Lonely and stir crazy...

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Originally Posted by pcmaster [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Yeah I mean online dating.
So how do you get by these days by not using online dating? How do guys find you in real life?

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Agreed, online dating is where most people go these days to find dates and it makes perfect sense to do so. The more the population increases the more the need for better organization and communication methods to find the type of people you want. So much better than to aimlessly wonder around bars and clubs to find someone to date; Online dating gives better quality results and much faster. You are majorly missing out and significantly lowering your chances on finding a suitable person to date and wasting so much time if you are not utilizing online dating!

Then again I think I would have much more chances and easier times if I had balls to talk with stranger girls on a street. So many beautiful birds I see on a street. Besides they probably are not used to get hit on them by guys unlike spoiled girls on dating site.
Just yesterday I saw this fat chick pic on dating site - her face was partly covered with phone when she took selfie and so couldnt really see her face and that was her only pic. And then on her profile was written that she wants to recieve big heap of flowers on FIRST date. I asked does she really want it and she said yes. Isnt that too much on FIRST date? She answered - for scumbags everything seems big ! So yeah I laughted wished her good luck with that and left her alone.
My friend agreed that its too much flowers aswell but then other girl said that she actually recieved boutique of flowers on first date and it was amazing. Go figure.

So yeah I live in small town - 65k people. And there really isnt much girls on dating site from my town. Thats why I think talking with girls on a street could be good option.

Hmm, that sounds like an odd chick. Anyways, I doubt trying to pick up girls on the street would end well; at least not here in the US as you'd probably just end up getting maced or something.

Yes sure. There's not one single women you'd like in your town. And they are all single mums. And you don't bother with them. Because it doesn't matter who they are. If they are single mums they must be attached with some worms.

The amount of limiting beliefs in this thread is too damn high!

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Originally Posted by Hooo! [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Yes sure. There's not one single women you'd like in your town. And they are all single mums. And you don't bother with them. Because it doesn't matter who they are. If they are single mums they must be attached with some worms.

The amount of limiting beliefs in this thread is too damn high!

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We all have our own set of deal breakers for dating [MENTION=85121]Hooo![/MENTION]...

What you mean "maced"? Really these slang are the hardest to understand.

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Originally Posted by pcmaster [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

What you mean "maced"? Really these slang are the hardest to understand.

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Not slang actually maced means being sprayed in the face by mace spray. In other words, in most places here if you were to try to stop a woman walking down the street to talk, she would most likely feel threatened and go into defensive mode. Women are very skittish here in general.

Well I see you dont want to end like Johny Bravo pickung up girls on a street. But think its safe if you start talking from distance and dont stand in their way like they do in US. I see a lot of pickup artists run after girls and then stand right in front of her when she walks and if she walks past them they repeat it.

But your set of deal breakers tell me much more about you then about single moms

You are being judgmental and you are not willing to put effort in a relationship that maybe worth it

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Originally Posted by Hooo! [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

But your set of deal breakers tell me much more about you then about single moms

You are being judgmental and you are not willing to put effort in a relationship that maybe worth it

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Then you are not "reading" me correctly. I'm certainly not being judgmental and I'm very willing to put full effort into a relationship with a deserving woman; but as I said before, I deserve a quality fresh start with a good woman that fits my relationship needs. I'm either going to find what I want or continue without as there is no point in dating anyone that I'm not interested in or doesn't meet my standards. However as my many dates over the last few years have proven, good women are extremely difficult to find or possibly they may not even exist any more.

Well good luck on finding the perfect women
And then good luck trying to live up to her

Seriously when I read that someone wants to find anyone who can meet his "standard"
All you may have proven over the last years is that you cannot find anyone who can live up to your "standard"
And I don't know a woman who would
Maybe they would if they already loved you

You are building a relationship
What is imperfect at first can become more and more perfect the longer both of you are working for and towards each other

Expecting something out of a person from the beginning
Or even having standards like no single moms is just like a girl who would date only guys who own a big car

It tells nothing about the men necessarily
But it tells me a lot about the girl.
Or to even be more bluntly: when I see someone expecting something superficial like that I am (and probably not only me) getting the impression that they Are superficial

The question is not only if you find a girl who meets your standard
The question also is: what do you have to offer to deserve such (imho unreasonable) standards

Well its okay to have some standarts or lets say principles or morall. Perhaps Hooo is not so picky.
I for example dont have standarts except that I dont believe in dating girls who are more than 3 years younger than me, but my principles are dont date wifes and girlfriends. Im interested only in free girls.

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Originally Posted by Hooo! [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Well good luck on finding the perfect women
And then good luck trying to live up to her

Seriously when I read that someone wants to find anyone who can meet his "standard"
All you may have proven over the last years is that you cannot find anyone who can live up to your "standard"
And I don't know a woman who would
Maybe they would if they already loved you

You are building a relationship
What is imperfect at first can become more and more perfect the longer both of you are working for and towards each other

Expecting something out of a person from the beginning
Or even having standards like no single moms is just like a girl who would date only guys who own a big car

It tells nothing about the men necessarily
But it tells me a lot about the girl.
Or to even be more bluntly: when I see someone expecting something superficial like that I am (and probably not only me) getting the impression that they Are superficial

The question is not only if you find a girl who meets your standard
The question also is: what do you have to offer to deserve such (imho unreasonable) standards

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Hey man, every girl that I dated seriously and had great relationships with for months in the last few years, I offered them a solid long term relationship, which was what they mentioned they wanted from a relationship, and they bailed on me for no reason. It is most definitely the women I come across who are the problem and are too picky or superficial; not myself.

Why you say they bailed on you for no reason. There wasnt reason for you but maybe they had a reason. Dont you ask girls when things ends, why they end it and whats wrong?

Are you both teasing about how do I find people to date if I don't use online dating? lol? Joking right? I meet people in parks, dog parks, coffee shops, bookstores, shopping, group meets, through family, friends, people at work, at school. I'd never go out with someone I couldn't actually see first in person, I don't trust online dating at all. Not for me.

Im starting to trust online dating less as well. Seems like girls on there have huge issuses.

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Originally Posted by lovebroken [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Are you both teasing about how do I find people to date if I don't use online dating? lol? Joking right? I meet people in parks, dog parks, coffee shops, bookstores, shopping, group meets, through family, friends, people at work, at school. I'd never go out with someone I couldn't actually see first in person, I don't trust online dating at all. Not for me.

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Not joking or teasing, online dating is smart, widely used/accepted as well as safe and is not really all that different that meeting in person first as you typically still meetup first at a normal public place like a coffee shop or restaurant or something. In order to find the right person you need to accept and utilize all possible options to circulate yourself with different people.

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Originally Posted by pcmaster [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Why you say they bailed on you for no reason. There wasnt reason for you but maybe they had a reason. Dont you ask girls when things ends, why they end it and whats wrong?

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I do ask them, but they never give me a real valid reason and it just usually ends up being something ridiculous like they were dating someone else at the same time anyways, meaning they were betraying me every second throughout the relationship we were trying to start. It just simply comes down to the fact that most women are just disloyal two-timing scum.

If you believe that they bailed on you "for no reason"
And it repeatedly happened to you
Then let me ask you a question
What was the common factor in all those situations?

If you think you were the perfect boyfriend then how come all those girls left?

I think problem is that girls are not desperate and just want to pick best guy there is. Looking for perfect one or have too high standards. Also they might realize how much guys are out there for them so they can easy let go someone cause know they can easy find someone else. Dating sites really do ruin girls and makes them thing they are high value when in fact they dont give any value, but just take it from guys.

no i do not believe that.
I do believe that some people in general are that way. And i believe that you attract certain people with your behaviour

for example if you always display low value and make girls and sex high value and communicate that
then you will have girls who (think they) want just that.

The only common factor is that I met them online and of course women's minds are BS they need to wake up and see what a good guy actually is. You can offer a woman exactly what they say they want and they will still bail on you for no reason; women's minds make absolutely no logical sense!

Well you could watch YT vid - 4 Things that aytract women like crack. It explains that what girls think they care about is not things that attracts them the most.
Also maybe you are just too easy to get, too available not a challenge. At least that was my last mistake by runing after girl. Anyway trying too hard gives worse rezults than being chill. Maybe girls can sense needyness and it pushes them away. When your life and hapiness depends on girls - they dont want that kind of responsibilty. They want to be part of the ride, not the ride itself.

I definitely don't "run after them" I stay very cool in relationships, I know how to handle the conversation side as well as physical with women and I know that they are certainly the problem so far since I haven't done anything wrong any any relationship I've tried to start. I think women just seek relationships to try to find "the one" that they think they will have a fairy tale type "love" with and just overlook all the good guys they come across because maybe they don't get that "feeling" right away and they don't realize that they could be happy with many guys they bailed on if they would have stayed in the relationship and developed a "love" over time. Who knows though, women's minds are just too jacked up to try to apply reasoning and logic to.

the common factor is you

if the same or similar situations keep happening to you it is not random
and it surely is not the girls

if women were the problem, then every man would have this problem with women. Which is not the case.
You have this problem with women.

If you think you offer women what they actually want - and they all bail on you sooner or later
then you are mistaken.
you are not offering them what they want. (or what they need)


Womens minds dont make sense logically. They make sense emotionally (usually).

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Originally Posted by Hooo! [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

the common factor is you

if the same or similar situations keep happening to you it is not random
and it surely is not the girls

if women were the problem, then every man would have this problem with women. Which is not the case.
You have this problem with women.

If you think you offer women what they actually want - and they all bail on you sooner or later
then you are mistaken.
you are not offering them what they want. (or what they need)


Womens minds dont make sense logically. They make sense emotionally (usually).

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Women don't make sense period, but none I have dated have every told me that they felt I was at fault with anything, so I'm not doing anything wrong that I'm aware of and if they do have an issue and never say anything, then the fault lies with them not being able to communicate properly within a developing relationship...

Again if you have the same response from different women
But other men don't get that response it follows that the given scenario is either statistically unlikely or you are the reason

And while we agree that mature persons would communicate their problems most people don't. Most proppenvoll ease you out of the relationship as to not hurt you further or thinking that maybe they are a bit harsh in their judgment.

It is naive to believe that people will communicate their problems at all times.
And it's unhelpful on top. If you want to succeed in a relationship you will have to learn to empathize and pick up on other people's problems

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Originally Posted by Hooo! [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

It is naive to believe that people will communicate their problems at all times.
And it's unhelpful on top. If you want to succeed in a relationship you will have to learn to empathize and pick up on other people's problems

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That sucks. I remember first girl told me if I want something then I should tell it to her cause she dont wanna try guess since she works with 2 year olds and tries to guess what they want.

I remember I told last girl to tell me if she wants something but she never did. I was always leader and I did what I wanted with her and always made plans for dates.

I dont know its just so difficult. Good that I decided to take a break from girls.

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Originally Posted by pcmaster [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

That sucks. I remember first girl told me if I want something then I should tell it to her cause she dont wanna try guess since she works with 2 year olds and tries to guess what they want.

I remember I told last girl to tell me if she wants something but she never did. I was always leader and I did what I wanted with her and always made plans for dates.

I dont know its just so difficult. Good that I decided to take a break from girls.

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Hope your break will be relaxing; My "forced break" from them has lasted way too long. I really want to date right now, but still healing up. Hope I can start up again in a few weeks.

health first my friend. if yo uodn't have your health then you can't really date anyway right? HEALTH FIRST!
also.. stay positive. find a way to stay positive. nobody dates a depressed downer negative whining complaining person right? we only go after positive, energetic, fun people. so imagine a person you'd love to date and notice what comes to mind. ARE YOU like that person or not? if not. be more like that person!

lastly.. when dating and finding a woman "becomes the agenda and goal" - it never works. NEVER works. peopel see thru that from a mile away. imagine that person in your head you'd love to date - are they the one trying to date everybody and looking for a date eery moment and that's what's driving them? PROBABLY NOT. so don't be THAT person.

health first.
this is the time to explore and find out what you love, could do everybody on-end for nothing --- and delve into that. Develop that life. And from that life you'll cross paths with or meet somebody and hit it off. That's when you hit on successful relationships - not when you are trying to force it and seek it and make it the one thing that drives you.

Well, at least I feel fine, just waiting for the radiation burns on my head to heal. Then hopefully I'll be able to see if my hair will grow back or not soon.

I already know the "things" I love, I just need a person to love to make my life feel more fulfilled. Just sooo tired of waiting and being alone all the time!