bad stuff happens.

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Originally Posted by Wakeup [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I often question your psychological health but like you're assumption about questioning a man who can dress himself's "orientation", it has nothing to do with the question. :) Your attempt at deflecting the fact that you acomplished nothing to help you reach your goal is nothing new either.

DID you do anything to help with your goal of finding a chick to help with ALL that ails you or did you just spend it here justifying/denying/just plain bullshitting/deflecting another night away to the good folk of Loveforum?

One would think that a person such as yourself who thinks that having a girl is the answer to ALL of his problems would be doing more productive things in order to help him to find one. *shrugs*

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In case you missed my edit, I actually DID do something to start making a little progress:
"Anyway, last night I decided to stop being judgmental. If any of my friends would introduce me to the stuff they listen to, I'd give it all a fair chance. And if I ever got into a social situation again, I'd be sure to try to at least get acquainted. Plus, I just decided to walk away from what has been my universe in the absence of friends: hockey. I just don't find happiness anymore in religiously being involved in it. I wanna get out, be normal...That's my goal! To be normal. "

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Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

In case you missed my edit, I actually DID do something to start making a little progress:
"Anyway, last night I decided to stop being judgmental. If any of my friends would introduce me to the stuff they listen to, I'd give it all a fair chance. And if I ever got into a social situation again, I'd be sure to try to at least get acquainted. Plus, I just decided to walk away from what has been my universe in the absence of friends: hockey. I just don't find happiness anymore in religiously being involved in it. I wanna get out, be normal...That's my goal! To be normal. "

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Well, there is something you've given up that you once had passion for, what will you replace it with?

As for the other stuff, I don't know about anyone else but to me you sound like the drug addict who keeps promising to do things and never do them.. the guy that promises he'll not do another hit after this last one only to just keep doing the staus quo. Actions speak louder then words, LR and everyone here, including me, are just enabling you to just talk and not act.

If you do all those things above you promised yourself you'll do then that will be some positive actions towards you meeting your goal. If you just say you're going to do them, then you're just like the addict and we're just being codependent in continuing to try and fix you while enabling you not to have to by feeding your attention about the matters that plaque you.

Drinking, partying, the glamorous life, hopefully.

LR my favourite style in a man is a tracksuit pants, trainers and a hoody. you can pull that look off easily or jeans and a hoody is good too.

dont wear those gay brown shoes or shirts with stripes or fecking cardigans etc. thats an awful look especially in young men

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Originally Posted by michelle23 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

LR my favourite style in a man is a tracksuit pants, trainers and a hoody. you can pull that look off easily or jeans and a hoody is good too.

dont wear those gay brown shoes or shirts with stripes or fecking cardigans etc. thats an awful look especially in young men

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My wife likes me in grubby jeans and a ratty t-shirt covered in sawdust. :D

Takes all kinds. :)

She also likes it when I put on a suit and tie and we do something nice. Says I clean up good.

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Originally Posted by basilandthyme [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I would strongly recommend you get some pants even if just for dates. Part of the fun of going out on a date is getting dressed up with your partner. And your girl will really appreciate it.

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I do have an outfit for going out and dressing up, nothing fancy but suitable for the occasion.

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Originally Posted by basilandthyme [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

LR, if you are serious about being positive, then you need a new nickname. Something which will reflect your new outlook on life.

Reject no more
Starting Over
Loving Life

I'm sure you can come up with something more creative

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I can't find that option. Are we able to change user names?

Yes, you just have to delete your account.

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Originally Posted by pcmaster [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Yes, you just have to delete your account.

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Hmmm....and it's kinda sad to lose the history

Except in my case. I guess I ought to be glad to delete it.

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Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Except in my case. I guess I ought to be glad to delete it.

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A completely fresh start is not a bad idea at all. Though sometimes it can be nice to look back on the past and see how we've progressed.

(sitting on the fence here)

You don't HAVE to delete it. You could just create a new one.

There are lots of accounts here that have been abandoned and new one's created. Just start a new one and let the other threads and posts fade further and further into the bowels of the Loveforum.

Whether or not you have to have permission from LA to keep two accounts is another question.

I would just ask loveadmin to change my name based on inapropiate name.

So on the subject of bad stuff happening, I have a question about bad stuff regarding dating and love for you guys: Were there any blown chances you really regret or still think about?

Yes, not expressing feelings, not saying what I really want to say and not trusting, believing myself, thinking im not good enought. By doing so not letting myself be happy, not believing someone could like me just as I like them and most importand not listening to my heart.

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Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

So on the subject of bad stuff happening, I have a question about bad stuff regarding dating and love for you guys: Were there any blown chances you really regret or still think about?

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Blown chances... yeah, there were blown chances. Lots of them.

Do I regret them, or think about them? **** no. I'm married to the woman of my dreams. That's how it works.

Doesn't count. You're married. It's considerably easier to sweep things under the rug when you've got closure.

How much did you get rejected, HIA? With your lines, I'd honestly be surprised if you've ever struck out, they're so good.

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Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Doesn't count. You're married. It's considerably easier to sweep things under the rug when you've got closure.

How much did you get rejected, HIA? With your lines, I'd honestly be surprised if you've ever struck out, they're so good.

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Dude... get over yourself. It totally counts.

How much did I strike out? Lots. Lots and lots. More than I didn't.

But I didn't give up. You don't have to either - in fact, you shouldn't. You CAN'T WIN if you don't play.

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Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Doesn't count. You're married. It's considerably easier to sweep things under the rug when you've got closure.

How much did you get rejected, HIA? With your lines, I'd honestly be surprised if you've ever struck out, they're so good.

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As a matter of fact - not fiction... how the **** do you think I GOT that way?

OK, not counting the odd stuck-up bitch...How many times were you rejected by girls who led you on or seemed to show interest and a desire for you to approach them?

And I assumed it came naturally to you. Sometimes it does.

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Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

OK, not counting the odd stuck-up bitch...How many times were you rejected by girls who led you on or seemed to show interest and a desire for you to approach them?

And I assumed it came naturally to you. Sometimes it does.

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More than I can remember. It's been a long time for me, as you are wont to point out.

I've asked a LOT of women out. More said no than yes. That's the way it works.

My dad, many years ago said to me: What've you got to lose? Just ask. If they say "no", then move on. If they say "yes", then that's a beginning. You can't win, if you don't play the game.

He also said (and I get that it's cliched) "Winners never quit, and quitters never win."

So whatcha gonna be, Cupcake? A quitter? Or a winner?

Oh, I'm not relapsing into trolling, venting or being depressed. I was just wanted to read some experiences that'll really put things into perspective.

One thing you've got to get over IMNSHO, is saying that people that are happily married "don't count". Because they're the ones that have won the ****ing lottery. They're the ones that got it right. They are the ones that know what's up, how to get there, and more importantly, how THEY got there.

Wakeup. Indireloaded. BasilandThyme. Me. Smackie. Boisdevie (ok, he's not married, but has a steady GF for some time now.), others I'm not thinking of right now...

We won the ****ing lottery. Some of us had to learn some shit first. Some of us learned it the way.

I had to learn shit the hard way, but I've got it now... and that's a big part of why I'm ON this forum, I want to PASS SOME SHIT ON. I want the next generation of young bloods to benefit from my ****ups. I want to help young people (like you) figure it out.

We took 27 freakin' pages of our time trying to talk you through it. I was genuinely happy when you got a date set up, and I was saddened when it didn't work out. I hope that you don't give up - you've got a lot to offer.

DON'T give up. Part of the reason I removed you from my ignore list is because you didn't give up. Pansies give up. Losers give up. Sissies give up. You've shown yourself to be not a pansy - was I wrong? Probably not, I'm seldom wrong.

Oh, I'm not going to give up. I decided that once I get the make over, I'll take every opportunity I get. And when I fail, I might use it for the stories I am going to write for Creative Writing next semester. That and channel the disappointment into energy for workouts.

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Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

OK, not counting the odd stuck-up bitch...How many times were you rejected by girls who led you on or seemed to show interest and a desire for you to approach them?

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Even from a Female point of view, a number of rejections here too. Though they weren't technically rejections because it was more a case of me mis-reading their signs of interest....but either way, it was still a case of thinking I had a chance when I didn't.

I see. But it's not like girls really put anything on the line or risk humiliation?

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Originally Posted by basilandthyme [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Thanks for your kind words Rowen. But he won't be an 'incredible man' in the regular sense of the word. He'll always be dependant on others and I can only hope that his sister doesn't have her life too impacted by him when we're gone.

But you are right that it's nothing to be ashamed of. Best thing about having him is that it's given me a window into the souls of others. I quickly learned which people to have around me and which ones to let go of. And I've also learned that there are far more good people than bad - because I had to let go of very few.

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^ Just so you know, I'm mentally giving you reputation points right now because the button won't let me give them to you right now. But you're right that he will be dependent on others; I only meant in his heart.

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Originally Posted by IndiReloaded [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

This thread is embarrassing. No-one posting here has real problems. It's just life, folks. If you want to see problems, visit the 3rd world.

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Everyone has problems. Granted, some are to a more worse condition than others, but the idea of "real" is all subjective in this case. What may not be real to you might be the world to someone else. Am I saying that I have it worse than someone else? No. All I'm saying is that everyone is troubled in this world. Everywhere.

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Originally Posted by basilandthyme [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Dude, alcohol helps most people be more sociable and let down their hair. Welcome to normality ;-)

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^ I can testify to this. :S After a couple shots of vodka, I feel pretty relaxed and calm in social settings I'd normally be very uncomfortable.

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Originally Posted by vashti [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I envy the chronically optimistic and happy people. I wish I knew their secret.

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Me too. I'll admit that I just try to be positive.


Wow, I disappear for two days, and all the fun stuff happens. haha But in all seriousness, I'm glad that things *seem* to be turning better, at least a little, from what I've read here. :S

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Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I see. But it's not like girls really put anything on the line or risk humiliation?

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Of course they do.

Yeah, I guess it so risky to choose between a rich guy and another rich guy to be a home wife for...Sorry, ranting again. And daaaamn, my yoga instructor is SOOOOOOOO hot...

No, they suffer the same insecurities that we do about the opposite sex. It's more normal for guys to ask girls out, so they usually feel insecure when they're not being asked.

What's really sad about that is that most guys are afraid to ask the really beautiful girls out, so often they don't get asked... and it makes them feel as if they're undesirable. That's a big part of the reason you should get over your fear of the word "no", and just go ask some girls out.

I think once I get the makeover done, I'll try asking some beautiful girls out and test what you're saying. It'll be funny when I get rejected! Or maybe I could even turn it into bets and win: "Hey (friend)! I bet a beer that I'll go up to that girl!' I've got another idea to test out: my "Make Bad Shit Happen to You to Get Tougher" de-pansification hypothesis. The more I get rejected, the tougher I'll be!

Be even funnier when you get a date.

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Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I see. But it's not like girls really put anything on the line or risk humiliation?

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Imagine getting the dating rules mixed up and thinking that physical/sexual affection means they like you. But they don't want a relationship - all they want is sexual attention. And you've given them what they want and you've discovered you mean nothing to them.

How in the world is this not humiliating?

It's so obvious when sex is just sex. I don't understand the "confusion" (in fact, I don't understand "confusion" when applied to dating; it's very simple. You like them or you don't. No grey area)/

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Originally Posted by HeartIsAching [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Be even funnier when you get a date.

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Yeah, then I'd be the guy envied for once. AND I'd have a date.

Same risk for guys. There are girls that are pushy and will eat you alive just because you are good looking. Yet afterwards act less than friendly.

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Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

it's very simple. You like them or you don't. No grey area)/

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This binary thinking is (one of) your problems.

Or maybe I'm just not emotionally whack. Where's the "confusion"? "Derp, I dunno if I like him/her...*giggle*" It ain't elementary school.

You can like somebody well enough to **** them, but not want a relationship with 'em.

Hell, you don't even have to like 'em if they're sexually attractive enough. Sometimes grudge-sex is the best kind.