Protect her at all cost?

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Originally Posted by GrkScorp [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

O.K. I see your point, i've entertained the idea, and "this is what I personally feel/think"..

If sex was the ice-cream, then babies wouldn't survive.. you would think that people would be having sex so often that we would be overpopulated in a matter of years; but actually, babies wouldn't survive.. People would be too busy having sex, that there would be no need to take care of babies, there would also be no formal family structure where two parters could take care of not only the babies, but eachother (with age). But don't take my word on it, that's only an idea, that's just what "I" think..

An other crazy idea of mine is.. maybe, just maybe.. emotional bonding is more rewarding than sex.. There are two basic needs in life; to replicate, and to survive.. The need to replicate will eventually be satisfied, but the urges will linger.. the need to survive however is constant; and needs constant satisfaction.. So while your desire to have sex is a lingering urge to replicate; your desire for quality companionship, emotional bonding, and connection are all parts of your ongoing need for survival.. the latter is actually more satisfying than the former.. but again, that's just how "I" feel.. don't take my word on it..

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Ok, first of "I" believe we have been given thanks to evolution these big juicy brains that are aware consciously of their existence in order to make wise decisions and take care of the kids. I don't see why a child cannot survive under simply the mother's protection though...meaning that companionship is only originally needed for the actual mating. This is why men are horny all the freaking time, they are meant to go from woman to woman and try and impregnate as many as possible...women take care of the young. Though it is the goal to try and get a male to take care of her....but than again this is just what "I" think.

Second of all, You never explained how the need to survive has ANYTHING to do with companionship. If anything, Carrying a knife increases your survival far more than companionship. I don't need a woman to survive and I definitely don't need emotional bonding to survive either. Water, food, and shelter will do perfectly fine thank you...but again, that's just how "I" feel.. don't take my word on it..

Oh, and how come half the freaking world is stressed out about relationships and this is why these sites exist? I mean, look at some of the threads. Pathetic. I see my friends in these relationships and they seem whipped to me, they pick up the phone as if his life depended on it when she calls...pathetic. I will never be like that. You say that satisfying the want for emotional bonding relieves stress and tension and I blame it in the first place for stress and tension existing.

I am not some orgasm junky like those people you mentioned. I just think sex is a better release.

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Originally Posted by vashti [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I don't think sex is boring, OV.

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How can it be?! It is way to much fun! :D

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Originally Posted by Only-virgins [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

You never explained how the need to survive has ANYTHING to do with companionship. If anything, Carrying a knife increases your survival far more than companionship. I don't need a woman to survive and I definitely don't need emotional bonding to survive either. Water, food, and shelter will do perfectly fine thank you...but again, that's just how "I" feel.. don't take my word on it..

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If you carry a knife on you and expect that you are going to survive in today's world, you're in for a bit of a shock..

:D Very cute, but I respect how you feel. Yes, water, food, and shelter are all basic human needs, and you make a fine point, that's all you need to survive.. So? Go get them.. wait! You need money.. so then it is money that is needed to assure survival.. how do you get money? work.. what does work do? cause stress & tension? (school will do the same).. how to relieve this stress and tension so that it does not diminish your ability to work, hence make money, hence survive? Sex is one answer.. but that will provide you with temporary relief.. what happens when you're at work, and you're not having sex? what happens when you get back home and you're not having sex? what happens when you're not having sex, period? You then find the need for emotional well-being and comfort; knowing that you are loved, feeling that strong connection with someone to satisfy your basic human need to feel that you're not alone in this world, that you have a helping/caring hand by your side.. and the strength that gives you will not only relieve stress, it will make you more resistant to it, and it will make you more mentally sharp & physically enduring..

Now; i'm talking about emotional pleasure that comes from bonding & connection.. obviously, if you look at the negative aspects of a LONG-term-relationship (with the same person), these aspects will just add to your stress & tension.. but that's an entierly different topic & issue.. let's not mix apples and oranges.. we're talking about physical satisfaction from sex vs. emotional satisfaction from the companionship of a quality person..

obviously, after a while; the negative aspects of a relationship start to surface.. which is why it's time to rotate.. find someone else, and enjoy those positive aspects again for the first 2-3+ weeks, and when the negatives start to surface, rotate again.. (please, don't go into petty morals and the issue of marriage.. blah blah) when you're looking to get married, yes, you'll eventually have to cope and put up with the negative aspects aswell; and you'll have to pretend to accept the "you have to love someone for who they are, the good & the bad.." lecture.. but that's a long time away for now.. when that time comes you can worry about accepting (buying) the whole package "as is".. but until then, feel free to rotate when the negative aspects start to show and things start getting dull.. because in those 2-3+ weeks, you're worry-free, you're in bliss, everything is amazing, no arguments or drama in the air; it's perfect..

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Yeh, I've noticed. They all seem pretty similar. In a way that it's all about approaching with confidence. Their techniques vary very little.

So who are the other gurus?

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Tyler Durden (with RSD), Thundercat, Bishop (NLP), Carlos Xuma, David Shade (sexual), Hypnotica (NLP-ish), Joe Vitale, Mark Cunningham (NLP), Mehow, Steve Piccus (NLP-ish), Swinggcat, Vin DiCarlo, Stephen Nash (playboy L.A.)...

...those are all the ones that come to mind at the moment. Perhaps not all "gurus," but people with a developed program or system.

~Sphinx

I find it very disappointing that Sphinx even knows who these 'tards are. :(

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Originally Posted by vashti [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I find it very disappointing that Sphinx even knows who these 'tards are. :(

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Most of us do. Doesn't mean we follow it, but the stuff is entertaining, and you can take a couple of overarching lessons from it.

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Originally Posted by Only-virgins [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

How can it be?! It is way to much fun! :D

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Wait until you've been in a relationship for a few years, then say it

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Originally Posted by Mathias [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Most of us do. Doesn't mean we follow it, but the stuff is entertaining, and you can take a couple of overarching lessons from it.

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Vash is just jelous that there are more men than women giving advice on how to pick up

Women don't need advice on how to pick up someone. I have never felt the need to try to pick up anyone in my whole life.

Men didn't used to need those silly books, either. Somehow, people used to be able to figure it out on their own.

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Originally Posted by vashti [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I find it very disappointing that Sphinx even knows who these 'tards are. :(

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And I find it very disappointing that I spent the time I did studying the garbage to find out that all I had to do was grow a pair in the first place.

~Sphinx

Redemption!

Even more of a reason why these "gurus" and communities for men are important.

Why is that? So they don't have to just "grow a pair"?

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Originally Posted by vashti [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Why is that? So they don't have to just "grow a pair"?

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No, you said you (i.e. women) didn't need anyone to teach you to pick up because you've never done it. Thus, it's important for men to have a point of reference since they are the ones doing most of the work.

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Even more of a reason why these "gurus" and communities for men are important.

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Even more of a reason to ask why it is that men suddenly need "gurus" and "communities" to learn these basics.

~Sphinx

::snicker::

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Originally Posted by TheSphinx [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Even more of a reason to ask why it is that men suddenly need "gurus" and "communities" to learn these basics.

~Sphinx

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Because there are men out there who don't know how to pick up, how to approach, how to inititate a conversation, what to say, what to do, how to act when they initiate. You have to admit that there are men out there who can use advice and help.

Unlike women like Vash pointed out who just wait to be picked up instead.