Hatred

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Originally Posted by ecojeanne [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

that maybe true, but i know i loved him, the only man ever infact, its pathetic now when i think of it....anyway i just thought my method of getting over it might be an possible suggestion for you since it helps me

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Of course I try not to think about her. It doesn't work though.

At least four nights a week I have a dream about her.

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Originally Posted by Cain [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Of course I try not to think about her. It doesn't work though.

At least four nights a week I have a dream about her.

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Ye I do find myself wanting to indulge in thinking, I have dreams about him myself, but I do something random immediately…. and maybe my break up has come out in other negative ways....I have lost my apatite and have lost a lot of weight, I’m forcing myself to eat now that I am aware of what I was doing to myself…. But I know cain…. it is hard to let go.

You guys suck at supporting his anger.

I'm tellin' you, they're all faggots.

yeah, bitches, sluts, whores, trollops. Now I don't feel so sad.

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Originally Posted by Charlie Boy II [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

yeah, bitches, sluts, whores, trollops. Now I don't feel so sad.

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Do it to it.

Why don't you make use of your anger and kill a few people?

dude, you and me both.
im trying the hatred route as well. its working.
sounds like we both have/had a very similar situation.

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go listen to The Nameless or Vermillion by Slipknot. great songs to listen to when ur angry.
its what i do and it makes me even more angry than sad. helps me out. dam bitch.

For the last several days I've done better with the anger. It's helped me get over it and I haven't been sad. I had finally gotten to the point to where I wasn't angry at her so much as I was at the situation. And then today happened. I'm not in the mood to get into it right now, but she definitely increased that anger and hatred by extraordinary amounts.

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Originally Posted by lesa [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

One thing that I find very helpful is volunteering my time to various organizations/programs.

A fling or flirt friend is good too as long as she knows you are not serious at all. And it doesn't have to involve sex. ;)

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Is my mind the gutter mentality? How does a FLING not involve sex?
oh, just heavy petting and oral...but no sex...:mad:

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Originally Posted by Cain [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

For the last several days I've done better with the anger. It's helped me get over it and I haven't been sad. I had finally gotten to the point to where I wasn't angry at her so much as I was at the situation. And then today happened. I'm not in the mood to get into it right now, but she definitely increased that anger and hatred by extraordinary amounts.

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F*ck that bitch ass cunt.

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Originally Posted by Frasbee [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

F*ck that bitch ass cunt.

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Your sarcasm is tiresome.

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Originally Posted by survivor08 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Is my mind the gutter mentality? How does a FLING not involve sex?
oh, just heavy petting and oral...but no sex...:mad:

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I was talking about the flirt buddy in the same sentence. A fling can be any short term relationship...one that you know will not go anywhere and is used mainly for romance, flirting, or even sex if you want. I don't know the true term for fling but I just mean any random fun person to hang out with and do whatever romantic.

A fling can be a one night stand or a sex buddy.


Cain, is she still contacting you during this time? She shouldn't play with your emotions like that and she should back off for now.

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Originally Posted by lesa [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Cain, is she still contacting you during this time? She shouldn't play with your emotions like that and she should back off for now.

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Several days ago she did. She did something today though that she didn't think I'd find out about. I sent her a message about it without actually saying that I know what she did and she lied, basically making it seem like I'm paranoid.

I'm waiting until the right time before I get all the negativity towards her off of my chest... namely when I get my shit back from her.

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Originally Posted by Cain [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Your sarcasm is tiresome.

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Who's being sarcastic?

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Originally Posted by Frasbee [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Who's being sarcastic?

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You never agree with me. The fact that you are here is the reason for my assumption.

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Originally Posted by Cain [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

You never agree with me. The fact that you are here is the reason for my assumption.

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You seem to be the only one who's counting.

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Originally Posted by Frasbee [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Yeah, but there's nothing like the sick pleasure of saying something, that one thing that can make a person feel so absolutely horrible about themselves. That one thing that will humiliate them in front of everybody. That sick and evil sinister pleasure of victory over the expense of another.

Hate helps drive you, fills your blood with tainted adrenaline, a quick fix to strength, a solution that only causes more problems. Gives you focus, meaning, an obstacle to conquer, a target to destroy.

You become the judge, the jury, the executioner.

Lucifer's mask, his vehicle, his hand.

You are justified, you are the oppressed, toppling a tyranny.

Smile.

Blind, you are malice afloat with angel's wings.

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I liked the post you quoted.

I will say that once I get everything back that I want back, I'm going to let her know exactly how I feel.

I'm trying to have some self-discipline and not go the revenge route like I want to.

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Originally Posted by Cain [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Several days ago she did. She did something today though that she didn't think I'd find out about. I sent her a message about it without actually saying that I know what she did and she lied, basically making it seem like I'm paranoid.

I'm waiting until the right time before I get all the negativity towards her off of my chest... namely when I get my shit back from her.

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OMG she's one of those kind of people? I don't know the details but why does she sound so full of ****? Why must she play her mind games and then turn them back on you as if you are paranoid. I've known people like that. Does she have a conscience and does she think her way of doing things is better?

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Originally Posted by lesa [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

OMG she's one of those kind of people? I don't know the details but why does she sound so full of ****? Why must she play her mind games and then turn them back on you as if you are paranoid. I've known people like that. Does she have a conscience and does she think her way of doing things is better?

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You know the details now.

Check your PMs.

She is full of it!

Me no like her and I don't know her.

yeah you're better off without that cunt.

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Originally Posted by lesa [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

She is full of it!

Me no like her and I don't know her.

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I knew it would happen. I knew that if she removed me, that would be the reason.

I can't wish anything good for her. I wanted to be able to get to a point to where I could hope that she had a good life, but I just can't do that now.

Of course he is better without her you nincompoops! We've been saying that for quite a while, have we not?

But Cain needs to be angry with himself, not her, because he failed to recognize that.

I hope she gets AIDs while she's pregnant and then her baby gets AIDs.

I just decided to end my chances with this girl because she betrayed my trust and she hated it when I ignored her the first time and I'm going to do it again this time.... why? Because I believe in an eye for an eye and she mad me angry why not make her? Some people believe in different actions... some believe to let go and move on, others believe in making the other person pay for their actions (maybe through hooking up with best friend or sending nasty texts), and some believe in simple "eye for an eye"... I know what makes her tick and I'm going to do that because anything I do will never amount to the pain she caused me and I'm not going to let her walk all over me.

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Originally Posted by anachronistic [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Of course he is better without her you nincompoops! We've been saying that for quite a while, have we not?

But Cain needs to be angry with himself, not her, because he failed to recognize that.

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Recognize what?

How many more times do I have to tell you that there were NO signs?

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Originally Posted by Cain [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Recognize what?

How many more times do I have to tell you that there were NO signs?

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What do you mean there were no signs? Go back and read all your threads! Not only were there signs, but big red flags!

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Originally Posted by anachronistic [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

What do you mean there were no signs? Go back and read all your threads! Not only were there signs, but big red flags!

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BEFORE the break up?

I'm not talking about things that happened after we broke up. I'm talking about there were no signs that the relationship was going to end before we broke up.

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Originally Posted by Cain [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

BEFORE the break up?

I'm not talking about things that happened after we broke up. I'm talking about there were no signs that the relationship was going to end before we broke up.

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Lol, which breakup are you talking about?

Exactly.

Stop blaming Cain! The woman repeatedly told him she loved him and wanted to spend the rest of her life with him, as well as communicated no doubts. He gave her the benefit of the doubt (if he even had any, which I'm not really sure he did) over and over because even on their breaks, she was still telling him she loved him. At this point it does no good for him to feel any blame.

She mind ****ed him, and alot of us have been in those shoes. The only thing you can really do is try to learn something from it and move on. Not pick apart what you might have done wrong.

'Wing is just into that whole "look within yourself" bullshit.

(He's in college)

You guys are being morons. So it's her fault he chose to be so persistent and continue with the relationship, red flag after red flag? Don't tell me there weren't red flags, I just might go back through each of his little stories and point out each one of them. Better yet, I recognize the red flags, if you don't, YOU should go back and look for them.

But you know what, it's not ****ing important. This relationship - not important at all, for what it's worth. No Frasbee, not "look within yourself" bullshit; rather, preparing yourself for the next time.

Anger, it doesn't help a damn thing. You're not innocent, you have no right to be angry. You can be disappointed, upset that things did not turn out the way you would have liked, but you have no right to throw blame around, or any of that kiddie bullshit. Agreed, we all have those moments where we lose our mind, but you've gone way over the top, with your drinking, your depression, hatred, and all this shit. Can you wipe your ass, dude?

The outcome of this relationship turns out to be in your favor, whether you choose to believe that or not. That girl - completely dumb bitch, I've been saying that and thinking that for quite a while, as well as other people. If you can get your shit together, you can meet a better girl, even tomorrow if you want. So why the hell should you be angry?

I've (honestly) been there before, so take my straightforward, harsh advice. If not, okay, keep falling flat on your face; you're welcome to think I am some full-of-shit college student, if you like, but I still stand by my words.

I think self-reflection is fine when one is ready for it. He just might not be ready for it right at this moment. He still needs to grieve.

Grief is for people who have lost. Cain has not lost... just thinks he has. He needs a little time to realize this. And he won't find it at the bottom of a bottle, or in the cracks of kicked-in concrete, or hatred in and of itself.

It doesnt seem like you want to get over this chick if this thread is still continuing.

I hope she ends up in jail where she has to spend her mornings sucking the toes of the Head Mama, the scent of the Mama's sex filling the air. And she sobs in to her pillow at night because she's separated from her AIDs baby.

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Originally Posted by Charlie Boy II [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I hope she ends up in jail where she has to spend her mornings sucking the toes of the Head Mama, the scent of the Mama's sex filling the air. And she sobs in to her pillow at night because she's separated from her AIDs baby.

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You've got some weird fantasies ;) lol j/k

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Originally Posted by starbuck [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

She mind ****ed him, and alot of us have been in those shoes.

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I like that phrase! It is so true and so many people do that.

"She mind ****ed him." It's so wrong when people do that. It's very selfish too because they say what they think is 'best' for you.

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Originally Posted by anachronistic [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Grief is for people who have lost. Cain has not lost... just thinks he has. He needs a little time to realize this. And he won't find it at the bottom of a bottle, or in the cracks of kicked-in concrete, or hatred in and of itself.

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It is a loss. It's a loss of his hopes and plans for the future with her.

what happened? was there another guy?