revenge yes or no?

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Originally Posted by avine [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Thats a fair way of looking at it i guess you are right i should not have been at all surprised. I guess i just got fooled by the talk and fake qualities he had displayed at the start. Stupid of me i know but we live and learn. And reading diverse opinions has been really helpful to regain perspective lost in emotional mess.

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Im glad youve lived and learned from this situation, im sorry it had to be the hard way. Sometimes we think just because he's nice and we get along well, that he's the guy for us. But looking at a mans actions are really important.. It shows his character that he is cheating. Sometimes women need to look beyond what is in their face to find out who a guy really is. Make sure a guy has good family morals, no bad criminal history, etc. even if he's a great guy I gurantee if he has something not right going on in his life, he will screw u later and true colors will come out. You will feel much better in a couple weeks or months depending on how deep your feelings were. Goodluck I hope u find a good man next time

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Originally Posted by avine [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

i have always been honest with him and expected same in return. In the light of current events clearly that was unrealistic.

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LOL.... You're dating a cheat, what the F did you expect ? You were always going to be "just another brick in the wall "....
I can't understand why people do this and expect a peaches and cream outcome.

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Originally Posted by rafterman [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I can't understand why people do this and expect a peaches and cream outcome.

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Idiocy and ignorance of obvious facts is the answer to that one. Lesson learnt :)

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Originally Posted by avine [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

It was never dating, it was just a physical encounters which then got complicated due to the lies he told, i never wanted anything more from him but he told all sorts of unrealistic things, like using the L weord or talking about leaving his wife which i clearly said i didnt want.

I would like to be able to tell her just for her info but i still work with t@his man so it would probably result in an even more uncomfortable situation plus no doubt he would then retaliate against me.

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At that time he probably did honestly feel that way, but that is what infatuation does to people. That's all it is..TALK, and should never be taken as valid promises, even in genuine relationships. Since you were the instigator, I have a strong feeling this was his first time and didn't know how to handle it. And like a rookie, he got in too deep.....you should have seen that. I bet money on it his wife did find out or at least suspects, that's why he totally cut you off in a hurry. This had nothing to do with you personally or him being childish.....he got busted. So it's looking like karma is taking care of things.

Thanks also insightful, you are right one should only ever listen to actions as they speak louder than any words ever could. Thanks for saying ij wasnt me at the start i was quite troubled that it was due to some defect of mine, maybe i didn't say the right thing or act the right way, the usual ridiculous way we torture ourselves when we are denied and in pain.