would this make you mad, jealous or both?

ok so i went out with my bf and a few of my friends.were sitting down at this table doing jello shots and jagger bombs and we all pretty messed up. i could tell that my bf was kinda atracted to my friend that was sitting next to me. my friend had broke her leg and ask my bf if he would help her get into the bathroom. i din't think to much of it at first but then she kept asking him and the trips were longer and longer. i got pissed and asked them what they were doing and both of them said nothing. i don't believe either one of them.

Relax babe.

i'd kill him...and then eat him

but seriously...it's probably nothing. i might keep an eye open though. btw...how could you tell he was attracted to your friend?

umm conversation came up about the panties she was wearing, and he asked to see them.

So, they're drunk. Either you trust your mane not to go beyond that or you don't, it's that simple.

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umm conversation came up about the panties she was wearing, and he asked to see them.

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big deal...you guys were messed up...he would asked to see jay leno's panties at that point...

I don't know. Asking to see her panties does see kind of inappropriate.

How long have you been an item?

It would probably make me jealous.

Helping her to the washroom was just gentlemanly though. Although, I wonder, how come you didn't offer to help her?

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I don't know. Asking to see her panties does see kind of inappropriate.

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when you're messed up????? shoot...my buddy whipped out his balls at a bar. he was being a pansy...we said he had no balls...someone asks to see them if he has them. blam...balls for the whole bar to see.

i asked some girl if i could see her titties at a club once...blam, titties for all to see.

you're not right in the head when you're drinking...

if he remembers when he's sober that he did it..he wasn't drunk enough for something like that to be excused is what i say.

Asking to see another girl's panties in front of your girlfriend is just...so messed up.

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Asking to see another girl's panties in front of your girlfriend is just...so messed up.

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what? better to do it in front of your gf than behind your gf's back!!! if the dude is with the girl alone or without his gf and asks the girl to pull her pants down? now THAT'S messed up. red flags, red flags!

but if your gf is there and some other friends are there...and you're having a good time getting tipsy...you talk about panties...and someone asks someone else to whip their panty out, you know it was all in good fun among friends.

what's the big deal?

Knowing your history with this guy - this is just one of the thousands of warning signs that you will fail to acknowledge.

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what's the big deal?

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Are you being serious?

You can't be.

You mean to tell me if you were hangin with your g/f and her and one of your friends had been flirting all night, and she asked him if she could see his boxers - you wouldn't be at all bothered by it? Just chalk it up as "a good time getting tipsy" ?

Yeah right..

I don't know about you but if my boyfriend asked to see the pants of my friend, he would be left without his nuts now.

Alcohol is no excuse.

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Knowing your history with this guy - this is just one of the thousands of warning signs that you will fail to acknowledge.

Are you being serious?

You can't be.

You mean to tell me if you were hangin with your g/f and her and one of your friends had been flirting all night, and she asked him if she could see his boxers - you wouldn't be at all bothered by it? Just chalk it up as "a good time getting tipsy" ?

Yeah right..

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I still agree with him on this one. No big deal. No need to make a stick over it it's not like he said, let me see your p*ssy.

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You mean to tell me if you were hangin with your g/f and her and one of your friends had been flirting all night, and she asked him if she could see his boxers - you wouldn't be at all bothered by it? Just chalk it up as "a good time getting tipsy" ?

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she didn't mention any flirting...if my girl was flirting with another guy, i'd be perturbed. but shoot...if the topic of boxers or briefs came up while we were hanging with a bunch of friends and she asked to see what the boys were wearing...i don't give a rats ass. i'm there with her...i know by the tone and conversation whether she's hot for him or whether she's just fooling...i'm secure in our relationship.

on the flip side...lets say me and a group of friends are out...and the topic of thong bikini's comes up...i wouldn't hesitate to ask the girls to see them in their thong bikinis.

someone says something...i look good in this...i look bad in this...someone shouts to see it...ain't no thang...

what's the big deal?

as long as i don't sense any real red flag worthy undertones...it's all good...

1. Your friend SHOULD have asked a GIRL to help her into the WOMENS bathroom, there is NO sense in asking a guy to do that. Plus, gender aside, she is YOUR friend, she has 2 reasons right there to have asked you (or a woman) for help.

2. I agree with Chii 288, No matter what happens, alchohol isn't an excuse for one's behavior, only 12yr olds are expected to use alcohol as an excuse, anyone else should be more accountable for their actions (ie: more mature).

3. Referring to above, i don't care how drunk a boyfriend is, asking to see his gf's friend's panties crosses the line. Period.

Bottom line: i'd be mad, and feel disrespected. But not jealous. If he's going to act like such a fool (with or without the booze), loose him.

Ya'll are way to melodramatic. It's not that alcohol is an 'excuse' it's that it lowers inhibitions plane and simple. Relax, everyone is just having fun. I automatically had assumed she asked a man cause he's stronger and she has a broken leg. Duh.

Based on the other threads you've started, you already know this whole relationship is heading in a bad direction. Your guy crossed the line, as did your supposed "friend".

If you notice, the girls are all saying this was inappropriate. Maybe this is because we know the nature of girls better than the guys?

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Ya'll are way to melodramatic. It's not that alcohol is an 'excuse' it's that it lowers inhibitions plane and simple. Relax, everyone is just having fun. I automatically had assumed she asked a man cause he's stronger and she has a broken leg. Duh.

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right, exactly. alcohol lowers inhibition...plain and simple. so if you don't wanna do anything stupid, don't drink. otherwise, expect SOME sort of idiocy to occur...some of which may offend you.

and i thought the same...ask the strong guy...duh...

Anyone need assistance to the ladies room?

If I really needed assistance, I would ask misombra. If I wanted male attention, I would ask a man.

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If I really needed assistance, I would ask misombra. If I wanted male attention, I would ask a man.

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A little lesbian action huh? Kinky, and I like it. :stache:

Why would each trip to the bathroom get longer and longer if he was just helping to go into the bathroom? Was he walking her in there and pulling her pants down and back up for her?

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Why would each trip to the bathroom get longer and longer if he was just helping to go into the bathroom? Was he walking her in there and pulling her pants down and back up for her?

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i thought about that. my thinking is that the gf (the poster) is crazy...they probably weren't longer and longer...but her anxiety level rose so she thought they were longer and longer.

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1. Your friend SHOULD have asked a GIRL to help her into the WOMENS bathroom, there is NO sense in asking a guy to do that. Plus, gender aside, she is YOUR friend, she has 2 reasons right there to have asked you (or a woman) for help.

2. I agree with Chii 288, No matter what happens, alchohol isn't an excuse for one's behavior, only 12yr olds are expected to use alcohol as an excuse, anyone else should be more accountable for their actions (ie: more mature).

3. Referring to above, i don't care how drunk a boyfriend is, asking to see his gf's friend's panties crosses the line. Period.

Bottom line: i'd be mad, and feel disrespected. But not jealous. If he's going to act like such a fool (with or without the booze), loose him.

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I agree with this post

I remember giving you advice in the past that more problems will come for you in relationship with this guy. People learn, but do not change. I think it's time you started to wieght your benefits against the negatives with him.

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If you notice, the girls are all saying this was inappropriate. Maybe this is because we know the nature of girls better than the guys?

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Yeah, I know if I was needing help getting to the bathroom, I would ask my friend to help me. If I was trying to move in on some girl's bf (which I wouldn't do anyways) I would ask him to help me so I could get some one on one time without her nearby. It may or may not have been innocent on the guy's part, but I'm sure the girl knew what she was doing. Plus, I think Chelsee's relationship has been on the rocks for awhile now, so I wouldn't see this as being nothing.

My god Junsui! Your avatar is like a car crash...I can't stop looking at it!

In general speaking... Our friends do that sorta stuff all the time. Although none of the girls instigate anything with anyone else's Bf. I don't look at it being a big deal, but only because I'm used to my friends getting drunk and whipping stuff out and what not.

But in this case. I don't know much about the whole situation and I imagine there is a lot more with this guy than what I have read here but in all honestly I'd blame your friend before I'd blame your BF. Just based off this, like Vashti said she's looking for attention form a guy. Any girl that would ask a GUY to help into the bathroom (i'm assuming she had crutches) instead of a girl friend has alterior motives whther it be attention or whatever!

2 things

break the other leg of your friend if it continues and dump your BF ... simple

no seriously , i think you should watch out but dont judge yet , just keep your eyes open .

Um, yes BUDGE NOW - you guys don't remember reading all of her other threads of what a jerkoff her boyfriend is??

Ugh - like I said this is one of the many warning signs that this guy is going to end up hurting you that you will FAIL to acknowledge, make excuses for, and find a way to see past it to stay with him cause of the fear of being alone.

So did she show him? Her panties?

I'm sure she did in one of the 9 trips to the bathrooms he escorted her to.

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yes she showed her panties, while we were all sitting down drinking around the table. she asked me if it was o.k. and my bf said sure it is. so i was stuck sitting there kinda speechless. i laughed it off at the time but deep down i was mad as hell. i didn't see it as all fun and games cuz i take things seriously. i believe that if you really care about a person you won't do anything to ruin a good thing.

Which is why you should realize your b/f doesn't REALLY care about you as a person.

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i didn't see it as all fun and games cuz i take things seriously. i believe that if you really care about a person you won't do anything to ruin a good thing.

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Well obviously you have other problems in this relationship aside from just this. I'm going to try and find some of those threads to read up a little but in the meantime, if your having all these problems why are still with him?

And I take things seriously too, I'm just confident in my relationship that I know if one of my friends showed her undies for one, it would be for attention and two, that's as far as it would go. And I don't consider a guy looking at someone's panties when everyone is around to be ruining a relationship if that's what you meant by that. But if there is more to it and this is adding to the cake then I can see why you would be so upset!

EDIT: ok you have a lot of threads about an ex and and BF. Are they the same person?

And Get rid of this guy ASAP!

Get rid of your slutty friend, too.

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And I take things seriously too, I'm just confident in my relationship that I know if one of my friends showed her undies for one, it would be for attention and two, that's as far as it would go. And I don't consider a guy looking at someone's panties when everyone is around to be ruining a relationship if that's what you meant by that. But if there is more to it and this is adding to the cake then I can see why you would be so upset!

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that's what i was trying to say earlier! it's just no big deal in most cases!

I think chelsee is either a masochist, a martyr or she thinks she can't do better