I got 99 problems, but an emotionally deficient, narcissistic man-child isn't one.
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I got 99 problems, but an emotionally deficient, narcissistic man-child isn't one.
You say you want the love of your life. One day you will realize you let go of a true diamond while you were too busy collecting stones.
Oh you steal my quote for my ex hahaha. But I guess many ppl will use this same quote. :-)Quote:
Originally Posted by simmo [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Please just leave me alone.
Remember when you asked if I still have your Liverpool FC away kit t-shirt? Funny story. I decided last minute to go to this cop & robber party and I needed a robber mask. Technically I still have 80% of it.
And out of all the things you took without asking, I'm still pissed off about my Jack Daniel's keychain. It was a gift from a friend and you knew it. It still didn't stop you from taking it off my bloody keys. And I bet you lost it when you were drunk you poor excuse for a man.
what is with your god dam affection still lingers me? leave me alone god dammit !
Just what the hell do you feel I need to "WAKE UP" to??? To what we had? To what we lost? To my "mental illness"? To your innocence in it all? Look...I KNOW exactly everything I did wrong in our relationship. I KNOW! If you were so damn innocent in it all I would reach out to you and offer amends and a damn hug. But you weren't and I won't. Not this time.
One last time I post on here before mod will remove my Id as I wanted. I have realised that I put my love to a wrong person who don't understand me, I opened my Fb to public and I wanted you to taste some hurt. But it doesn't matter anymore. You don't deserve to have my love. That's all I can say before I get mad and be harsh. Be happy as you are trying to show.
That drunkie text was a mistake that I shouldn't have sent. I don't need you to understand anything anymore. I don't have that energy to hurt anymore. Wish you luck in your life.
Bye.
The only thing to wake up to is reality and the loss of my dream. I've already done that. Reality is that you and I were never compatible. Period! Sure...we had some amazing times together and those are why I still sit here at this ****ing computer and type out messages to you that I hope you never see! So why do I do it? I'm voicing my side of things! MY SIDE! I do have my own opinions, perspectives and I do own half of the story!
Err no I don't want to stay friends and what's with the after some time has past thing anyway? I dumped you 3 months ago because YOU didn't feel in love so now you think it's ok to chuck me the but I want to remain friends line and then say maybe at some point down the track.
Bugger off you dim witted cretin I seriously want nothing more to do with you. A friendship with you just means mre banging my head against the wall trying to figure out what you can't tell me because you can't communicate. How exactly us being friends is going to change that. Go see a shrink and tell him your problems ffs. I really don't want to hear them
Ex, why is it that I'm the only one feeling miserable? It's like you didn't even had a single minute of pain from all that. I want you to know that you've taken the confidence out of me - the confidence that a person's heart can heal, will heal, MUST heal. But no, I don't hate you. It's too big a burden to bear. Go, frolic, be happy. I'll get my share of joy soon enough, God willing.
Arrrgghh.. I wasn't even thinking about you throughout the day. I had a dream about seeing you and your bf together. It felt so real and I feel so shitty now. Can't get it out of my head.
When your next boyfriend asks you "What happened to the last guy?"
Don't say "I am a victim. I have narcolepsy and one night I couldn't drive where he wanted me to drive and he's not tolerant of my condition so he got mad at me for something I had no control over and never spoke to me again."
TELL THE TRUTH and say "One night he invited me to a party I kept hounding him about wanting to go to because he didn't want me to feel like I wasn't being included, then when the party ended I refused to leave and lied about why I couldn't because I wanted to stay behind and **** the host instead of leave with him."
Not only am I not as stupid as you apparently think, but the host has been a buddy of mine since highschool.
He was a buddy of yours, but nailed your girlfriend? Good friend you have thereQuote:
Originally Posted by SkinnyKid [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Why would that freak you out? You dont care.. dont pretend u do so you can feel better about yourself and not feel responsible. goodbye.
Yes, however there are important details to explain that... Here's how it breaks down a little better:Quote:
Originally Posted by DarkHelmet82 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
We were partying at his place (which I actually own but he is my tenant, it is his home exclusively, I live elsewhere). She was at work. She asked me more than once during her shift via text how long the party would be going and if she could come over when she was done. My response was the same each time to the effect of "I don't know how long we'll be here". Ultimately at the end of her shift I said "You can come here if you want, I don't know how much longer we'll be". (She works less than fifteen minutes away, in fact, every possible destination in the equation is less than fifteen minutes from each other, his home, my home, her home, and her workplace all can be reached within fifteen minutes of each other.)
Seconds before she arrived he mentioned to me how exhausted he was and that he was getting cranky and had snapped and some other guests for something because of it. ... With that everyone started packing up. ... When she arrived everyone had left except for the host, one other buddy who was only still there because he waiting to walk to the car with me once I gathered my stuff cuz I hadn't seen him in a while and we were still chatting, and me. She walked in and took a soda (Red Bull actually) from the fridge as I was gathering my partially dranken beverage from it to take with me. ... As I exitted I said "are you coming" she responded in a snotty tone "I just got here". I replied back "Yeah, the timing was bad, but we're leaving now". She said "No, I just spent all that gas to get here, I'm not just gonna turn around and leave." (First clue; concerned about ten miles worth of gasoline.)
I walked to the car with my buddy, she stayed behind with the host. (It's a condo and the car is a significant walk, two or three minutes.) The host called me as I was getting to the car and was like "Dude, what do I do? I'm trying to convince her to leave with you and she won't. I'm kind of in an awkward spot here." I said (and meant it) "Do whatever you want. Seriously. She's a grown-up, she knows the party is over, she knows I'm leaving, and she knows I want her to come with me. I'm not gonna tell you to keep your hands off of her because if she's willing to do this now, she's willing to do it another time. I want her to make the right decision because she wants to, not because I had to tell someone else not to let her. If I have to force her to make the right choice today I'll have to worry about doing it the rest of my life. All I ask is that you tell me what happens."
He called about four minutes later asking "Are you sure? I don't want you to be pissed at me." I told him "I'm positive."
So he's completely off the hook as far as I'm concerned because I'm certain if I would have told him not to **** her, he wouldn't have.
As they say "If I had to tell her, she wouldn't be my girl." ... Hence, this one no longer is.
The issue I was addressing in my post is that she then tried to plead her case with a more detailed variance of the "I didn't want to waste my gas" story, then when I blew holes in it she transitioned to the "I didn't have the energy to drive to another destination" story. That's why I said "TELL THE TRUTH" because she keeps trying to come up with someway to be a victim in the whole ordeal.
wow.. now ive heard it all... he told you he ****ed her after?Quote:
Originally Posted by SkinnyKid [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Of course, he got my blessing before hand under the agreement that he wouldn't keep me in the dark about what happened. Why wouldn't he tell me?Quote:
Originally Posted by DarkHelmet82 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I still think is messed up.. but I guess bros before hoes. You are a better man then I am.Quote:
Originally Posted by SkinnyKid [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
People keep telling me how confident and happy I seem now that you have left me. I don't understand why because you made me so happy and you were so loving and caring, but pretty much everyone has said this to me so there must have been something not right with us. I think you were so supportive and protective of me that I lost who I was. It still doesn't feel completely real that you are out of my life but I've moved on. I've met someone else now, sorry it's so soon, it's not the way I planned it, it just happened that way. I just want you to know that he is a great guy and I think he will take care of me. I know it would make you happy to know that. I still want to be friends one day, but if you think you can't do that then please think of me from time to time. You will always be in my heart xxx
well its been 54 days. since last time I have seen her. Cant forget but I can get over.
I'm thinking about you much less these days. It no longer tears me up thinking of what we lost, I have come to realise that I actually deserve much better. Yesterday I told someone who didn't know that we had broken up and for the very first time since you ended it, I didn't tear up saying those words - I wasn't choked at all in fact.
I'm really far along towards getting over you, I would say it really won't be long until I don't love you at all, don't think of you at all and move on with you merely a blur in the past.
I adored you, I absolutely would have given you the world. And now look at me! I don't long for you anymore. I don't feel physically sick when I think about us. I don't even have fleeting thoughts these days of wanting to visit your family and make sure everyone's okay. I saw your photos with your new girlfriend and it didn't kill me as I thought it would, in fact it allowed me to acknowledge how much you have downgraded and it amuses me to no end because it will not be long until you realise that yourself.
I have respected your wishes and that pure and amazing love has been forced to fade, what a damn shame for you. You will never have love like mine again, let me tell you.
More fool you, I'm in a much better place without you and I know that one day you will realise what you gave up.
I do care for you and wish you the best, but I can safely say that I am almost there, and I feel sorry for you.
So, hey... guess what? I have myself a new man. Didn't take long, did it?
He's a lot like you in a lot of ways - same job, same interests, same family background. But you know what? He's a lot more switched on. He's eloquent, he's passionate, he's hot, he adores the **** out of me, and I don't have to guess what he's thinking all the time because he straight up tells me. Not only that, he wants to see me every single day and is willing to drive to me to make it happen. A--- met him the other night and said he's a huge improvement over you. I still miss you, but she's totally right. Only a matter of time now before you cease to rent space in my head.
Have fun with the bobbleheads while you can. That shit's going to get old, I promise you.
NIce Annie!
Every day is a struggle. You know I've always been a dreamer, but now I'll find myself in a quiet moment and imagine what our life would be like if I hadn't run away and if you hadn't decided to hate me forever for leaving. I think that, by now, we would probably have a pretty strong relationship. You would have come to meet my parents. I would have shown you where I grew up. I would have told you all of my secrets and you would have told me yours. I would have looked forward to seeing you every day when you came home from work. I would have cooked for you every day. At first some of the recipes would have been bad, but I would have learned what you liked and I would have cooked those things for you. I find myself baking cookies and imagine how different, how happy life would be if I was baking those cookies for you.
I know you haven't talked to me for 8 months because you are over me. But, I am not over you and I feel WORSE every day. I wanted the life we could have had SO BAD. You just keep smoking your cigarettes, half a world away, and you've forgotten me. Your rejection feels like death. I feel dead at 32.
Im talking to two women.. yet still think about you... I ****ing hate you... go to hell!
The following things remind me of you and I cannot stand it:
-My iPhone
-My iPad
-My little HP computer
-My grey suitcase that I bought in Amsterdam just to come see you (will never use it again)
-My red suitcase
-My Gmail account
-All Black Audis
-Germany
-Paris
-Stuttgart
-Wild boars
-My Burberry rain boots
I cannot stop using Facebook or Gmail. I cannot forget about Paris or Germany. I automatically think of you each time I look at my iPhone. You knew how fragile I was when I came to see you and you were horrible to me anyway. I really try to hate you but the feeling never sticks. I'm even learning your language now, for absolutely no reason.
Every time I contact you I feel more humiliated than the last time. You never respond. I wish I could forget your phone number, your email addresses and how lovely your voice is. These have been the hardest 8 months of my life, 8 lost months, because I truly had hope each and every day that you'd realize how ridiculous this situation was and you'd call me. But, you never call me. Deep in my heart, I know that any contact with you would just be painful, because you would just call me another random name and tell me to leave you alone. Did you know that you have prayers every flipping night since I left you and that I even promised God that if he brought you back to me I would give $1000 to church? Seriously. M, I am such a mess and I'm so scared I'll never miss you less. Everyone tells me how pretty and happy I look in my Facebook pictures and they.have.no.idea.
GO GIRL!!!!Quote:
Originally Posted by tremolo [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Good for you, you deserve it.
Before I post .. tremolo, ya know I admire you and wish the best for you:
I'm going to get myself into trouble here again, (but when's that ever stopped me)... I was going to give Trem a "You go girl" but it dawned on me that she's not over her ex yet or she wouldn't have posted any of that.. particularily in the "POST HERE INSTEAD of CONTACTING YOUR EX" thread.
Anyway, I don't know him but I'm feeling a little sorry for the new guy. He's dating a girl who's mind and heart is still on her ex. Tremolo. Be careful with his heart. Karma's a bitch and you don't want it coming around on you again if you're just using this dude as a human bandaid to get over the last one. (his bad of course if you've let him know that you're still stinging from a recent breakup and he insists on continuing on, of course)
I leave wondering why so many people just can't heal and wait until they are in a good space of mind (free of all thoughts of bastard/bitches exes) before dating again? Often when you date when you're not ready, you miss the good and decency and wonderful atributes of the one sittting across from you because you're incapable of becoming vulnerable to one when you're focus is on another. I just hope you're not going to miss out on something good for thinking about someone shitty still.
Best wishes.
*ducks the tirad to come*
I agree with Wakeup.. but maybe this is what she needs to get over him.. good luck! :)
I have found my self missing you this past week, I'm unsure why if is been now 3 months why? I cant get you out of my mind but there is no way in hell that I will contact you or chase you in any way and well I know you do not have my number because I changed it but what ever you wont call me any ways, because you were the one who wanted to end it all. I just wish that everything was different between us and that you would love me as much as I love you.
Mi Amore.
you are a monster ! a cold heart killa bitch! way low anyone i know...stay away from my mind! stop your mind games on me because its not going to work !just stay away for good!
Well said. I personally can't stomach the thought of getting involved with someone else until I am completely over someone. I imagine myself sitting across from them at dinner or something and I still see my ex's face. However people move on in different ways.Quote:
Originally Posted by Wakeup [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I still miss you, but she's totally right. Only a matter of time now before you cease to rent space in my head.
Just be careful of this Trem. Are you in the frame of mind now that if your ex wanted you back you'd be able to say absolutely 100% without a doubt no?
Luckily for Trem that isn't an option. Even if she got back with her ex (which won't happen) she wouldn't take his shit any longer and she'd soon throw him to the curb. I have strong confidence that our girl is almost there!
why make my life so happy then you killed me? is this your way of saying thanks for everything? you telling me all this shit like im the one that dump you? are you insane? just crawl in hole and die okay! now you know what i feel huh.. told you what comes around goes around right?
You're right. I'm not completely over my ex. However, I think this person might be the catalyst to help me get over him. Hemingway wrote something, which I'm too drunk to remember at the moment.. It's in A Moveable Feast. He said that there are different types of emptiness, and one of them can only be filled by finding something better than what you lost. I think that applies to love. I'm not sure if this new guy I'm dating will fill that void, but he's very exciting, and I've been very upfront about the pain I've been through recently. I drunkenly told him how much it scares me that he's like my ex. He's knows essentially how I feel, and, although I love my ex still, I'm ready to move on.. I just need to keep taking action, and I think my feelings will follow...Quote:
Originally Posted by Wakeup [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
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Originally Posted by tremolo [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Well, I wish you (and him) luck but I'm a firm believer in: You can't love someone if you don't love yourself. Right now you're not a happy camper, it shows in your posts and when you're not a happy camper it's kind of unfair to expect someone else to make you that way. That's an awful big responsibility you're laying on his shoulders.
The jury is out on whose fault it will be when (if) he falls for you because he has an over-active white knight complex and you're the perfect princess to save. His fault for ignoring a red flag (an unhappy princess) or your fault for using him for a bandaid.
Just some food for thought. I do wish you well.
I suspect he meant all in due time. If he didn't then he should have googled "Rebound Relationship." ;o)Quote:
He said that there are different types of emptiness, and one of them can only be filled by finding something better than what you lost.
I'm not so sure that is going to happen. First of all, we haven't defined any relationship yet, haven't slept together yet... I wouldn't exactly say I'm jumping into this. I'm not because I have a lingering attachment to my ex, and because he has told me he's never been in love before (which is in my mind a big red flag), and I haven't figured out whether all the ultra-emotional things he's been telling me are genuine or whether he's just desperately trying to get in my pants. Anyway, my point is - if I take the plunge with this guy, I think there's more danger in me getting burned than him.Quote:
Originally Posted by Wakeup [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
You're right that I've been unhappy, but quite honestly, the rain clouds have scattered since this new guy came along. I have residual anger towards my ex, but I think that's probably natural, and I don't really want to turn down great guys who come along until all those feelings go away. I wouldn't say I don't love myself - I absolutely do, and I think my ex is an idiot for letting me go. I just take it incredibly personally when someone I love kicks me to the curb and forgets me like I never existed.
Did I write that?Quote:
Originally Posted by tremolo [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Good on you Tremelo for moving forward at least now you are a lot stronger, wiser and know what you do and don't want in your life.
Just follow your head for a while and give the heart a rest. Don't mean close yourself emotionally just make sure it's working for you and enjoy yourself and it is what you really want before falling head over heals and leave yourself totally vunerable.
If it's working and you're happy in a couple of months and your ex has stopped being a part of your thinking, open your heart and go for it
Obviously I'm gutted you chose him over me but I'll live with it :)