Since when do you get to tell people what they can and can't post here? Did Cerby die and make you the new Sheriff?
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Since when do you get to tell people what they can and can't post here? Did Cerby die and make you the new Sheriff?
im not saying what people can and cant post here. im disagreeing with wakeups dog with a bone attempt to prove her point. heard you the first time. and i disagree that the OP needs a lecture. were responding to her thread for her benefit. not the others that need a biology lesson. the issue is shes pregnant and wants advice on what to do now. we should focus on that
.. lol ... I responded to you, you responded to me i responded back and you responded again. If there's any dogs on a bone here its US on the bone, not just me. Kindly stop telling me what I should and shouldn't be focusing on and what is and isn't my job when it comes to what I post.
this is a very heavy subject, I can understand why you are struggling with this decision. I can only offer you advice based on my own situation. I am a single mother. I was in a very happy relationship when I got pregnant with my son, so never had a doubt to keep him. But I wasn't where I wanted to be in life, and it turned out that my then partner and I did not work out as a couple. Life is very difficult now, it feels like a constant uphill struggle to get where I want to be career wise and the prospect of finding a new relationship seems impossible to me. However, knowing everything I know, I wouldn't give up my son and how I've got here for the world. And as hard as life is, I know I'll get all I want out of life eventually if I just stay focused and strong. My son gives me joy that I never knew existed before. He is my world and worth more than everything else I could have put together.
I have also had one abortion. It was not an easy decision to make, I changed my mind several times. I chose abortion, and hated myself for months. But I know it was the right decision and now have no regrets (except for getting pregnant in the first place).
Whatever you decide to do, you have to remember that it's your decision to make. You have to know that life goes on and you will cope. You will get where you want in life with determination, whether it be with a child or not. It is amazing what you can get through if you stay strong and have a good support network.
Good luck, and be confident in your own feelings and abilities. Whatever the outcome, you will learn so much from this. It will make you stronger.
i was responding in general as every time this topic comes up-some people are very quick to judge and i dont think its fair to judge someone for something natural like pregnancy.
you took it as a personal attack and got defensive with me when it wasnt aimed at you at all..
You can call me a C if you want and I won't care. I don't take any insults personally from people I don't know or even care about for that matter and I didn't take this personally.. You're a stranger who doesn't know me personally so why would I? I've told you before I will debate my point of view. Just don't tell me what and what not to post. Telling people (not me in particular) to stop making someone feel bad when no one has been trying to do any such thing is what started all this.
I don't judge the fact she's pregnant. Pregnancy is not a shame. What is the shame is she doesn't want this baby that she didn't protect herself from having. If she did want this baby, this thread asking for suggestions on what she should do wouldn't even exist and she'd be happily gestating as we speak. So education is not a judgement if she or anyone reading this that doesn't know about it has unprotected sex with someone in the future and she doesn't want a baby then hopefully she'll go to her pharmacist and get the morning after pill, take it and not have to make such decisions.
Her situation is not unique and its never a bad thing to discuss it the topic in general so that hopefully it will open some eyes. This topic will always be a heated one. Always has been.
I don't think Op even knew about the morning after pill. If her parents or her school had told her about it, she could have avoided having to make any kind of decision concerning whether or not to have this baby. Its what everyone who has been overtaken by the moment and not protected themselves should take if they're not ready to have a child or those where the rubber broke should take it if they're not ready.
yes and when i made that post it was aimed at some of the males who were v quick to judge her-not at you.
i dont think any man can judge a pregnant girl cause hell never no how vulnerable and terrified she feels . especially at the thought of being left alone with a newborn.
Yes, would you like to start the entire debate over again because that's what you're doing with that ^^^ post or are you going to let it go now that we've both exhausted our points of view?
Right... because we're not intelligent beings with empathy. We couldn't possibly understand. We're just too stupid.Quote:
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