time, money and emotional health.Quote:
Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
2. There's nothing wrong with wasting time with Mrs. Right Now for "right now", but don't settle for her. Be ready to jump if it's bad, or if the right one comes along.
So I learned that all the girls who talk about "nice guys" really just want to be objectified. They like the rough, slick d-bags just as much as the others. Apparently, I'm too ****ing nice so if I ever start messaging girls again, I should be sure to drop the usual pet names: "Hey babe, I like your tits. You know you like that compliment so enjoy it, woman,"
There you go generalizing again.
Wrongly (as usual), too. Do that shit and the only responses you get will be angry.
I'd get responses? That would be ironic..almost hilarious, too.
and this ^^ is why you need a psychologist. Your comments are so inaccurate as to be laughable. Seriously, you need help getting a handle on realityQuote:
Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
It can't be too far from reality (albeit perhaps lacking in subtlety). I have a profile that even HIA has approved of, photos that look decent...but when I send NICE messages that reflect interest, I get jack shit. Ignored. Ignored. Ignored. Ignored. Ignored. That really wears one down. Not that you, HIA, Wakeup, Indi, PCmaster, Alphyn or any of you really understand what it's like to get rejected like this..
I'm reliably told that most guys send many many messages in the hope that a few pay off. Why would you expect a different outcome to them? Sense of entitlement Much?Quote:
Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I only message those I have common interests with. So with a probabilistic, very choice criteria it seems like I should do better than indicated.
Are all the girls you message decent looking? If so, they'll be getting dozens of messages to sort through along with yours. This is why you have to message so many
You're selective - so are they, and they've got the keys to the kingdom. You are in competition with every other male (douchebag or otherwise) that's also messaging them.
Use the shotgun effect. Mass emails, some will hit the mark.
Mass emails, but tweak each one to fit the person you're contacting. Same as how you tweak your resume for each job you apply for
Edited to add: And all those guys you're in competition with won't see themselves as victims and give up when they get no reply....they'll keep working at it and end up successful.
Don't lower your standards! Never accept a girl who doesn't think that by marrying you she is getting the best man in the whole world. I wouldn't marry any guy who didn't think that by marrying me he was getting the best girl in the whole world...nor one whom I did not think that same thing of.
Much luck!
But its not you, LR. So, by default, you will not attract someone compatible.Quote:
Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I will say it again: Be Wholehearted. Did you watch Brown's video? You aren't letting go and people can sense this about you. *That's* what is holding you back. God, I wish I could post to you how my online dating messages went. My SO is not the classic ladies man, but damn, he's a go-getter when he knows what he wants. Not slick, not fearless, just himself. THAT is attractive, LR.
Life is so short, LR. You have no idea how much time you waste. I wish I had a flamethrower... I want to set you on fire, kid.
The very existence of flamethrowers proves that some time, somewhere, someone said to themselves, "You know, I want to set those people over there on fire, but I'm just not close enough to get the job done." -- George Carlin