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That's normal, except for the porn not exciting you. At 22 I was waxing the carrot at least 2 to 3 times a day. Life was just something that accidentally happened between masturbation periods.Quote:
Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
That's because you have testicles. the 'tard doesn't.
lol, i never said she was in the wrong.. she lead him on by her friendly nature.. he knew what he was doing by getting her trashed, and taking advantage of a married woman when he knew her and I were not doing well.. and then her having stopped it.. I find it funny you bring this up when it has nothing to do with masterbating.. and I never had an affair.. nor did she , I did what she did.. I just kissed another woman . I forgave her, cause she forgave me and Im no hypocrite , I knew she regretted it, because I did as well`,and she did everything right afterwardas for me to believe her.Quote:
Originally Posted by tassy [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
You and your bf honestly have no issues, compared to other people and you are on this site because he masterbates, and you hate it cause you are to insecure and compare yourself to a pornstar. You need to get over the fact he will always lie to you about this.. and possibly your next bf, once this one finally leaves you, may even be worse. Like i said ALL MEN WATCH PORN OR HAVE IN SOME PART OF THEIR RELATIONSHIP AND JERKED OFF!!!..
I wasnt going to waste my time replying because you simply have no clue as to what you are talking about, I NEVER said I had a problem with my man (ex) masturbating in fact if you got your head out of your ass and really read things properly you wouldnt make such an ass of yourself in your posts, cos I said ...........look I cant be bothered with you and your misinformed opinions you are not worth my time.Quote:
Originally Posted by rob1984 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I already said IF my bf wanted to watch porn-it would not bother me. I'd watch it with him if he wanted. I know that everyone has fantasies and I am not insecure. I don't think its a big deal. I simply said people who do complain about there partner watching it-its normally because they are obsessed with it and it affects their relationship and their sex life. As long as it doesnt interfere in the relationship-most people would not complain about it.
They have their minds made up it seems Michelle, they pick out words in our posts and make up the rest, they are far to focused on how right they are and how if anyone's opinion differs from their's then they are wrong and they dont really read what is actually posted, I give up!! IMO let them think what they want, make up whatever they want cos they will anyway. Who cares really?? Have you noticed that all the porn lovers stick together? All for one and one for all porn porn porn!!!! LOL and if you differ from this even slightly you are condemed it's a joke really. If you or your man doesnt watch it and pleasure yourselves to it then you have something wrong with you it's insane and certainly not worth anymore of my time. A little of "each to their own" would go a long way on this site. I think it's funny how those accusing others of being controling are the worst at not accepting that others have a different opinion to theirs and become all defensive.
The only one pissing me off on this site is Rob. Love how he throws those words around-Tassy and Michelle are insecure (lol) because we don't watch porn. Maybe its because we have a life and better things to do and a man that we would prefer to have sex with than sit in front of a computer playing with ourselves haha! All the issues in his relationship (none in mine btw) and he has the cheek to slag me off because I don't feel the need to watch porn. Well f you Rob. Maybe its because we have a brain, a great imagination, can have the best fantasies and the best sex without needing porn.
If we disagree with him on anything-were insecure lmfao. Well maybe its because we can see straight through your BS Rob. Most men don't need to read a book and pretend to be some sort of alpha dog to catch a women's attention. A lot of men don't feel the need to go out and **** half the town to make themselves feel like more of a man. Some men actually have some confidence in themselves and don't need to prove their worth to the rest of the world. Some men have some integrity and respect for women.
And as for Vince-I love how you jump in half way through a thread without reading most of it and assume you know what your on about.
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Originally Posted by michelle23 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
GOLD!!!!! Hit the nail right on the head.
I have a great imagination and I use it alone and with my man!!!!
I dont feel the need to look at others doing their business without feeling and for money to get off I much prefer to think of the wonderful sex my man and I have had and that gets me off every time. BUT EACH TO THEIR OWN!!!!!!!!!!!!
Michelle you really better watch what you say about other people's relationships. I know you come on here boasting about your perfect relationship with your guy and think you can give people all this advice, but from what I gather you are 23 and this is your first serious relationship, correct? Or maybe your 2nd. Either way, you have been with this guy a decent amount of time and you are still very young. I am older than you (not by much) but I have had relationships, breakups, and experiences with guys. I wouldn't come on here all condescending and talk down to people who have had way more experience than you have. Nobody's relationship is perfect, so if you truly believe that yours is you're living in a fantasy world. It's not healthy to not have any disagreements or arguments in a relationship. Either you're lying to everyone here, or something isn't right with your perfect boyfriend. Also, you say people who sit in front of a computer and watch porn have no lives. No offense, but you have been here less than a month and have over 1,000 posts. I have been here 2 years and don't even have that much. Seems like you are the one sitting your life away in front of a computer.Quote:
Originally Posted by michelle23 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Just think of this quote from the TV show Scrubs -"Honey I know your type. It is so easy to see other people's problems from way up there on your pedestal, but you better be careful up there because if you fall off and have to walk around down here with the rest of us, I don't know, you might catch a glimpse of yourself in a mirror or the surface of a pond, or your boyfriends gigantic shiny head and trust me, you're not gonna like what you see."
In other words, you still haven't read the first post of this thread.Quote:
Originally Posted by michelle23 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I never said my relationship is perfect Ashley. We have had our ups and downs like everyone else. We have had some arguments but we have a healthy way of resolving conflict. I almost gave up on us a year ago as I was grieving and in a very dark place after someone close to me died. I no I am not immune to heartache. He could walk out the door any time and shatter my heart. It could happen to anyone. The reason I offended Rob is because he has made numerous smart comments at my expense just because he did not agree with my opinion. And I think he should concentrate on his own issues instead of coming on here being nasty to others. I have given plenty of people good advice on this website and gotten numerous thankyous and points since I joined.Quote:
Originally Posted by ashley89 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Also this is not my first relationship. I have had two relationships before this one and casually dated plenty of frogs in my teens. I have always been mature for my age and know what I want. Just because I am young does not mean my relationship wont last. It mightn't but it might.
The reason I have so much time on my hands is because I work as a store manager in a cash for gold shop 6 days a week 7 hours a day and we literally get about 3 customers a day so I have plenty of time to post here. I do not put myself on a pedastal. My life is far from perfect. My bf is and family are the only things keeping me sane right now and happy. But if someone is going to throw sly digs at me and be a prick for no reason-then I have every right to say what I think of them.Quote:
Originally Posted by ashley89 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
well by saying you have no issues, pretty much says your relationship is perfect.Quote:
Originally Posted by michelle23 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
actually alot of men do not know how to feel confident or act with women, so They need to learn, just like someone learning to drive a car. I no where said its for them to go out and screw everyone.. you say some men have confidence.. well some do not, and need some help.Quote:
Most men don't need to read a book and pretend to be some sort of alpha dog to catch a women's attention. A lot of men don't feel the need to go out and **** half the town to make themselves feel like more of a man. Some men actually have some confidence in themselves and don't need to prove their worth to the rest of the world. Some men have some integrity and respect for women.
I said you are insecure because your man watched porn, not you. Tassy is insecure because her man watched porn, not because he lies about it. its why she was upset she could not get a dildo , but he can watch porn.. so he is insecure about her dildo and she is insecure about the women on the internet.Quote:
The only one pissing me off on this site is Rob. Love how he throws those words around-Tassy and Michelle are insecure (lol) because we don't watch porn
you say this Tassy, but yet you wanted a dildo.. was your man not enough.. were you going to think of his penis when you used the dildo...Quote:
I dont feel the need to look at others doing their business without feeling and for money to get off I much prefer to think of the wonderful sex my man and I have had and that gets me off every time. BUT EACH TO THEIR OWN!!!!!!!!!!!!
yet smackie said, nothing about addiction.. and you made it about addiction.. seems you do not get enough attention at home, you are always here and need to make the threads about what you want.Quote:
And as for Vince-I love how you jump in half way through a thread without reading most of it and assume you know what your on about.
P.S obviously there is a problem when you and tassy simply thank each other on your posts and no one else does.
We have no issues right now and in general our relationship is good and always has been. That does not mean i think we wont have difficult times or that i think it will always be perfect.
I understand that not everyone has confidence but learning to love yourself for who you are and building confidence in a healthy way is surely better than trying to change everything about yourself?
My bf doesnt watch porn and its not bcoz i dont want him to. Iv already said numerous times it wouldnt bother me but i have no interest in it personally. I prefer to use my imagination and i presume he does too since he has no interest in it.
I didnt make this thread about addiction. I said the women who complain about it are probably complaining because it has gotten so bad that he cant perform sexually without it. I have never heard a woman complain unless it has become an obsession and i was listing the examples of things it can and does lead to occasionally.
And as far as i no-tassy came on this site in the past 7days. I have gotten plenty of positive feedback from others on here since then and before that.
Also there are plenty of other problems in tassys relationship-not just porn. They were clearly not compatable and plenty of people recommended she dump him. You on the other hand made a big deal out of the fact that she doesnt like the fact he watches porn but he also smokes pot, has been selfish and inconsiderate, has created a lot of stress and upset over a long period of time and you tell her there is nothing wrong with her relationship-that its all in her head coz shes insecure...
for one, you have no idea what your bf does alone.
[quote]I didnt make this thread about addiction. I said the women who complain about it are probably complaining because it has gotten so bad that he cant perform sexually without it. I have never heard a woman complain unless it has become an obsession and i was listing the examples of things it can and does lead to occasionally.[\quote]
thats talking about addiction. look i could careless, however do not impose your views on others, and say they are wrong. everyone is different, you do not know what you bf does alone, he does have skeletons in his closet.
my wife watches porn and she hid it from me so I do not feel insecure she is getting off on something else.. I had no issue with it, she could have told me, but I understand its a white lie, where it holds no bearing on our relationship.. I feel your bf may be doing the same.
smoking pot is honestly nothing, unless it consumes his entire paycheck and has no money for bills, no different then occasionally drinking. About being selfish... everyone is selfish.. she just needs to communicate with him, the fact that she is so unhappy and still with him, shows 1. its no big deal and there's more to it, or 2. she is dependent on him and needs him to live.
Wow you have everyones relationships all figured out, well done to you!!!!
Clearly you are going to defend dope and porn cos they seem to be your fav past times, they are both used to escape from reality, thought everything was all under control in your relationship why the need for escapes? But each to their own.
However I will say that i wouldnt want a man who has to gain confidence and/or an understanding of what a real woman wants in bed from watching porn. IMO That is insane!!! Does watching actions flims make feel like superman too? lmao
Thats like saying women watch soapies and chick flicks to learn how life is meant to be lol ............... Its not real, just acting, porn is usually all about man controling woman and her making fake noises to PRETEND she is enjoying it. Are you happy with your partners enjoyment noises? did she learn how to fake them while watching porn too? Whatever floats your boat.
I agree with some of Michelle's advice and some I do not at all and from reading through other posts i can see she feels the same about my advice also, however we dont feel the need to tell the over that they are WRONG, cos it is each to their own and that is how simple it is matey, all your 'thankyous' come from the same porn watching diehards who have to defend it's honour it's a joke, Michelle has said time and time again she doesnt dislike porn and it is her partner who chooses not to watch it, but oh no that is not read or acknowledged here she has to be wrong about that too, it's a bloody joke in here sometimes and to think so many come here for help and it looks like others just come here to put down and disrespect anyone who doesnt agree with their opinions.
lol, i do not smoke pot, but i did as a teenager, no one said watching porn is to interpret what a woman is looking for in bed, lol, do you drink at all. maybe some wine or anything ? but since its legal, its not bad for you. pot is the devil right.. ppl watch porn for the fake noises and how we want to have sex. show me where I or anyone has mentioned this. Again its your own insecurities that brought up the comments above. Woman now a days are smarter.. they play those being controlled roles cause they get paid for it.. just like some girls that strip and pay for college.. are they bad people.. no I think they are smart. I'll show my boobs and some guy will give me money,
I see you have very conservative views, hence why you have a hard time understanding everyone else, same as michelle. Keep living in your fantasy.
Michelle and Tassy, you should post pictures of yourselves, so Rob has something to, um, work with.
Dude, you owe me a new monitor. I just sprayed coffee all over it. :D
lol, that was awesome
OV - How's it going?? Welcome back. Long time. Post an update or, better, PM.Quote:
Originally Posted by Only-virgins [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
- Indigo
ffs what a witch hunt. small minded bored people.
Michelle - if you hate your BF using porn, I couldn't give less of a shit. Neither should anyone else. You feel what you feel. Just saying.
Personally, porn is just 'meh'. If a man wants it, fine, but why when he's got a hot, perfectly willing woman? Variety? Hell, get creative Cowboy.
Lol this argument is pointless and ridiculous since your clearly going to ignore everything i say and presume you no me and my bf.
Indireloaded this has nothing to do with me or my bf. He doesnt watch it but i wouldnt give a toss if he did. People on here are ignoring the fact that i pointed that out numerous times but are still getting out the pitchforks because i pointed out some of the reasons it bothers some women
And so it does. Just like some ppl don't like oral, or anal or whatever. People feel what they feel and like what they like, like flavours of ice cream. Is there logic to the fact I prefer maple rum raisin to plain vanilla? No.Quote:
Originally Posted by michelle23 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
[QUOTE=rob1984;876137]lol, i do not smoke pot, but i did as a teenager, no one said watching porn is to interpret what a woman is looking for in bed, lol, do you drink at all. maybe some wine or anything ? but since its legal, its not bad for you. pot is the devil right.. ppl watch porn for the fake noises and how we want to have sex. show me where I or anyone has mentioned this. Again its your own insecurities that brought up the comments above. Woman now a days are smarter.. they play those being controlled roles cause they get paid for it.. just like some girls that strip and pay for college.. are they bad people.. no I think they are smart. I'll show my boobs and some guy will give me money,
I couldnt read any further than "since it's legal it's not bad for you" my goodness what a fool you really are Cigarettes???????????????????? Dont know what else you had to say here as i could not read any more you make no sense. Take care now :)
try reading slower then.
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Originally Posted by michelle23 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Michelle, just a question regarding this contradiction. If you wouldn't give a toss if your bf watched it, then in saying that ^^^ if your bf wanked to porn, you'd be okay even though you think that men who wank to porn no longer find their gf's attractive?Quote:
Originally Posted by michelle23 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
To add: I realise you said 'watch' When the thread is about masturbating to it. What about if he masturbated to it but didn't deny you ever.
I know I've missed most of this discussion, but I agree it shouldn't be a problem in relationships. While it's great knowing that you get the other off, sometimes you just want to get off alone. At least, that's how I feel. I don't want a guy on top of me all the time. Sometimes, I just want release with private thoughts of mine. It's not cheating; it's just space in a relationship.
I read the beginning of this thread, and I saw people mentioning a user whose boyfriend thinks it's wrong for her to use a vibrator. My ex and I still keep in touch (only for the purposes of being civil and I feel he's suffered enough since the breakup), and his fiance doesn't let him touch himself, think about touching himself, watch porn, or imagine anyone else if he does disobey and masturbate. Karma's a b*tch.
How on earth do you even know such intimate details regarding an ex's new relationship. :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Rowen [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Since my what?Quote:
Originally Posted by michelle23 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
If someone prefers to watch porn all the time than to have sex with his partner- it prob is bcoz he finds her unnatractive or else he has an addiction.
What other explanation is there?
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Originally Posted by HeartIsAching [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I was talking to rob
Hahaha He tells me because he wants sympathy. I don't give it to him. He's made his bed, and I cringe at even being in the same room as the sheets. xDQuote:
Originally Posted by Wakeup [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
... lolzzz ...Quote:
Originally Posted by Rowen [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Ok... what is Rob's "Clearly"?Quote:
Originally Posted by michelle23 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
But you didn't say "then to have sex with his partner" This is where people challenge you. You simply said if they watch porn then they don't find their partner attractive. Then you said you don't mind if your boyfriend watches.. but you haven't explained how you'd feel if he masturbated to it while watching. Only how you feel if he watched and you keep saying you'd "join him" How would you feel if he wanted to do it alone but he still had sex with you whenever you wanted?Quote:
Originally Posted by michelle23 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
lol and the funny part is no one has even said this.. no one said they prefer porn over their partner. Simply men watch porn.. jerk off when they feel they want to.. has nothing to do with their partnerQuote:
Originally Posted by michelle23 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Well, it's true. lolQuote:
Originally Posted by Wakeup [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]