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lol ^^^
Did you forget you said this:You're being taken for a ride.Quote:
I just don't want a guy who's ambivalent about me. Who might, maybe, propose in 5 years if he's feeling like it & no better options are around. A guy who would much rather lose me now than propose within the next years, because that's how special he thinks I am.
You were already living together and then said in two different posts that neither of you even really believe it's OK to live together based on on your religious beliefs.......... lol what a joke. That's what I mean by hypocritical.Quote:
Originally Posted by Roses919191 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I get that I was being too pushy and now he feels resentful, how do I fix it? By moving out & giving his space back? I mean he still takes all my phone calls & said "sounds good" when I said we could date & live separately, so does he just need time to get over the argument? When he was really mad he said out of anger "I don't love you" And slept at a hotel 1 night but that was only once now he sleeps in bed with me. He said the decision is mine to make about whether to keep dating but I just want him to be less distant and happy with me again
How about just shut the f up for the next 5 years about marriage and babies and you will be fine....that's all he wants....some peace and quiet.
Ok so if I say "I respect that you want some space" and move out, it might actually improve our relationship?Quote:
Originally Posted by smackie9 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
OMG. Stop settling for someone who clearly is just stringing you along. His parents. I ask again, have you even met them? You shutting the fvck up will do nothing to make him want to marry you in the future.
"Date and live separately?" You're setting yourself up for a fall. If he wanted to marry you then he'd at least be engaged to you and give you a ring and a time and date five years from now as a wedding date.
Stop being a desperate ninny.
Frankly I think you're his "right now" go to chick and his parents have him lined up to marry someone else when his career has been established.
He said since he hasn't even gone home to his family in 11 years, when he finally does it should be alone because otherwise it'd be a slap in the face to them if he hasn't spent time with them in over a decade and when he finally does, he brings a girl.
His last girlfriend, they had lots of fun together for 3 years, but then he dumped her because she wanted to get engaged and he just fought with Her about it
If you are so desperate to get married, why don't you just leave? He's not holding you hostage. You're the one who has trouble letting go and yet your pushing this poor guy to do what YOU want.
Leave him be and find someone else.
Whats your point ffs? The guy is not going to marry anyone except when he goes home and his bride that has been hand picked by his parents is waiting for him.Quote:
Originally Posted by Roses919191 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
He told me he will be up for getting married in 5 years when his training is done. Said he can't get engaged because he doesn't believe in long engagementsQuote:
Originally Posted by Wakeup [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
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He told me he will be up for getting married in 5 years when his training is done. Said he can't get engaged because he doesn't believe in long engagementsQuote:
Originally Posted by Wakeup [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
lmao...
Tell us, do his parents even know about you or are you a secret to anyone who is of importance to him?
I think he'll love me if I just figure out how to be independent enough for him. So will moving out work? If he didn't want to date anymore, when I suggested moving out and still dating he wouldn't have said "sounds good." And he answers all my phone calls, isn't like demanding that I leave his apt in any time frame (my name isn't on the lease)... If he were done with me, he could've done those things
There's more to the story than you are telling us. You started very strong on this thread, either the guy proposes to you or you will leave. Now, you have the smell of a desperate woman who would do anything, including kiss and lick your man's ass to get him back.
Why don't you give us the real scoop here?
Yes it's very possible....and I suggest you date others while you are at it.Quote:
Originally Posted by Roses919191 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
ONCE AGAIN:Quote:
Originally Posted by Roses919191 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Tell us, do his parents even know about you or are you a secret to anyone who is of importance to him?
He keeps her a secret because he doesn't want his parents to find out he's been shackin up and having sex....it's against their religious beliefs you know lol.
Does ANYONE that is important to him know about her? His friends? His colleagues? A sibling that is also wanting an orgasm from a steady source before they tie the knot with someone?
OP? You avoid answering any questions. That is the sign of a troll.
yes i've met all his friends and coworkers, I guess he just doesn't want me to skype with his family or come back across the globe with him to meet them yet?
Now he isn't trying to break up w/me, just talking like a jerk. example:I asked about booking plane tickets for his buddy's wedding and it's not like he said I'm no longer his date... But he said "Why do we have to do this right now?" and I said "so we get on the same flight" etc, he said "that isn't a big deal" and I protested it was, so he goes "F*** you."
Do you know what it's like to be with a man that loves you? Cause this one does not. Whether he is not breaking up with you is neither here, nor there.Quote:
Originally Posted by Roses919191 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Well he's never been this jerky before. Lots of times that he seemed disinterested, once that he tried to go out with and constantly flirt with that girl behind my back, always making it clear that work is [URL=https://www.loveforum.net/usertag.php?do=list&action=hash&hash=1]#1[/URL] over me or his family. But maybe he's just mad and needs time to cool off right now. Maybe he's just afraid to get emotionally close or really love and needs more time. It did take him a year to say "I love you" back and once he finally did, he immediately ran out to try to meet up with that other chick at a bar at midnight
Trolling, trolls be trolling.Quote:
Originally Posted by Roses919191 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
O.P a.k.a Roses.Quote:
Originally Posted by Roses919191 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Please, for goodness sake, read your first line and tell me you see the problem. Please tell me you see the problem "I think he'll love me if I just figure out how to be independent enough for him"
What the heck woman?!!! If buddy doesn't love you now, he won't. I'm sorry but this man seems to have made his choice; is simply trying to be as chivalrous as possible as he waits for you to move out yet at the same time, he's sensing your lingering and it's pissing him off, which is why he told you to F off regarding the plane tickets. Take a hint.
Grab you britches, tap into your inner bitch and use her wisely. She will help you move out with your head held higher than it is right now, that's for sure. I don't often recommend bringing out the bitch but in this case, I feel she's needed. You do remember her right? She's in there; bring her out....
Lady, get a grip. I'm so sorry to say that but your in serious trouble here. Do you really want to be that desperate lingering girl that ends up driving the man so crazy he eventually snaps and becomes full time jerk? Snatch up what's left of the integrity, pack your bags, leave a note thanking him for any good times, you wish him well but your on different paths and then, open the door and walk through it, down the hall, out the building, put one foot in front of the other while feeling the sting of tears swelling in your beautiful eyes and know that your doing the right thing.
He'll respect you allot more if you prove to him you know your own self worth; but even more importantly, YOU will respect your self allot more. What ever happens after that, happens.
Boy's not for you. No worries, fuggit. Move on.
The longer you spend with a mr.wrong, the less time you'll have with a mr.right.... smarten up, he's out there.
NO. I will make him love me. Stop telling me I'm a loser and he won't. He cares about me enough to keep speaking to me even though he's mad. He could've just kicked me out, blocked my number, told me he refuses to speak, etc.
Please tell me where I said you were a loser. Come on, please refrain from the falsies.
If you don't pack your bags and your pride now, soon enough he'll be kicking your ass out of the door too.Quote:
Originally Posted by Roses919191 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Well, at least now you're admitting that he does not currently love you.Quote:
Originally Posted by Roses919191 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
he dropped his previous GF after 3 good years just because he was that opposed to getting engaged "and we fought about it," and she was also upset bc he flirted with another chick behind her back.
So he's the one with the problems, I'm not a loser.
So once he fixes his stupid problems, he'll be happy with me. If he thought I were such a loser he wuld've kicked me out and stopped speaking to me!
It's just a matter of time till he kicks you out the door. Pack your pride while you have one.
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And if you recognize that he's got issues, why are you insisting on getting engaged with him?
I'm not sure if Love can be forced...
More over, why would one want to be with another if it isn't concomitantly, naturally reached?
o.p, you came here seeking insight into your situation. You explained things, confirmed the seeming lack of deep connect (told us he said he no longer loved you) yet you really want him to, again or perhaps for the first time.
What is it about this guy that's got you all hot and bothered?
Is it perhaps you have a tough time not getting what you want? Tough time with rejection or something like that because if it is, your not alone; but how you deal with it, is all up to you.
anyway, reboot.
oh yeah and uh, walking away from something doesn't mean your a loser woman; smarten up. Doesn't bode well putting yourself down like that. and all people here have done is encourage you to maintain a sense of pride and dignity.
buthey, not what you wanted to hear right? yeah, rolling stones.
He made dinner last night and I said I was hungry & then he told me I could help myself to it once it was made. I fell asleep on couch by accident & he woke me up to ask if I was really planning to sleep there (vs in bed with him). He just doesn't want to hug bye in morning but said its bc he was running very late for work (which he was). Obviously after a big fight he needs a little space & time
But he wouldn't even do that much if he wanted to kick me out and never see me again
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Originally Posted by Roses919191 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
OMG, now you are analyzing every move he makes. What a great way to stay in a relationship! Like being on a pirate ship, you don't know when you will get thrown out into the sea, because you will be of no use for the pirate any longer, lol.
To answer your initial question, no, you will never get engage, not to this man anyway. He said his peace, he does not want to get engage anytime soon. So, if you want to wait till infinity and beyond, and or remain single forever till he kicks you out of his life, oh well, it's your life, so be it.
Stop being such a troll.Quote:
Originally Posted by Roses919191 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
The idea of being married and "stuck" in a stable, drama-free life with an average guy who thinks I'm super great and pays lots of attention to me... Bores me to death. I would much rather be with a high-profile guy like my current BF, in my same career, who is a little distant and I have to work to win him over, but can eventually get married to him in the end. More exciting
Good luck with your drama then. At some point you will get tired of it and want drama free boring relationship.
Sounds like a sour grape statement...Quote:
Originally Posted by Roses919191 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Oh really? Sour grapes? I had a house, was engaged, had a guy wanting to have kids with me, and I left it all for a powerhouse job and a hotshot rebound guy who worked in a position above mine. Have I ever regretted that decision? NO, because nothing is worse than that bored stale feeling. So yes, I very well could've had those things, I've just chosen not to.Quote:
Originally Posted by dontaskme [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Hmmm... Who are you kidding? You were close to putting a gun to his head to force him to marry you. Now that he's close to dumping your sorry ass, that's if he hadn't done it yet, lol, you're like a sour puss who's ready to kiss your masters ass!Quote:
Originally Posted by Roses919191 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Woman, go troll somewhere else. Your not as smart as you pretend to be!
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And FYI... I don't think your dumb enough (but maybe you are dumb enough) to sell a pretend house so you can move in with a guy whose parents you have not even met yet!
Well, you've gotten exactly what you're looking for so stop complaining about it.Quote:
Originally Posted by Roses919191 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Here's a quote from sour puss Rose. Ugh... The truth will set you free!Quote:
Originally Posted by Roses919191 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
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This doesn't sound like a quote from someone with a power house job and from a boyfriend with a higher position, lol. ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by Roses919191 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Thanks dontaskme. I think Rose is bringing herself undone.