A guy I met....(I think I told a few of you about this)
Ok, So I have been talking to this guy online for a few months. Before we met, He wanted to take me out on a date. I'll admit I have done that a few times...sometimes it went well...and others not so well. To avoid awkwardness, I told him I preferred to meet him as friends and just hang out. Then, if things go well....go from there... Well he agreed and we hung out at his place....played some video games, watched a movie, and he cooked me dinner..... We hung out from 6pm till about 4am. Then I went home. We didn't kiss, hug or anything.(because he was just getting over a cold)...but we talked alot and got to know each other better. He seems like a nice guy....but my question is.....I dont know where to proceed from here.
Some background info....
He is big into relationships......he told me point blank that he is looking for one....when we talked on the net. He also told me about this girl he liked at his work....and how she played mind games with him, made out with him, and then told him she wasn't interested in him.... So they stopped talking altogether. He told me how he hated feeling used like that....and just wished he could find a girl who knows what she wants....and doesn't play games. I told him I felt the same way....seeing as I had past experiences with guys who played games and didn't want to commit. So we both have that in common. I just kinda wonder what hes thinking about everything since we met. Its hard to read him....
I have tried asking him what he thought of me. He told me he thought I was very nice.....etc... I told him the same.... But hes just kinda vague about it all. I don't want to put myself out there ........if hes not interested. But if he is, then I could see something possibly happening. The main problem is that right now we are friends....and I dont want to mess that up.... I don't to appear stupid....and kinda am making myself not feel much until I know how he feels.
Do you think hes being vague and holding back because hes not into me like that and only sees me as a friend? I mean we still talk and all.and he told me he wants to hang out again..... Or do you think hes being cautious because of what happened with that other girl.....and seeing what I do? I mean I haven't said how I feel about the situation......and maybe hes afraid to say something himself? Its like everything is in limbo.....and eventually one of us will have to do something if anything more is gonna happen... but Im used to the guy usually doing that. Plus I hate rejection......as much as anyone else. I mean I don't want to put myself out there if hes not on the same page as me .......but then again.....maybe hes feeling how I am feeling and wants to say something...but is unsure of me...? What should I do?
