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He got old. After he did Bubba Ho-Tep he had a role in a spiderman movie, I think Sam Rami felt bad for him. He has done some voices for animated movies and video games, a TV show I think, but his acting career is all but done.Quote:
Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Yes. Yes, I would. A person like me just needs a good relationship as a buoy to rise up and start really living. It's all I really need.Quote:
Originally Posted by dem862 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I don't think you would be attracted in the slightest to a female equivalent version of you. LOL.
Two things immediately came to mind:Quote:
Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
1. You have to love yourself before a woman will be able to love you.
2. You need to be happy in your own skin and stop thinking that someone else will make you happy. If you pin all your expectations of happiness on someone else, then you'll be fkd royally and for a much longer period of time if the relationship tanks and they should leave you.
Lol,no, I really think I would be...it'd be awkward, sure.Quote:
Originally Posted by searock [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
That will be hard to do (not saying IMPOSSIBLE): with a girl or at least a date, it'd be way easier.Quote:
Originally Posted by Wakeup [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
As for the second; I'd just be happy I had a good relationship for once. As long as I wasn't cheated on, I'd be content without another relationship/
You're very ignorant when it comes to human nature. We've been trying to educate you but you don't listen very well. The fact that you don't listen very well, could very well be another reason why women don't tend to stick around you for long. I'll try once again: "In order for someone to like you (changed from 'love') you have to first like yourself. You don't like you much and it shows through with the brightness of a beam-me-up-scottie transporter beam.Quote:
Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
As usual, you didn't listen. I'll try once again: "you cannot say you would be happy with having a good relationship for once and you'd be content without another one because you have not experienced having one and then being without one ever again (yet) so you have no substance to base your findings on."Quote:
As for the second; I'd just be happy I had a good relationship for once. As long as I wasn't cheated on, I'd be content without another relationship/
Yes, I am sorry: I can see that I am quite abrasive and obstinate. Sorry. In real life, it probably doesn't show: I pass off as just a regular guy, with no deep thoughts or concerns.Quote:
Originally Posted by Wakeup [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
The second statement is debatable: It's like a numbers game. 1 is a horrible number. If I went the rest of my life just having had that one relationship, which wasn't great, so many questions will be left unanswered and I just hate that number. If I had one other relationship, but a really good one, I'd be happy to have a real relationship experience and be able to contrast it with the first.
I'm not going to argue with someone who has no experience in what they are talking about. If you had had one good relationship and came in here and said I had one good relationship and we broke up so I don't want another, then fine. You can, with having had experience be believable. Right now, you have no credibility in what you say on that particular subject.
I'll end with I agree to disagree.
Well, I didn't say I wouldn't want another but if I didn't end up finding another relationship, I wouldn't complain..
Yeah sure, in real life you pass off as just a regular guy, that's why you don't have friends or a girlfriend...
You should re-read Wakeup's post:
Get it? You need to stop expecting things/people other than YOURSELF to make yourself happy. Make your own happiness.Quote:
1. You have to love yourself before anyone else will be able to love you.
2. You need to be happy in your own skin and stop thinking that someone else will make you happy. If you pin all your expectations of happiness on someone else, then you'll be fkd royally and for a much longer period of time if the relationship tanks and they should leave you.
Girls love regular guys: You ever see a real original guy with a girlfriend?
You said yourself that in real life you pass off as a regular guy:Quote:
Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
So according to you, you should have a girlfriend. My point is and was, that you do NOT pass off as a "regular guy". Your arrogance, insecurity, snobbishness, inexperience, etc, emanates from you, and it's a major turn-off.Quote:
Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
As I said, re-read Wakeup's post over and over until you get it.
Good catch, Inspector Searock. *claps*
You not complain? Again your credibility sucks big huge baws, bro.Quote:
Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I really, really wouldn't: In fact, I'd almost be too overwhelmed to start over.Quote:
Originally Posted by Wakeup [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Now that I believe simply because you expect another to make you happy so when they ended the relationship you'd lose all sense of being happy ever again. Sad that.
Eh, that's not how I imagine I'd feel (but like you pointed out, there's no real way to find out except getting into that ideal relationship which is as likely as winning the lottery, getting struck by lightning and attacked by a shark at once): I picture myself being too overwhelmed to start over again if I tried to after something so great. Nothing would match that. But that's in the event I got all self-pitying and whatnot: I still think just one good relationship and I wouldn't really care after that.
You can surely think so, alright. But you cannot possibly know that's how you would react.Quote:
Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Did you get the point about your happiness not having to depend on anyone else but yourself? You need to make yourself happy first of all. If you can't be happy by yourself, you aren't ready for a relationship.
Yes, I get that quote. It's usually easier to follow for those who have good, reliable friends.Quote:
Originally Posted by searock [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
You can't have good, reliable friends if you're terrible to be around. Nobody wants to hang out with a sad, bitter slob that keeps finding excuses for everything (yes: it shows in real life as well as here). You don't need anyone else (friends or girlfriends) in order to be happy: you are all you need. The rest will follow.
I'm actually pretty good when hanging out: quite entertaining and not selfish. I just don't smoke pot, play nerdy PC games online or like to act all fruity and shit.
Yeah, you're just a regular guy right... (see post #93) facts speak for themselves.
You need to learn how to be happy by yourself. This is really all there is.
Maybe I lack testosterone? Too much estrogen?
Maybe trial and error doesn't exist in your life? You never try things, you immediately turn every single idea thrown at you down. Start with improving that, and then come back. Don't be afraid to try things.
Well, since the participants in this thread have been girls, they can't really relate to the male feeling of inadequacy: they can't relate to going years without a date and the sense of being unwanted in a span of years. I was once had "it", very briefly and then something happened years ago and I haven't even been close to having "it" whatever it was again.
I've actually decided to take some of the advice given: I hate to be right, but I think even in spite of that, I'll still fail when I start applying those things next semester.
What a waste.
What's that "waste" you're alluding to?
You, my time, the good advice on this thread...
Well, I'm not a waste; I'm a guy who'd be damned good if a girl gave him a chance. I'm planning on taking that advice but when it doesn't pan out, then I'll be able to say I was right. So...win-win, really.
Again: stop thinking/expecting that your happiness can come from without. Make yourself happy.
I'll do what I can. Really, I mean that.
OP, I can get where you are coming from. I don't think a lot of people in this thread do. There are a good number of people out there who get glossed over by the opposite sex for a long time - sometimes for good reasons, yes, but sometimes simply because they aren't as aggressive, good-looking, or otherwise "noticeable."
You should take an honest look at yourself, and if there are places you believe you can improve, then you should do that.
But you want the secret to picking up chicks? Here you go: Repetition.
That's it. You must make a habit out of approaching women. Ignore women's advice about what they want. They rarely know what they want. And ignore the PUA nonsense.
Improve what you can improve in your life. And then go talk to lots of chicks. That's it. Anyone who tells you there are other "secrets" is lying to you or trying to sell you something. And don't put much stock in all the "confidence" talk. It's vague, and not particularly helpful. You don't need to be confident. You just need to be a decent guy, and you need to talk to a LOT of women.
The guys who succeed with women approach more women. It's a numbers game. Bottom line.
That's a good take on it. And thanks for the empathy, bro: I've been derided like no other on this forum.
This was pure win; I'll take it to heart.Quote:
Ignore women's advice about what they want. They rarely know what they want. And ignore the PUA nonsense.
Takes confidence in one's self to be able to overide the angst and expectations of a negative outcome to be able to getterdone.Quote:
You just need to be a decent guy, and you need to talk to a LOT of women.
As for: "Ignore woment's advice about what they want." Fine, those lists change daily anyway.. as long as you don't ignore advice given about getting out there and mingle, as badger said (as well as several of us have) it takes action (talking to women) that's like mingling, right?
No one here thinks PUA mentality is anything other than nonsense but if you talk to lots of women, afterall its a numbers game, then you'll likely become more confident as you get those numbers gradually under your belt.
Ummmm it takes "confidence" to "approach" more women......duh.
This.......Quote:
Originally Posted by Wakeup [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Well, if interactions randomly occur, I can take it from there..Quote:
Originally Posted by smackie9 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Why don't you take an assertive training course?
Didn't even know that existed.