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Lol...dating and related stuff doesn't count. Smarts and logic are to be left at the gate when dealing with those.
Anyway, now that you mention it, I still need some hand holding. I keep having "Oh, she'd never give me a chance" thoughts as I like through profiles..The girl that messaged me first is a real one of a kind. Might be the last successful interaction I have..
Lol, I think indi has been hacked...Quote:
Originally Posted by IndiReloaded [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I'm not the gentle hand holder like some of the others. I do tough love. If you don't give yourself a kick up the backside, your concerns will come true.Quote:
Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
That's insulting. You think I can't google with the best of them?
Actually, KZ posted that link ages ago. And what happened to imma? He was here, now gone again? He's funny and adds spice to the site. Come on Cerb...
I have absolutely no clue what your comment even meant...
All I do is give myself those proverbial kicks. I spend most of the day thinking "You suck at this", "You are disgustingly incompetent with girls" and "Why can't you be as good with girls as ______?"Quote:
Originally Posted by basilandthyme [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
You're using the wrong foot. I don't mean you should use the self flagellation foot. The foot you need is about realising that this woe is me attitude will doom you to failure. It's about accepting that a positive outcomes are for those with a positive attitude.
It's about getting yourself in to see that psychologist and learning how to man up and stop blaming others for your woes.
The psychologist couldn't help...unless he has a daughter he can arrange a date with! That would solve all my problems!
How many times did you see him?
Not once. Kinda ashamed and embarrassed after having to cancel at the last minute (family came over unexpectedly).
From what I've seen here, you're ordinarily incorrect, and presenting your ignorant notions as fact.Quote:
Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Don't want to be called a BSer? Don't BS.
Lol, I never seriously present any actual opinions or arguments on here. Can't use that against me, bro. IRL, I say VERY little because I'm afraid of being wrong.
That's not giving yourself kicks, that's not giving yourself a chance.Quote:
Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Read the book; What To Say When You Talk To Yourself".
That's not giving yourself kicks, that's not giving yourself a chance.Quote:
Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Read the book; "What To Say When You Talk To Yourself".
See, now you're BSing about the Psych being unable to help you.Quote:
Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Lol, he can't help me. What I need is a good, healthy relationship. I think I am better qualified to say what I need than some Freud-paraphrasing, truism-spouting guy.
Cupcake, you ain't gonna have a good, healthy relationship until you see a counselor for while. I'd recommend once a week for six months, minimum.
BTW, most if not all psychologists these days completely discount Dr. Fraud.
Probably NEVER gonna have a good healthy relationship with this mug. My only ex would probably laugh if I told her I've never had a girlfriend since broke up in 2005.
See? Quit that shit. You've been told by female forum members that there's nothing wrong with your looks. My wife said you're cute. What could possibly be their agenda?
You're wrong. Get over it. Live it. Love it. Your face is pleasing to at least one female whose judgement I trust. You called me a "righteous dude". My wife, my best friend, the love of my life - would you doubt her? Why? Just because you want to feel sorry for yourself?
Time to quit blaming your looks and your body, and start pointing the finger where it belongs - your attitude.
All right, I see your points. But how come whenever I was positive and upbeat, that my status didn't change with my attitude?
^^ and again, even more BS. Have you got any idea how much of a knob you sound like? You may not like being called a bullshitter, but I'm just calling it how I see it.Quote:
Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
You can't have a healthy relationship until you are healthy inside. Personally, I disagree with you getting out in the dating world right now - I don't think you could cope with the rejections and breakups involved. And anyone who dates will tell you that dating is FULL of rejections and breakups. I despair when I imagine the mess you will be when a girl finds that you're not the man for her - I think it may tip you over the edge.
A psychologist will give you tools to help you battle self doubt and to help you address your many insecurities. When you've done the work on yourself, you'll be ready to date.
Okay, I was being facetious with that. The non-ironic truth is, I'm afraid that the guy might think of me if I schedule another appointment as some dumb useless kid that cancels appointments and wastes his time.
And nah, I wouldn't "tip" after a breakup: I'd thank my lucky stars I could think of that second girl instead of my ex when looking at my relationship experiences. Lord knows nobody would want to have my ex for a first and only, no siree bob.
Are you aware that tone of voice doesn't carry on chat forums? When you're presenting something in what you think is a joking manner, all the nuances are lost and your posts just make you look like a wanker.Quote:
Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
If you're not being serious, it really helps to put <joke> or a wink or something to indicate that you're mucking around.
It's his JOB to help screw ups. He wouldn't do it if he didn't understand.Quote:
Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Hm, I hadn't thought of it that way. OK, I'll schedule one. Unfortunately the semester ends next month so sessions could only be no more than a handful, most likely.
Scoring you a C- on that effort. Not good enough.Quote:
Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
If you are serious about getting help, find a Psychologist who doesn't take school break. Are you covered under your parent's health fund? Or will they help with the costs?
One thing to remember - it's not a science. If you don't like your psychologist/psychiatrist/counselor you can change. I don't mean if they make you uncomfortable - that's something they HAVE to do, but if what they're doing doesn't sit well with you - you can change them.
I generally tend to distrust psychiatrists - They're MD's first and mental tinkerers second. I think they're more likely to prescribe drugs and not get at the root of the problem.
And again, psychology isn't science, it's art. Some artists are better than others.
Very true. If the first one doesn't work for you, try another.
I know a Primary School Counsellor who offended virtually everyone she works with professionally. My formal complaint about her was just one of many! But the independent child psychologist I used with my son was brilliant. Not only helped with strategies for my son, but helped hubby and I work as a team with him.
Yes, I realise you won't be seeing a child psychologist - this is simply an example of the good and bad out there.
Why not? That'd probably be a good place for him to start. :DQuote:
Originally Posted by basilandthyme [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
LOL, wow, thanks bro. Anyway, I don't want anyone in my family knowing. Mexicans tend to think psychologists are for disgusting freaks and will make fun of any family member about it.
They don't have to know unless you tell them.
That's why getting a non-school provided psych. would be impossible.
So you are mexican? Do you date mexican girls too?Quote:
Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I'm half. And no, of the girls I've ever had something going with, almost none were Mexican. I'm not a gangbanger which is the preferred kind of male for Mexican girls.
there's that "something going with" remark again.
LOL. Well, I can't say I dated these girls, nor was I in a relationship with them.
So you were just a pimp?
Then would you PULEEEEEZE give Your definition of your term: "something going with." Because to me, looking at and wishing you could be with them is far from having something "going with them." Same with arranging a first meet with someone from a dating site... it isn't "somthing going with them." Not at that point, anyway.
"Something going with" girls means: hooking up one night and starting to sort of see each other informally, or in talks to maybe get something going, e.g. maybe go on a date. Surprised there's this much confusion over it.