Yeah this sucks. My mum was 35 when she got me , I'm the youngest of all siblings and what if something happens soon? Her parents, both grandma and grandpa died in their early 60's . My mum IS already 56... I hope she will not be the same case as my grandparents because I hate the idea of loosing mum being just 25 or something...
dunno, we'll see about that.Quote:
Originally Posted by Gigabitch [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
That's kind of a harsh statement. Indig, I think you should put more energy into being positive and supportive than critical and judgmental. I know that plenty of people on here need to practice that same thing, but the above comment seemed really conniving and spiteful.Quote:
Originally Posted by Indignant [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I've lost sight of what your actual opinions are on this subject because of all the personal attacks. Maybe you never even expressed your precise viewpoint on this, and are just being argumentative for the hell of it.
I'm more concerned with the prospect of finding someone that I'd like to spend the the next couple of decades with than making babies in good time.
I feel sorry for my lady friends in their mid-20's who stress themselves out with trying to find a husband because they've got other friends who are already getting married.
LOL, I didn't get my education b/c I was worried about being dumped. That said, I know a LOT of professional women who can't handle the stress of a career and family. Female faculty, MDs, MBA business execs... all divorced. Seems to me the qualities that make a good spouse and a good professional are sometimes mutually exclusive.Quote:
Originally Posted by girl68 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
To me the case for marrying and having children when I'm not too old is quite simple really
The older you are the higher the risk of having children who are not healthy. Having children who are not healthy is a major burden on your life, a burden much heavier than marrying too young or not having the best career. This is it, the rest of your life is tied up in responsibilities to that child (depending on severity of their condition). Imagine having a child that you know will never make it on their own and will require you for permanent assistance? Some people ask what's the difference between 40 or 50 years of marriage? The difference can be between 0 or 40 years of extra maintenance as payback for having that extra time when you are young. How happy would you be to spend your twilight years, the time when you are most vulnerable nursing your children? People who are pushing marriage into their 30s and having children into late 30s or early 40s should really stop and think about the risks involved in those decisions. Because the risks grow by the years and sacrifices they will have to make if those risks eventuate are enormous. Personally I'd like to have children by the early 30s, some of you may think that's too young, but I think it's already pushing it.
^^^should stop and think!!!! lol mish my goodness any woman who wants to have children and is over 30 is wellllll aware of the risks, should they just not bother then?!
I had a career, husband, house and kid by 30. In about that order, its possible. I wouldn't do this sooner than 25 tho, especially if you are in school still.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mishanya [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I'm not going to marry or anything until I have every material thing I want, which includes a Cessna Skyhawk.
one thing that i absolutely blame is the economy. it's not easy for a lot of people to get solid paying and steady jobs. so what are their options?? yeah, i think that i'll be a bum today and live off garbage cans. f*ck that, i'll move back home and help out with choirs and try at a better education. what would you choose??
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welcome back stranger ! :DQuote:
Originally Posted by Sonrisa [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Yeah I also think that baby before 25 is too early , but between 25-30 its the perfect time IMO .My bf said that he took 6 years younger girl ( me :p) so he will not be pushed by a girl in his age to have kids early .And when I will want to have a baby he will be just 34 , for a guy it's fine :) Education is very important but let's not be crazy. Well I want to be a young bride and young mummy :p Not too young but stil 20 (and something) :PQuote:
Originally Posted by IndiReloaded [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I am thirty, educated, just started in my careera few years ago, and just married. No plans for kids for a few years. That's not just MY choice, it's my husband's too......we like our life the way it is, we like our freedom and the ability to be workaholics to put ourselves in great positions for the future.
Your 20's are not to be taken too seriously, IMHO. You don't really start to figure out who you are until your mid-20's. You need to make mistakes and experience life and have a few relationships. Christ, we live to be over 80 now.....there's no rush to settle down, and there shouldn't be.
Btw, 20 year olds have nothing on 30 year olds except maybe a nicer ass (and not even that somethimes). We have confidence, more money, and a lot more class. To boot, I still look young....most people peg me at 23. Being 30 has been better than all the years of my 20's combined.
Hmmm, Its possible to have children young and them have disabilities. The way medicine has progressed, i really dont think it is that unsafe or risky to have them late 30's.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mishanya [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I think I'd prefer to have children sooner than later.
The problem is reality, in trying to get into a stable position to do so.
I'm underemployed at the moment which is making things difficult pretty damn difficult.