I think you are being a bit melodramatic, I would have just masturbated to the pictures before my partner got home and used the visual whenever I felt the need.
I don't know why you are getting upset that your partner had sex with someone else before she was with you, I love to hear about what my partner did before meeting me.
I havn't talked to her since the incident on monday, and we do not live together so I can't look at the computer (sorry for the let down). I'm not sure that I would snoop for the simple fact that I don't think I could handle the trauma again. But I will ask her whether or not she deleted them the next time I talk to her. I will let you know what happens. I want to get over it a bit before I talk to her so that I do not say or do anything that I will regret in the long run though.
Hey akazie I don't judge but you have to understand that most people would not react your way given the situation.
you guys try and act like ya'll would just be okay with that shit.
ya'll are liars.
I feel your pain,
Ive been to the exact same situation, and you will NEVER get that out of your head, never.
In your case, either way, you've already seen the pictures, she said she didn't know she had them and you both need to move forward. I would have her delete all of these pictures (which shouldn't be a problem as she didn't realize she had them) and then forget about it. It's not going to be easy of course to get the pictures out of your head, but the damage has been done. So just love her for her.
A note to the people saying he was snooping:
Call me old fashioned (however I'm only 24 but married), but I don't think that you can snoop on your partner. Why? Because THERE SHOULDN'T BE ANYTHING SECRET BETWEEN YOU!
I believe that privacy is a joke, if you don't want to get caught, you shouldn't be doing it.
Now, I DO believe that there should be some privacy at first, but once you have been dating for a couple years, move in together, or get married, that privacy should be chucked out the window.
I don't know how long you've been together, but if its been a long time, then your stuff is her stuff and vice verse.
Was her ex black? Does his gigantic penis make you feel inferior? Yes, it's true that you can't possibly satisfy her the way he did, but she's with you now. I'm sure she has a dildo--no doubt black--hidden away so once you're done pawing her at night she can at least get off on her own. No worries. It's all good.