She should state the reasons for which she is breaking up, break up, the end.
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She should state the reasons for which she is breaking up, break up, the end.
Subterfuge. Cowardly. The End.
Unless by "the reasons" you encourage her to start with admitting to cheating which would be a very appropriate end.
Yes, after you justified by saying "the cause" and "the reason." It's clear that you don't agree with what she did though.Quote:
I am not giving justifications, I already said that she should have stopped herself, or better yet, not have gone to the party at all, or better yet, broken up as soon as she realized that the relationship was over!
But the very words "reason" and "cause" are justifications "moral" has nothing to do with what I'm trying to say here.Quote:
This is precisely my point. By "reason" and "cause" I am NOT implying ANY sort of moral justification.
Well, we don't know but I'm thinking that even if she was satisfied she still would have gone because she's insecure and not confident in herself enough to actually tell the guy outright that she had a boyfriend fromt he beginning (oh wait, she already admitted to that). My point exactly .. insecure people cheat. Even when they are happy in their relationship.Quote:
I hope it's clear enough now. I am just saying that IF she had been satisfied in her relationship, she probably (unless she is a chronic cheater, which we don't know that she is) wouldn't have gone to the party in the first place.
Anyway.. we all know each other's position on this and you and I are almost on the same page (except for those words "cause of" and "reason why" which you didn't mean to imply what they imply.
.. so.. so long on this one *waves*
You've yet to explain why you think she should crush him further by telling him what she did.Quote:
Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
WHAT?! So nobody should take account for their actions?
Then again, you'll probably just respond with some pseudo-evaluation of her motives for admitting it.
If she really cared about not crushing him, then she shouldn't have cheated to begin with. For God's sakes..
Wakeup, yeah to me the words "reason" and especially "cause" have no moral significance (not in this context anyway), and that's how I meant them... like a mathematical cause, purely logical. More precisely, it was a necessary cause, but not a sufficient one, for her cheating. Although you do have a point, about insecure people cheating even if they are satisfied with their relationship (I don't personally know about any, but I can imagine there would be some). So yeah, we agree!
Cheating is not a reason for which she is breaking up. I am sick and tired of repeating to you the same things over and over, without you even understanding them, so I'm going to stop.Quote:
Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
If she hadn't cheated, there's no certainty she would've broken up with him anyway and not continued her masquerade. In fact, I think it extremely likely she was just going to hold out for a long period of time before finally admitting she was bored. Cheating provided the impetus to break up; therefore, it should be treated as primarily the result of cheating. She as much as admitted she was going to keep stringing him along.Quote:
Cheating is not a reason for which she is breaking up. I am sick and tired of repeating to you the same things over and over, without you even understanding them, so I'm going to stop.