Internet Dating...

Is it possiable to have a good relationship from internet dating? And has anyone met anyone that way?

I know several of my friends swear by it. But then again none of them have had any sucsess. :bored: I think it is hard to sustaine a relashonship over the computer. Although, I have been tempted to give it a try from time to time. Don't you find it really hard to judge personalities over the computer?

that and people in general, how many of them tell the truth about who they are? What if they are some crazed staker?

I have met a person that I would love to meet in real life. I am just have issues with trust.

Hi Jane,

I have had success from it. Kind of. I met a girl early 2003. Got to know her and fell in love. We met about 6 times in 8 months, we fell in love. But after 8 and half months we split because the distance was too far, she lived in Newcastle (Northeast of england), I lived in, well Near Manchester (Northwest) so it was quite a journey to see each other. It fell apart because we were both getting frustrated, and im not even 16 yet. (next month) ;) In my view, unless you are both really really REALLY strong people, it wont work. You'll wanna do other things etc..

:)

I've met a girl who I wanted to meet before. She was in California and I'm in Arizona. I told her I was going to go down there once or twice but it never worked out. I still talk to her online now and then. At this point I've known her and have been talking to her here and there for about 4 years!

:astonish:

I've trawled the net for info about this sort of thing and found a couple of useful online dating articles which I added to my site.

This one looks at real life cases of online dating, both good and bad:

[URL=http://www.ineedsomespace.com/love/love_advice/online/love_online_03.html]Love on the Internet by Colleen Moulding[/URL]

I think that the important thing about successful online dating is that if you're serious about finding someone with whom you want to share a relationship, you should producing a well-considered personal ad; and only follow up on possible partners who have done the same. This should improve your chances of getting off to a good start.

Is it possaible, if we are both willing, to keep a relationship like this alive even if we can't see each other for awhile?

In my view Jane, it is. But its very hard. The downside for me was that I was only 15. I wanted to live life to the full, not be bogged down in a relationship on the internet 24\7. On those cold winter nights when you're at home watching TV and he's out with his mates, if you can trust him, and he trust's you, then yes, it could work. I hope it works for you :)

well, first of all, since i live in San Diego... there are no cold nights. Second... I have no reason not to trust him. He and I have been able to talk about everything and I never even considered that he would lie. He could and I would never know but I think if he cares, he will tell me the truth? is that niave of me? Maybe.

He cares.

I know he does. I know he's honest with you too. You don't gain anything from lying.

You can keep it alive, without a problem, if you are willing to endure what comes with it. I've already made my decision.

How about you?

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I suppose I have. IT's a new experience but one I wouldn't miss. I have to much already invested to say i wouldn't get to know him more. I have to now. I couldn't live with myself if I didn't.

Well, I'm sure he'd answer any questions for you and I'm sure he's got nothing to hide from you either.

Perhaps he's the one for you.

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Thank you for your nonjudgemental advice LINEBACKER_2 ! :)
He may just be the one.

I bet he is.

Let me know how it goes, okay? :)

LINEBACKER 2

I sure will. You'll be the first to know!

What Seven?

LINEBACKER 2

????? what??

ok..
What's up with the what?

I have no idea.

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I think i have you all beat....I live in California and i have been "dating" a girl from Romania...10000 miles away! We've never met, but we have talked on the phone a few times and exchanged letters (not just email letters....real letters!!) She's a wonderful person....but soonest she has plans to come here is four years, when she goes to college. She already told me to date if i find someone special before that...but i'm not too successful with girls so I dont know...it would be really great if we DID end up together though!

First of all, I´m not sure what do you mean by internet dating. If you´re looking for a partner a bit further away (ldr), then it shouldn´t be that difficult. I suppose that´s the only thing a man can really do.. a relationship without seeing is not a real relationship in my books.

It´s a complicated thing... I can tell this from experience.

In my case, her and I have been dating for 16 months now. Seen three times. We´ve had our cold times, but the trust we created on out first weeks together has helped us over them.

Sure I would rather live with her than write an email everyday, but she lives in another country and we both got our commitments. In this case I believe waiting pays off.

Try to have a feeling about it.. trust your instincts.. :) In the end, chemistry is what matters.

we do have alot of chemistry. More so then I had inticipated. He is so sweet. I have never seen him and he has never seen me. I don't think, as a rule, that looks are that important. Howver, I am an attractive women, if I wanted to all I really need to do is go to a bar. I just hate those scenes and I like the fact that the beginning of our relationship isn't just based on what we look like. You can be hot but that only lasts so long. In order to build a real relationship it takes more then good looks., right?