I said that it happens every day now, and people doesn't even notice (hence threads like this). It is night and day.
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I said that it happens every day now, and people doesn't even notice (hence threads like this). It is night and day.
Maybe an infinitesimal amount of women do..elsewhere in the world. Maybe 3-4 women approach first each day, whereas 10923984938 men approach first everyday. Quite disproportionate. It isn't night and day whatsoever.
Then we go into the argument that it emasculates men when women take on a mans role blah blah blah. A man needs to feel like a man blah blah blah. Women feel it's only proper to be pursued blah blah blah or they don't feel of value if the guy doesn't make the effort blah blah blah. Views will never change on this topic when it comes to the majority.
Nope. Though you can get over the fact that people have different opinions than you.Quote:
Originally Posted by searock [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
This is a more accurate reflection of reality. No one here is "angry" about this fact or "bitching." We're just calling things as we see it. The original post was asking about women approaching. Reality is far, far more men approach than women. The reason for this is because most women have been conditioned to understand they don't have to approach. And, the way the dating game is set up, most women don't have to. That's reality. That's what the OP was asking about, all other derailments aside.Quote:
Originally Posted by YoungCosmo [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
LOL HD, you're priceless... we've given you, on this thread alone, loads of examples of girls pursuing guys and you still can't accept it. Whatever, continue believing in whatever makes you happy, so you don't have to face the fact that if no woman has ever pursued you it probably means you aren't that attractive (not just physically) in the first place.
Of course, because if women did approach, they would have been slut-shamed. Now it's loooads better than it used to be even just a few decades ago. And it will get even better - I'm in my early 20s and every single female friend of mine has pursued a guy at some point.Quote:
Originally Posted by HDBadger [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
This doesn't imply that we (a) don't want to; (b) don't do it. In fact, both a and b are false.Quote:
And, the way the dating game is set up, most women don't have to.
Lots of examples? By which you mean, all whopping 5? 5 unverifiable, anecdotal "evidence" of a change in dating trends? And I highly doubt it gets better from here: women are inculcated with a princess mentality. Almost all women feel extremely entitled. They wear fur because they think they're more entitled to life than exotic animals and that animals are supposed to die for their comfort. Women feel like Asians deserve to work in sweat shops so they can get Chanel purses and Victoria's Secret bras.
5 on a thread on a forum is a lot of examples, plus all the people I know in real life who have pursued guys (as I said). Meh, maybe it just doesn't happen so often in the USA? May be a cultural difference...
BTW, that's f*cked up about furs. I'm sure the majority of USA woman aren't like that.
He just like to blame women for his own short comings that is all.
I like to blame women for his shortcomings too...Quote:
Originally Posted by smackie9 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Nah, whoever this "he" is, I am sure it's not a simple blame game. Broads are all the same, really.
Back to your usual leisurely trolling I see.
Broads are all the same? By your use of the term "broad" I can see you obviously know nothing about women. I can see why you have such a hard time "getting" chicks.Quote:
Originally Posted by YoungCosmo [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
You can't see shit, doll.
Okay. Keep whining about your lack of sex then. Lol.Quote:
Originally Posted by YoungCosmo [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Wasn't whining about lack of sex, Toots.
...Women have pursued me. But keep making comments about my character and looks. That's mature of you.Quote:
Originally Posted by searock [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
So wait, women have pursued you, we've all been telling you that most of us and most of the women we know in real life have pursued guys, yet you still maintain that women don't pursue guys? .................
Maybe we should define "pursue." Ye dames are probably distorting the definition so you can feel self-righteous and say women do pursue. "Pursue" does not count if it's: one smile in the direction of a man for some unknown reason, a woman ordering fast food through a male employee, saying "Hi" to a male, saying "Thanks" after a male holds the door open..Those do not qualify as pursuing. Therefore, the amount of women who have pursued and were presented in this thread as anecdotal evidence is probably closer to 0 now.
Let's see. I confessed my feelings to a guy when I was 15, got rejected. I invited another guy on a date to the movies when I was 16, he accepted (date never happened because he showed up late but I thought he wasn't coming so I left, haha I know pretty ridiculous :D). I got touchy and flirty with another guy when I was 19, he ended up being my boyfriend for 2 years (I initiated the physical playful interactions even though he was the one who asked me out, so dunno if you would count that as pursuing, maybe not). I confessed my feelings to another guy when I was 20, I've been in a relationship with him for over 2 years (still am with him).
Pretty much all of my female friends could tell you similar stories. Oh and before you jump to conclusions: I have been pursued by guys since I was a teenager, so it's not like I "needed" to pursue guys, I just felt like it and *gasp* I did.
Besides, I don't think there's a clear line most of the times. I mean, apart from guys who actually randomly walk up to you and start talking to you (which is not at all common in my country, pretty much nobody does it apart from foreigners and/or creeps), what generally happens is girl and boy meet via friends or in social gatherings (like class, work, church, party, etc), they talk for a while, they like each other so they start flirting, they agree to meet again just the two of them, they exchange numbers, flirt some more via text, go on the first date, flirt some more in person, etc... you get the gist. It's basically never just one of the two persons doing everything. At least not in my country.
I asked guys out on dates in my early to mid twenties...never been rejected ; )
It's useless, they're not going to believe us... *shrug*
Those count as pursuing. Girls don't do anything like that over in America (maybe in Canada, but Canada's a better place overall).Quote:
Originally Posted by searock [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I reject this statement.Quote:
Originally Posted by smackie9 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Good for you....still never stopped me from getting dates...
Was me rejecting your statement supposed to somehow retroactively stop you from getting dates in the past?Quote:
Originally Posted by smackie9 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Not to boast.. I am pretty amazing.. but I'm not THAT magical. At least.. not for what people pay me on this forum....
You can reject it all day long, still doesn't change the fact I never had a problem with asking guys out, and it has been a positive experience for me.
Those guys were lucky you weren't raised with a sense of entitlement. Today's broads all figure the world owes them. Everyone is supposed to give them free passes and they can just pass it off as "I'm such a bitch" and that STUPID Marilyn Monroe quote.
It's not how I was raised. It's my personality that challenged traditional gender roles.
I think you missed that it was a joke. I wasn't trying to actually change your past. If I were able to go back in time and do one thing.. despite how important you are to me Smackie9....... it wouldn't be to change your dating life.....Quote:
Originally Posted by smackie9 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Because men don't like being chase.
Believe me, I want to chase men so badly, but then I come off as "clingy" or "needy". The moment I don't chase, the dude up my butt like a thong.
I wanna be chased. VERY badly. I'd cut my arm off to be chased by a pretty girl. I'd probably kill someone to get chased by a pretty girl. I'd marginally stop short of having gay sex just to be chased by a pretty girl.
See? It's the same thing:
men don't want to be chased
women don't pursue guys
two blatantly false stereotypes... it's just what most people think because that's how they've been "programmed". Lots of people (male AND female) become more attracted to a person if that person doesn't seem interested... they want what seems unattainable. Plus, many guys need to "feel manly", so they might find it emasculating to be chased after rather than chase. Hence the misconception that ALL men don't like to be chased.
Same thing goes for women not pursuing: it's a misconception.
How stupid it all is. It's like, hey I should pull the pin off of a grenade and hold it in my hand because Hell, I think life could be a little tougher. It seems that there's no real time for maturity in life. Even adults act like children.
Yeah, at least not here.Quote:
Originally Posted by YoungCosmo [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
There's a difference between chasing and becoming needy and clingy. Texting a guy FIRST, for example, and letting him respond on his own time, rather than texting him 8 times a day and wondering wtf he's doing because he hasn't texted you back.Quote:
Originally Posted by Moon1336 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I agree there IS a big difference.
Not ANYWHERE. Sex isn't a priority. Girl called me last night hinting I could go over there and get some...But I was too tired from a bike trip to the beach.Quote:
Originally Posted by anonymous_a [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Yer a fool...............