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Briefly. Then the self-doubt would set in, and you'd start questioning as to why she is with you. You'd contradict her every time she said something positive about you, and eventually she'd realize that you distrusted her.Quote:
Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Yeah, that would be pretty friggin' awesome! That would ensure that after breaking up, I'd have been trained to get other girls!Quote:
Originally Posted by HeartIsAching [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Lol, nah, that's too basic, too NORMAL...I guarantee that would not happen.Quote:
Originally Posted by HeartIsAching [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
it would happen LR-till you boost your slf-esteem youll push every girl away coz f your insecurities. sorry but its a fact. you cant be in any sort of healthy relationship if you always feel not good enough for her. its that simple
I am sure I can. I think I know myself.
Hey, we should get a pool going! :P
Naturally any average girl would chew LR alive and spit him out. Unless he finds really insecure girl(so they can suffer together for a while) or goldiga(who will use his wallet as her own) or girl whos looking to be hes mother(so she can make him dependable on her). Anyway only way how to stay in a relationship for a while would be get together with one of these type of girls and realise that relationship have problem since day one so work on it since day one too. Like emotional support from friends and relatives, counselling, helpline, loveforum. It would take about 200 posts a day just to keep LR relationship alive. - Otherwise there is no way how you can stay in relationship longer than few months unless you find something that makes the man out of you.
Lol, I just love the vote of no confidence here...
they know what it takes to maintain a relationship..... I'm sure that anyone else who had no confidence would get told the same thing.Quote:
Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I'd have confidence up the wazoo if I were in a relationship. I'd have to.
If old dick can treat you this way. I wonder what young pussy could do to you.Quote:
Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Pfft. I've got spine to not allow a broad to run over me. In fact, that's exactly why I won't have anything more to do with flake girl and game playing girl. Don't treat me like some sniveling coward.
I've got a new theory: if a girl gets over 5 Likes on any of her FB pics, she's too good looking for me.
Yeah, probably.
Well, that pretty much rules out the entire female population. Have a nice single lifeQuote:
Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I came up with an idea earlier, it's going to prove something but I won't say what until/if it has the result I expect: From this point on, I'm just going to be a real happy-go-lucky guy. About everything. Optimistic about everything. I haven't decided the timeframe but I'll do it until it produces a clear result. So that means no bashing on anyone or thing. "Darfur? GREAT. It's awesome that there's injustice in the world. So good, really."
If you keep your back straight at all times, smile on your face and stomack in then after few weeks it will do magic to you.
I sure hope so. In either case, I win.
Why are you so binary in your approach? It's one of your biggest failings.Quote:
Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Positivity is great. Happy go lucky is great. Optimism is great. No bashing is great. But finding awesomeness in someone else's misfortune is about as unpleasant as a person can be.
I seriously can't work out if you're just trolling or if you honestly are this stupid/clueless.
I was hinting at the neurotic aspect of some who are overly optimistic. It's a real problem. I've seen some think every single thing is beneficial in some way, which tends to, like you point out, fall on the insensitive side..
So, don't copy them. It's great to find the silver lining, but not if it means being insensitive.Quote:
Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I would love to see your posts become optimistic and without insults to your peers. It's also worth spending time with optimistic people and following their lead. Negative people drain your energy - so avoid them.
There are two negative people in my life at present and I do all I can to avoid them. I even go as far as making excuses as to why I cannot see them. While I do try to enjoy all different types of people, I do have to avoid Negative Nellies because they suck all my energy.
My wife's kind of like that... overly optimistic, I mean. Finds the silver lining at ever opportunity, and when something really bad happens that she can't pretend is good in some way, it hits her harder. Panicking about a math test at mid-terms that she hadn't had time to adequately prepare for, for example. Totally fell apart after class, thinking she'd bombed. it.
My turn for once - I pointed out that she was carrying a solid A in the class and that a blown mid-term might bring her down to a B at WORST. Best part? She got a B+ on the test and is still carrying an A.
I call her Pollyanna when she gets too optimistic, and it makes her laugh.
I envy the chronically optimistic and happy people. I wish I knew their secret.
Ehhh... I often find it annoying. Well, perhaps exasperating is a better word.
Well, I guess I have been pretty bad. Sorry for the troubles, everyone; you're all very good and so kind to persist in offering me advice even when I was being obstinate, trolling, stupid, frustrated, etc.
I have decided to give up certain things that I enjoy but don't add to trying to live a productive and happy life. I don't think I stand a chance online because my messages won't get past all the other girls receive, so I think I'm going to try my hand in real life and give myself a better chance.
Who are you? And what have you done with LR ;-)Quote:
Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I like optimism, but it must be balanced with a bit of realism. I think resilience is the attribute I most value.Quote:
Originally Posted by HeartIsAching [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I suuuuck so bad with clothing. I just wear extremely casual clothing all the time and I am sure that is not a very attractive habit. Now I don't mean wearing extremely tacky colors or D&D shirts; literally, all my shirts are hockey shirts and I only wear shorts (although I THINK guys are allowed to get away with this in So.Cal where the winters are generally still pretty warm). I wish I knew where to turn for this; I figure to start there, as I think it would help to do s o.
And we're back to the idea of stylist. Or perhaps since you didn't get it, I may have been unclear??? I'm talking about a Personal Stylist - ask at the info desk at the Mall. Tell the stylist that you just want your own, individual style and not necessarily to fit in with any particular tribes.Quote:
Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Thankfully, you're already the type of guy who'd avoid the awfulness of low rider jeans. Uugh
I wasn't sure because I'd never heard of a stylist at the mall. As a matter of fact, I don't even think there's an info desk or any place in the malls here that even really offer any help...I'll look into it. Sounds expensive, though so that means putting that aside until I've saved money I can feel less guilty about on extravagances..
I would strongly recommend you get some pants even if just for dates. Part of the fun of going out on a date is getting dressed up with your partner. And your girl will really appreciate it.
One of the other options is just looking around at what others wear and how they wear it. Copy the looks you like.Quote:
Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
LR, if you are serious about being positive, then you need a new nickname. Something which will reflect your new outlook on life.
Reject no more
Starting Over
Loving Life
I'm sure you can come up with something more creative
My aunt is a little like that too. Overly optimistic. Too positive all the time. Its like you can never ever complain about anything. Im normally happy go lucky but every now and again you just gotta vent and say "uh I need a new job" or something but shes like "sure your getting paid aren't you? with a big smile *sigh*Quote:
Originally Posted by HeartIsAching [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
but then she falls apart over stupid things and cant handle any problems at all. Dont get me wrong I love her, shes great but sometimes its unrealistic to be that happy all the time.
Yeah. I think there's at least some nuances that have to be pointed out; looking cool isn't easy. Otherwise, any fool could do it. This is where it would take a girl_____friend.Quote:
Originally Posted by basilandthyme [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
My husband never used me to dress him. Not when we were teens, in our 20s, after our daughter was born or even now. You have an excuse for every aspect of why you don't get a goal met. Congratulations for being LF's least likely to achieve due to not really wanting to.
*bows*
So: What, if anything productive did you acomplish last night, sport?
Fashion is the hardest part. I question the orientation of any guy who actually knows it instinctively.
Anyway, last night I decided to stop being judgmental. If any of my friends would introduce me to the stuff they listen to, I'd give it all a fair chance. And if I ever got into a social situation again, I'd be sure to try to at least get acquainted. Plus, I just decided to walk away from what has been my universe in the absence of friends: hockey. I just don't find happiness anymore in religiously being involved in it. I wanna get out, be normal...That's my goal! To be normal.
Actually hardest part is fill the clothes with atractive human being. If you good without clothes than you will be good with any clothes.
I often question your psychological health but like you're assumption about questioning a man who can dress himself's "orientation", it has nothing to do with the question. :) Your attempt at deflecting the fact that you acomplished nothing to help you reach your goal is nothing new either.
DID you do anything to help with your goal of finding a chick to help with ALL that ails you or did you just spend it here justifying/denying/just plain bullshitting/deflecting another night away to the good folk of Loveforum?
One would think that a person such as yourself who thinks that having a girl is the answer to ALL of his problems would be doing more productive things in order to help him to find one. *shrugs*
Hey now, we just talked him out of his self-delusion about his looks. Don't give him an excuse to backslide.
"Talking him out of" ANYTHING negative only lasts until his next disappointment. Y'all should know that by now.
He might fair better if he DID something that would help with his goal other then be talked out of stuff for a day or two.