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LOL! I there is an Austin Powers theme on the site these days....
OK, so now the conversation is over; we're set for Thursday so I haven't got to worry any further about correspondence except a confirmation email.
So no pressure at all: if I **** up, this only the last chance I'll have the rest of my life and blowing this opportunity will only hang over my head until I'm on my death bed. No pressure at all..
Horseshit. It's not even close to your last chance. You're so damned young, and everything feels so important and significant... it isn't really like that.
When you send your confirmation email you say in there that you're really looking forward to meeting her F2F. Also, you could send it on Wed rather than Thursday.
Oh, I was planning on sending it Wednesday. Considering that responses take hours between, owing to her schedule, I expect to send it early in the day...
And bro, it took me YEARS and extremely good fortune to have a chance like this. Sucks that she's moving: a lot in common AND c'mon, no other girl will ever message me first like she did (although I actually was going to message her first, except I had to rush out the door to get somewhere).
Uh... no, it didn't. It took a couple of weeks of effort after you were finally convinced to try.
Lol; I meant, it's been years since I've had anything going with a girl. 2010 was the last time, and she was drunk. Prior to that, I hadn't had anything since late 2008. Since 2008, I've gotten better at everything except with girls, who I only seem to regress with and actually keep getting worse with..
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Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I'd like to give you some advice. It's great that you have a good vocab, but using words such as "eponymous" and "meritorious" is risky when you're with a girl. If she's also got a good vocab and inclined to show off that vocab, she may be impressed. But if she's a bit more down to earth, she's likely to think that you're a wanker.
Though I guess that if you will only accept a girlfriend who has an extensive vocab - you've got the perfect method of having the others weed themselves out ;-)
Edited to add: please spare me the jibes about dumb Americans. I know a number of extremely intelligent people who speak in a manner which is accessible to all. For them, being understood by different types of people is more important than displaying intelligence.
Excuse me but you've got nothing "going" with this girl either. It's a bloody first MEET nothing more, nothing less. You're working yourself up to be a hateful little boy again who thinks all women are C words (especially the "hot" ones) if this doesn't work out. Cut your expectations and be more mature about the reality of this situation.Quote:
Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
It's fine to be excited. It's certainly emotionally damaging to be so invested in someone and expecting so much from someone you've not even met.
STOP it.
*As for your "the last time I had anything "going" with a girl" That is your fault. You stop pursuing then it stops. The males have been doing the majority of the initial pursuiing since the beginning of time.
I agree with Wakeup. You are just meeting this girl. Don't build it up to be some great thing. This is just an opportunity for you guys to meet and get to know a little bit about each other.
Just don't be a doosh and talk over her head. Ask her questions, listen, and respond. I would also think about a few conversation starters/things to talk about before, as usually as a guy we have to keep the coversations going. Also, assuming you both are 21 alcohol is a good thing. Have a drink or two it will loosen both of you up.
I never said it was anything more. But this is technically even the first remote opportunity, and could pretty well be the last.
You know if you were in reach, I'd smack you upside u head. You DID say exactly that (not in so many words) but yes, you're putting far too much value on this meet. It's going to turn you jaded and totally unable to live with if she doesn't see you again or if she does and she moves away.
STOP IT.
it will only be "the last" if you go into your usual pattern.
"Anything" also includes getting a girl's phone number, meeting her anywhere (platonic or otherwise)...In all those years, I just hung with the guys, sorta hoping for some miraculous introduction or random event like hooking up but wasn't counting on it.
But I like that you can tell me what I meant. Maybe you can take my quizzes for me; I know the material but the questions are SO poorly worded that I get at least 3 of 10 wrong even though I know the material exactly.
Grow up. You are what you eat and the reason you've not had any thing "going" with any chick in and dynamic is because you stop trying.
It's clear no matter what words you use or what excuses you spew to try and make it look like you mean something else.
Just go with an open mind and without thinking that this is going to be the love of your life as she moves away and you're on here in 10 years telling all the new posters how your last chance, the last thing you had "going" with a chick was in 2013.
"Z" snaps.
I wasn't thinking "love of my life", at all: I ain't dumb. BUT..I kinda secretly hope it turns out to be casual, physical fun. That'd lift my esteem right up!
What does " 'Z' snaps" mean?
And how many times do I have to say that asking questions doesn't win a girl at all; it gets a guy Friend Zone'ed? I'm just trying to figure out WHAT it is exactly that gets girls...A guy definitely has to be an ace text'er or he'll die alone for sure. Hm...He's got to be arrogant and try to compete with every guy, even strangers..I also suspect that a guy has to be bold enough to do just do, without asking (e.g., kiss her and tell her she knows she wants to be kissed; put his arm around her waist, same line as with the kissing). Girls are always being asked questions by guys; WTF are girls, celebrities and us guys are paparazzi? This might explain why they go for self-centered guys; they want to have to fight for attention.
Yeah, you're right.
Hey guys, quit giving him advice - the virgin that's been alone since 2008 already knows everything about women. We can stop now.
Lol. Well, explain this to me: There seems to be some kind of limit as to interest and questions a guy can ask before he gets Friend Zone'ed. I mean, if a guy really cares for a girl, why would she risk free therapy for a relationship? amirite?
Yes there is limit its ussualy the first date when the girl kinda think the guy is ok but there is no spark. Its because chemistry is lacking. Like kind of BF GF chemistry that comes from touches. At least give a kiss on the cheek on the first date. It doesnt even have to be a date just a short few minutes talk asking for phone number and its still ok to peck on the cheek.
Ofcourse if girl lets you touch, it doesnt nessecary matter that she likes you more than a friend. Its like you wouldnt feel turned on if your grandma touch you(or maybe you would I dont know). My point is diference between friend and boyfriend is mostly skin deep feeling.
Seems pretty sound. How does one even know if they're dating a girl, anyway? Once I was seeing a girl, and in our conversation she awkwardly said "...since we're SORT of dating.."
Soooo...there's a girl from my town! I CAN'T let this one get away. It's too perfect. Advice?
What you wana do with her? How would a perfect date turn out? What should be said and done to make you happy?
I'm not even thinking "dating" with this girl, to preempt any Wakeup comments..
Anyway, let me see..
Oh yer a cocky bastard now....wait till Thursday when yer shaking in yer boots lol.
Tomorow wakeup will not even remember what she posted yesterday. Thats not excuse. So that means your perfect date would be satisfying that green avatar?
Theres lot of options but in the end of the day none of it matters, its the grey avatar that matters - only hes responsible to make his life happy.
Oh lol, that is NOT what I meant to say (although I do fantasize about it going there; in reality, it probably won't be anything more than a platonic and a disappointment to me).
I meant that, I am assuming that this meet is simply that and not a thing else.
And as for this girl in my town, kinda hesitant. In her profile she says she lost a family member 2 months back. I'm thinking maybe now is not a good time, yet why would she have a profile on a dating site? Plus, I think it is relatively new: I notice when someone is on OKC from my town. It's very rare.
... and, there you go again. Negative expectation are still expecatations. Stop it.Quote:
in reality, it probably won't be anything more than a platonic and a disappointment to me).
Good point. I should just look at it the way I look at appointments and interviews: a good challenge, something to get up early for and look forward to. For some reason, I just haven't been able to think that way. Those things generally go very well for me, but I haven't been 1 on 1 with a girl in...I can't remember.
She's just a person, bro.
Don't worry about not using original pick-up lines. Who does? You need a practice girl. You could try flirting online, but eventually your mannerisms and stuff need to be practiced in real-life.
(holding loud speaking) GUYS, WE HAVE TO STOP TELLING HIM TO ASK QUESTIONS. HE'S TAKING THE IDEA LITERALLY . (lowering loud speaker)Quote:
Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
When people say "ask questions" what they really mean is a) don't talk about yourself constantly, b) get to know how she thinks and c) help her feel comfortable with you. Let's dump the phrase "ask questions" and replace it with "get to know each other"
Getting to know each other is NOT about giving her free therapy sessions! Heck, if all a girl does is tell you about her dramas when you're getting to know her, you need to dump her. While it's great to support a friend or partner in need, if someone only ever uses us for support, they need to be cut loose.
During the time when you're getting to know her, it's also OK to talk about yourself. It's about the art of conversation. It's about finding things in common, it's about exploring each other's ideas and beliefs, it's about making each other laugh.
You've said previously that girls are very simple to market to. So put your money where your mouth is - get out there and market yourself.
Ohhh....I wish they taught this sort of thing in high school. It would've helped tremendously.
They did... it was called co-ed square dancing. lol :DQuote:
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Square..dance..ing? o.0 Kidding, I know what it is. But today high school helps in no way whatsoever.
Sandals... he's in SoCal.Quote:
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And the frequent Friday night dances.Quote:
Originally Posted by Wakeup [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
You guys had it way better. Back then, you only had to watch "Footloose" a few times and you were good to go.
OMG The Friday Night Dances. Swaying to: Wild Horses.
"Childhood living is easy to do
The things you wanted, I bought them for you
Graceless lady you know who I am
I can't let you slide through my hands"
Good stuff, that.
You've watched too many movies.Quote:
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She said 'Sort of dating' because:Quote:
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a. You haven't been on a date yet.
b. She doesn't want to fall in love before she leaves.
How do you know? Tell your dating partner that you want to keep dating.
Same way you know that she's your GF - you tell you want to be exclusive - there's no substitute for communication.