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hi guys. so yeah, my ex just got engaged.
ugh.
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hi guys. so yeah, my ex just got engaged.
ugh.
Whoa - that was kind of quick, wasn't it?
::sigh:: sorry misombra. You must be rather unhappy.
it's not too bad if i don't think about it. i'm just glad i learned from the experience, you know. that's really all there is to hold onto. :(
Sombra I don't know the whole story behind your ex and what happened between the 2 of you, but you guys are apart for a reason. Just think, he's probably the same jerk he always was but she may not find out until after she's married him. At least you found out prior to that!
Yuck. That still really stings though, eh?
Funny - you almost wished you just hadn't heard the news at all, then you could just carry on along as you have been. Many years from now it maybe wouldn't have the same impact.
Okay, I have something that might make you feel better misombra :)
There are two types of ex's:
1. The ones who hurt me for whom I don't want any happiness
2. The ones whom I have hurt and for whom I want all the happiness there is
My rationalization. For #1's I would be upset if they were getting married but the truth is such that if:
1. They have changed from how they were, then they deeply regret what they have done to you, and if opportunity presented itself they may even ask for you forgiveness because if they changed then they have realized their mistakes and they are sorry for them. Thus, if they did change and are worthy of forgiveness then it is okay to be happy for them
2. If they have not changed and are still the same jerks they were at the split then chances are the marriage won't last and you can rejoice at their forthcoming downfall (So another reason to be happy)
Now cheer up sweet cake :)
thanks guys.
mish, i don't wish good or bad for him. i just wish he'd drop of the face of the earth.
...at least you don't wish bad for him....
ha ha ha aha ha ha
I know that feeling, misombra!
That feeling can be harmful to the self. So best way is to rejoice in the thought that he will stuff up everything that he touches eventually :)Quote:
Originally Posted by misombra
hahahaha - Lloyd we should start our own sitcom.Quote:
Originally Posted by Lloyd95
Boss lady - *big hug for you*
Come on, you got Mikey - don't think of this other jerkoff. Wanna go play some poker? Ya? Maybe take some e-money from some internet nerds? Ya? Maybe, listen in on a little e-handjobs goin on in the main lobby? Ya?
that sux. but you got us. and isn't that all that matters?
sombra..how did I miss that previous post?..oh, wait.. that was the weekend I was in boston, kinda.. on july 4th.
in any case, I think the majority of us are not immune to the old "where a fire burns, the ashes remain", and while we have limited control over feelings, we have all the control over our actions and how we spend our time. The more you keep busy with other things, the less time you have over fussing over negative feelings and the such. Now I know we don't all have my unique capabilty of becoming a robot, but we control it at different levels. I'm not saying eliminate all of life's emotional ups and downs, but give less importance to the downs.. Take it in stride and hakunna mattata..or however it's spelled...
thanks guys.
nomas-you're absolutely right. like i said before, when i'm doing other things i'm not thinking about it. and luckily it's not on my mind day and night. and talking to you guys and getting reassurance, as well as having mikey, does help. the crazy thing is that his sister said that they had tried coming to my house when he was in town but didn't see my car. (thank god.) i just keep thinking to myself, why? i mean, he proposed to her while he was in town. she said he wanted to say hi before he left. i am SO glad i wasn't home. (yet another sick, twisted part of me wanted to see him.) his leaving to the military was my saving grace from him. i thought i'd never have to see or hear about him ever again.
ugh, how wrong was i?
now where's tone, let's go play some poker. let's not talk to nomas because he always ditches me at bones.
you see that nomas, i have a new game buddy so there. ;)
damnit...you're my EX game buddy, eh? And you never asked ME to play poker with you. Why couldn't it be me...WHY??
It's all a circle..all of it..parallels everywhere...
lol. ::hugs:: i missed you nomas :( :) :D
right back at you, bud
did you just call me bud?
kinda reminds me of the cosby show.
LoL Kenny was hilarious
deep voice for a little kid.
I like the fat little white kid that kept running out of the house.
LoL the one who never would talk?
Dude, it was the Cosby show; he was probably the only WHITE person on the show.
With regards to the original post.....
Hope you are feeling better about it now sombra. It's always a bit of a shock when you first hear it.......eventually you stop even caring. These things take time.
I can kind of relate....this guy friend that I've had feelings for for a long time (which were reciprocated) just proposed to his gf of five months yesterday and I'm pretty bummed. He said he just couldn't wait for me. Sigh.
say..can someone go continue the 4-words thread for me...I don't want to double post on it. Thanks.
Sure, nomas!
Right on, Tone..thanks..
thanks bsummer. you're a stand up chica. 5 months and already getting engaged? geez is that really enough time? it took my bf and i 2 years before we even moved in together!
You need to get out of this funk your in. Focus on you. Go out and meet other people. Learn that new hobby that you always wanted to do. Start working out. Don’t get me wrong, breaking up sucks ass. Seeing people you dated or almost married before happily married when your not can get to you also. But do you remember why all this gets to you? It is because your wallowing in the past.
Think about it like this. What if you were a policemen and your partner got killed while you and he/she were on a call? What would the psychologist recommend the department do with you? Kick you off the force? Give you a year off? Hell No! They would have your ass taking the toughest calls soon after the funeral so you would be too busy saving your own life and the life of your new partner to wallow in self doubt and regret about would haves and should haves.
Other parts of life are no different except that there is no one to force you to do what is best for you. Most people don’t have that tough ass friend to push them in the right direction. They are unfortunately left to do this for themselves.
You know what you have to do. You know what is best for you. You have to pick yourself back up out of the trough of self doubt and get back in the game with full force. You don’t have to date right away, but do all the other things that you know you need or want to do. Work out with a vengeance, fix up your place, get your life in order, call your friends back and get new friends as well. As soon as you think you need just one more week before you are ready to date again then just get back in there and date date date.
Your not alone, we all have to do this. Remember that self doubt, and misery never helps you get what you want and need. Buck up and take full charge of your life and happiness, it is the only way.
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Good luck :)
thanks hugo that was very nice, i appreciate it.
i already work out though, and i live with my bf. i know i know, why am i all pissy about this when i'm living with somebody and practically married myself. and honestly all my friends want nothing more for me than to forget about everything. i'm not all mopey over it. i'm glad that it's over and he's moved on. it just stings a little. but i think i'm okay now.
What!! So you all ready have a live in boyfriend and you just wanted a little ****en lame as pick me up like some spoiled, rich *****, lame ass, ****en loser. What a piece of shit. You wasted my time for you're needy dumb ass ****en game.
Well let me tell you what, you’re a ****en lame *****. You know why your ex found a wife so fast? Because he dumped your lame, bitchy, needy ass. No wonder you made two posts about your damn ex when you have a live in boyfriend. Because your upset that it only took him 6 months to find someone a shit load better than you. You want to know why he found someone so fast? It isn’t because the girl he found is all that, it is because the girl he found is just average, but compared to your needy, lame, bitchy ass, his new girl is like an angel sent from Heaven.
Just like your old boyfriend, you can bet you won’t see me wasting any of my precious time on you either. So long you needy, stupid, lame *****.
HEY YOU STUPID ASS!! You have no idea what you are talking about. Go away!! You are annoying! This post was meant for the regular posters, anyway, not for some misinformed newbie who doesn't even know anyone yet.
Ugh! If I were Santa, you would definitely be getting a lump of coal.
wasted your time of wacking off to internet porn again? sorry.Quote:
Originally Posted by Hugo Pickle
try coming up with some better comebacks than lame-ass b.itch. it's hardly insulting coming from you. besides i'm aweful proud to be a bitc.h. so i'm glad you won't be taking time out of your busy schedule of pulling on your balls to reply to me, because you're stupid. bye.
holy moley
What a guy, eh?Quote:
Originally Posted by clynn
I hope when I grow up I can be as tough of a man as Hugo to (attempt to) pick on girls over THE INTERNET and call them mean names when I know relatively nothing about them.
Ha ha..I had forgotten all about the ironies of this place. This guy blames misombra to have wasted his time, when all he had to do was read the links that sombra appropriately referenced and he would have gotten the full story. See, it's like this, Pickle, if you choose to write a long comment on part of the topic, you can't blame the thread creator who made it easy for you to have chosen to invest a little bit of your precious time and have read the entire topic before commenting.
Measure twice, cut once.
eh, i think hugo is just one of those people that tries to scare people into thinking he's cool.
as i advise everyone, just skip right over his posts. if you don't you will regret it for the rest of your life.
Quote:
Originally Posted by Hugo Pickle
WTF?? Are you multiple personality? You need a shrink. Come back once your meds stabilize and you've decided if you are truly an as$hole or not.Quote:
Originally Posted by Hugo Pickle
Miso, that news sucks. I'd be upset for sure. Totally understandable.
:hugs:
thanks indigo. i'm getting better by the day. i don't think about it as much. i've come to peace with the fact that there's somebody better for me than him and someone better for him than me.