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Flirting isn't difficult. You know that. What's difficult is getting past your fear of being rebuffed. That's why you find it difficult.Quote:
Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Well, when I was typing that, I couldn't be sure at the time if she definitely didn't care for it. Now I know she doesn't. What a bitch! Even worse, our match % if over 90!Quote:
Originally Posted by Wakeup [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
For me, it's the opposite: If I had good flirting material, I wouldn't be scared whatsoever. But I have no flirting aptitude whatsoever; I think a potato could do it better.Quote:
Originally Posted by HeartIsAching [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
More cryptic crap from you LR. Stop being annoying and have an adult conversation with us in here at least. What happened? Not your commentary or your opinion.. just the facts jack.Quote:
Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Never mind, it doesn't matter. Just next her and onto emailing someone else.
Lol, whoa whoa whoa; I didn't think I was jerking anyone around. I don't possess the kind of psychic abilities to read the girls' minds to know if I'll get a response or not. I did not; very disappointed. Might be one of the worst rejections yet. Oh well..
Well, I got a response from the girl that wants to meet. Thursday around 5, it would seem..
just because she didn't answer you hardly makes her a bitch nor does it make you a failure.
Good news on the Thursday at 5:00. Make sure you confirm on the day of and that she confirms it's still on.
Yup. Now the thing is, since she lives 20+ miles away, I'm wondering whether or not it would be courteous if not the expected thing to do to ask to meet at a coffee shop halfway.
That would be a fine suggestion.
agree! Have some suggestions ready as to where to meet half way and tell her if she has a preference for a place to let you know.
Congratulations.
Hm..now what I uncertain is: so I mention a place in a city that is halfway. Should I be worried about not setting a location in a place in her city? Is she sort of expecting me to? She mentions that there are tons of coffee places "down here"..Arrgh. So confused!
So what I was thinking of proposing was meeting at a place at one beach; she lives at a beach city, so my thinking was making it WAY easier on both if I set it at another beach city. I'd only have to take one street down and thus not risk getting lost or crashing (extremely nervous driver; I only drive if the way to my destination is a street I know) and for her, the drive to this beach city is literally along the coast, one street down Pacific Coast Hwy. that would make converging extremely simple.
Good Luck!
If she no-shows or is absurdly late, I wouldn't want to have wasted too much of my time travelling to meet her. I waited half an hour to meet a chick one time. Luckily, I had nothing better to do at the time or I would have left. She blamed traffic of course, or parking, or something. But I lost a lot of my motivation to see her again after that, and in fact, I just stopped contacting her when it became apparent her sluggishness was habitual, and included responding to e-mails.
Tell me I done good: I suggested a spot that is actually literally a few steps away from the beach. That way, if all is good initially, a nice walk along the beach before parting ways might easily be possible.
That's an EXCELLENT idea.
Sweet. Seems I'm somewhat capable of good decision-making re: girls. I also had the thought of parking in the structure literally around the corner from the cafe, so perhaps thinking of at the end of the first half, so to speak, asking if she'd like to stroll on the beach barefooted so if she didn't park nearby (kind of a crazy crowded area with somewhat weird parking) that we could go to mine, drop our shoes in the trunk and head for the beach.
Good? bad?
Don't get ahead of yourself. Just keep it as an option, see how things go. If they are going well, it won't hurt at all to suggest a walk on the beach. She may be a bit leery of putting herself in potential harms way by going to your car.
Good point. I guess I get really carried away with my imagining of how things will go; this habit of thinking ideally might explain why I get really thrown off in any area of life when even a single thing goes wrong, ESPECIALLY at the start.
Too late it's already started.... you have till Thursday to pace the floor in self doubt...have fun :)
Yeah, I gotta script what I'm gonna say, how to react if this and that happens..
Oh brother **roll eyes***
Looooool...OK, I was only half serious: I'll only spend half my time picturing it. I mean, this is it: my LAST shot at it. In fact, I didn't even think I would ever get this kind of opportunity again.
You'll be fine. Just be yourself.
Next time don't give up so easily.
Lol, thanks for everything, bro. You're a righteous guy.
I wonder if setting it towards the end of the work/school week was a good idea. To be honest, I had time available the other days but out of need to prepare and dread, I kinda pushed it back a few days..
Quit stressin'.
Buy yourself a six-pack of beer the night before and drink it watching a hockey game or something so you can sleep, or some sominex if you're liable to get a hangover.
Gee whiz, just when I thought the complicated part was over....I set the spot, and she asks if it is the halfway point for us. Not quite; I made it easier for both, but she would have to drive 8-10 miles less than I would. Now how do I answer? It makes me suspect that perhaps she can't get there...hurm..
Just say "Pretty much", and leave it at that.
Yer making this more complicated that it really is. This is just a meet and greet, so she knows you are not some creepo. She's going to be nervous to you ding-a-ling.
Lol, but this time it wasn't me who's making it more complicated (for once). And what's that about a ding-a-ling? Somebody channeling the ghost of Chuck Berry this morning?
Now provided nothing else funny happens, I have a response confirming the place and time so I am thinking of just saying "Ok, so 5:30 at the (place). Here's my number: (x)" although on the other hand, maybe I should get her number so I can call her the day of to confirm? What's worse is, she says she doesn't get out of class until 4:30 and I imagine right after she might head out to meet me there...ARRRgh.
Just send her a message that says "In case you need to get in contact with me, here's my number. Then leave it up to her to give you her number or call you. Gives her the control and won't make her feel like you're asking for her personal contact info. She may VOLUNTEER to do so, but it removes the pressure.
Oh yeah, and maybe send that the day before along with "Just confirming that we're still on for tomorrow" - no need to let her know that you think women are stupid and can't remember where/when she agreed to meet.
Geez...seems like I can only get half of the right ideas.
Nah, you have the right instincts, but look at it this way - would you send that message to a guy you were supposed to meet? Probably not.
5:30, typically the middle of rush hour. Travel time might be a factor. However, if it is working out, it could morph into the evening meal at a romantic little bistro. Just the two of you. A glass of wine. Live jazz music playing somewhere. She flips her hair. You catch a sparkle in her eye. Words start flowing fast and furious. Sparks getting ignited. She whispers in your ear "You wanna?" You say "Well, actually this is just a meet and greet. Nothing sexual is supposed to happen until the third date." She rolls her eyes and walks away.
^^^lmao! :p
That is so much better than my vision of it; in mine, it turns out she's a replicant.Quote:
Originally Posted by dem862 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Seems like the sort of thing I actually HAVE been saying to those who I've had to meet..Quote:
Originally Posted by HeartIsAching [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Uh huh.
Remember when I said I wish I could just take you out as my wingman? You probably wouldn't have had such a great time, that being the case. I'm a blunt and direct enough communicator that were you to say something like that, I'd say back "What motivates you to say that?"
A better policy if you can cultivate it, is to assume that they remember, assume that if they don't remember, your gentle reminder (like 'are we still on for tomorrow?') will be sufficient to jog their memories, and further that if they don't, they'll pick up enough to go through their email and find out when/where they're supposed to be.