When I was young and insecure, yes.
The point here slugger, is to keep trying.
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When I was young and insecure, yes.
The point here slugger, is to keep trying.
Yes keep trying and if its not working than stop and look at yourself.
She might have a friend that would be perfect for you if she's not interested. Why wouldn't you just contact her and stop being so afraid of not getting picked? These are strangers with whom you never even have to look at again if they don't respond to you so why are you investing so much into outcomes before they even know who TF you are or you know wtf they are?
Keep sending out emails, it's a numbers game so send out to lots of chicas within commuting distance.
I think I might end up setting a personal low for how many times I get rejected. I think I'll actually keep track on NotePad...
Uhm... If you read The Secret then you'd know that doing something negative is not conducive to reaching a goal. How about you start a "Vision Board" instead and paste everything you'd like to see acomplished in your life in picture form. Your negative plan will only bring more of the same your way.
Remember when I was in UK there was this dating site ZOOSK. And you could wink at pictures. I winked on all girls in the radius of 5 miles and 10% did respond(either with wink(like) or message "Hi.. etc. One even offered sex straight away). All those who had kids added me as a friend(friendzoned lol).
So basicaly you should hit all the girls starting from nearest ones and THEN choose from these who responded.
I was actually going to suggest that he look through all the local girls and wink at all the ones that are cute, without looking at their profiles. Bet he'd get some response.Quote:
Originally Posted by pcmaster [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
It's funny. Even if a girl that wasn't attractive messaged me first, I'd for sure respond and at least go on a date. But girls don't message first..
Moving on now (not sure if she's busy or lost interest but just moving on on the assumption that it didn't work out), if a girl states her name in her profile, good idea or bad idea: Say a hello using their name and then followup with an introductory sentence, i.e. state my name since it isn't in my username?
Send the email, forget about it, look for others, send the emails and forget about it, rince and repeat and just keep emailing without expectation. You'll hit payday, eventually.
Yeeeah.....But about using their first name to start a prospective conversation..Good? bad?
If she didn't want anyone to know her name, do you think she would put it in her profile? Common sense says: No she wouldn't put it in her profile if she didn't want you to know it or use it. Chances are high she put it in there to see if you actually read the thing or you were just hitting her up on her look.
I know its hard but try to have fun with all this. You have nothing to lose at this point so just relax, bro.
OK, sent something. Not holding my breath on a reply, though..
*claps* As Yoda would say: "Should be as it is."
Nah, Yoda would say
"Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering."
Oh, good. I did get a reply. The second message is such a challenge...gonna have to spend some time on this one before sending a reply..
Excellent. See? Keep slugging.
OK, I was thinking in the second message: I asked her about her tastes in reading, which are smart (history, biology and chemistry) so I dunno if in a second message it'd be too much to say "Wow, smart AND attractive!"...?
Nope, not at all. People like to be flattered, and she's obviously at least partially interested, she's corresponding. Go for it.
OK, I had enough of stressing over it so I just re-worded and sent. Man, this is stressful..
Now I wonder about dropping a bigger hint, like "Oh, you haven't been ice skating yet? I'd love to take you sometime ;)"
Give that a couple of emails.
The thing is....we started IM'ing..And this kinda came up. Does that count as a couple of emails?
So now she mentions if we went and of she fell, she'd fall into my arms 'cuz I wouldn't let her fall...I said something, she follows up with "that would be perfect"..I am hoping to end the conversation on a good note and also so that I can take care of other things, so should I say "I'd love to discuss possibly going and other things with you. May I have your number?"?
Kinda worried about going too fast although theoretically if there were dates, I feel confident i could pace between them...
Uhhh... if she said that then yeah, tell her you'd like to take her ice skating sometime.
But honestly right now I'd ask her if she'd like to meet - like I said, somewhere neutral and public so she doesn't feel threatened... like coffee or something.
OK, so before it starts getting to where I'm going to be providing a journal/compulsively asking for advice, I did get her number after a decent IM conversation...I THINK I can handle the rest by myself...
^posted at basically the same time. Had gone through with it already by the time both posts were posted.. I think what I'll do is have a phone conversation that hopefully will go really well and then like you said, invite for a meet.
Cool beans. Go for it grasshopper.
Holy god..she is just soooo pretty. And none of her pics appear to be with makeup. WIN.
Totally.
My wife is gorgeous without it... and doesn't wear it, usually. Love that I wake up next to her and she looks the same as when she went to bed.
Thanks HIA! And wakeup as well. Couldn't have done it with you two! Also, my own will deserves a little credit, too...
Your own will deserves more than a little credit.
You remembered to keep slugging.
Remember: Courage is not the absence of fear. Courage is experiencing fear and doing it anyway.
Phone call today kinda got sabotaged by the fact that the conversation was interrupted by my phone's battery running out...mid-sentence. So being that I was on bike heading towards the game, I had to rush to the nearest pay phone. Set up another phone conversation tomorrow afternoon.
Question: I was thinking about asking if she had Skype, as I could swear the phone she used sounded like a landline so if that is the case, I'd hate to tie up a family line...Good idea?
Let HER worry about tying up the family phone.
Really? Not sure quite what to take from that....
It means it's not yours to worry about. Her phone, her family.
It wouldn't be impolite to inquire if it's a bother, but beyond that don't sweat it.
You actually FOUND a pay phone?! I haven't seen a working payphone in years.
Interesting...That was different from what I expected. But OK, I trust you and vash. Just hoped for a little rationale behind the suggestion. Also, the idea was also partially to have a conversation not yet in person but not a blase phone call...i.e., converse but have the benefit of facial cues which is very important.
Yeah, took stopping at a few gas stations. In fact, I found one outside a market in a pretty ghetto area.
If she didn't want you to use the family landline, she wouldn't have given you that number - basic common sense.Quote:
Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I was imagining online dating today. If I was offered to do Skype, I'd refuse because it would be way too awkward. Conversation is always easier face to face - so I'd only do a café or a pub for first meeting.
Or strip club, or ice skating, or bowling. Active stuff is great too for first date.
I dunno...It could be somewhat inconsiderate. Hasn't even been established that it is indeed a landline but if it was, I'd be somewhat uncomfortable taking up their line..Quote:
Originally Posted by basilandthyme [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Good point. I guess I won't suggest Skype; and duh, conversation face to face is easier. I didn't think it was at the point where I ask about meeting up yet.
Bro..stop being illogical. It just makes you look like you're making excuses to get out of calling her for some unknown reason. She gave you the number she wanted you to use. End of.Quote:
Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]