Here is a question to ALL the girls out there

K. you know how guys are labled as "horny" and always looking for hookups and getting laid and stuff. Well, how come no one ever talks like that about girls, other than girls that are obviously labelled "sluts". And how come I keep thinking that every guy i know has strong...desires, yet it seems like all the girls i know have no such feelings? or is it just that i can't read girls? i mean, we are all human! the sex-drive is a built-in biological drive!!!

do girls, even innocent seeming ones, think about like.. hmm...

Girls certainly do have feelings of desire, but I think on the most part (and I do realize this doesn't apply to everyone), that girls like to have some sort of an attachment to a person before they sleep with them. Sex seems to be more emotional/psychological for women....so that could be part of it.

Also, there's the social stigma. Most girls feel unable to be sexually 'liberal' because of fear of being called a 'slut'. You don't see too many guys who've slept with some girl on the first date saying "I wonder if she thinks I'm easy because we had sex on the first date." Hell no. But this sort of thing is always in the back of the female mind. Men can be more open about their sexual appetite, because society doesn't look down on them for it.

Girls think about sex more than you think. They are just not as forthcoming about it.

i agree with bluesuer(Vancouver rocks). and also i think women can easily control their sexual drive, we can have it but easily control it. yes even innocent girls think about it the same way, but since in this world man seems to be able to do anything he wants, and we just call him (he is a man) but as you said if a girl does it (they call her a slut, a hore,....etc), it's not that we don't have it but the society makes us control it, if we don't, it'll affect our future (the future husband, the kids,the family, the work, the friends................bla bla bla).

that's what i think, and i could be wrong

Thanks confused.

You are correct......Vancouver does indeed rock.

Another factor that may be relevant is that many young women take birth control pills, which often reduces sex drive. This may also account for some of the differences in drive between men and women.

Oh no, women have urges the same as men do. As women get older, they're willing to talk about them more, because I think we (meaning older women) don't care as much about society's conventions.

You'd be surprised at many of the conversations that take place out of the range of male ears.

It's just less socially acceptable for women to have these urges. You noted in your post that women that do discuss their sexual desires are "sluts." Hmmmm, NOW can you see why women don't discuss this kind of stuff in front of men?

Wouldn't the world be better if everyone was free to express their feelings?

wouldnt the world be better if all the bad people in the world died? just not possible

Women are more romantics and we need a man to show a special interest in us before we want to do it. Men can just look at a girl and get horny:evil:

women are horney belive me.

I have quite the sex drive. And I'm not full of self control.

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Originally Posted by shai`anne

Men can just look at a girl and get horny:evil:

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I can look at a guy and get horny. Can so. can so.

VERY VERY VERY HORNY BABEEEEEEEEEEE! Tis true, as women mature ok most women are VERY open about their sexuality and they want it all the time. We prime in our 30's which is where I am now, and I have a co-worker who today went into
explicit detail about her fantasy. And how she masterbates.

I dont know about the whole college women thing. And I do believe the whole thing about us women not talking about our sex lives due to the social aspect is going out the door. Women are speaking more and more about their desires and needs. As I was saying about our conversation today, a man overheard it and his eyes got so big! We told him we were going to charge him 4.99 a minute to listen!

Yeah.. heck, my mind is in the damn gutter all the time.. I remembered Maslows "hierarchy of needs" (in relation to staff motivation, for the Business exam) using sexual metaphors, for crying out loud! The first one is "Physiological needs", which means food and basic income but we have a really cool teacher who suggested sex was technically a physiological need too.., the second one is "Safety", which is like job security and stuff, but I think of it as a condom. The third one is Relatedness, which is like needing to belong, ie, to commit. .. oh f*ck, I'll never forget the hierarchy of needs now..!

ANYWAY, I agree with what bluesummer originally said;..

like, you're asking, do girls think about sex.. excluding the ones that don't hide that they do think about it, who are labelled as 'sluts'.. hmmm.

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We told him we were going to charge him 4.99 a minute to listen!

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hahaha oh my gosh what did he say to that?

We just have too much fun...this guy is religous too, but he had heard the lesbian conversation and when I said that he laughed and was like "hey I dont mind overhearing it, keep talking!" Of course by then we laughed some more and changed the subject.

But next time use that line if someone over hears it, it just came out and stopped him in his tracks! Cant help some of us women talk super trashy!

hehe :D poor guys.. they haven't a clue..

:lol: no they dont, maybe thats a good thing though ya think?

Just imagine, I mean we always hear about locker chat with men and all their bragging they do, but if they could truly hear a roundtable of horny women damn, they'd have the orgasm right there!;)

omg this is lame. i'm still in high school, and as far as i'm concerned, all the girls are pretty closed about sex. they might chat about which guys are "cute"... ahem

no its not lame, because in HS girls STILL talk about it, dont be blind sided by it.

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no its not lame, because in HS girls STILL talk about it, dont be blind sided by it.

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Yeah I agree with her. You see, no girls talk about me that I hear but I know they secretly all want me. Lol ;) .


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omg this is lame. i'm still in high school, and as far as i'm concerned, all the girls are pretty closed about sex. they might chat about which guys are "cute"... ahem

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Maybe they're just closed to you. I don't mean that as a personal insult; I just mean, personally I wouldn't talk to male people at school about sex. If I did, they would think I was some kinda slut and they'd get all kinds of ideas in their little heads. Also, girls are made to believe that Sexual thoughts are bad, so they hide it.

actually sever girls in one of my classes recently started openly talking about sex. one of them even asked me if i watched porn... ahem...

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actually sever girls in one of my classes recently started openly talking about sex. one of them even asked me if i watched porn... ahem...

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Meh be honest I say. All males have and do. Some do all the time or some are like me where it is rare. I dont realy so much and I have never paid for one myself though im 16 it would be easy as pie to buy one becouse I know older people who would buy for me willingly... what roll-models huh lol. Most of the stuff I get my brother has left behind from when he stays every so often and whatevor I get usualy goes to my friend becouse he is..... how to put this.... a horndog and I never use them anyways hardly. But yeah I am open and will admit I have watchd porn before but it realy is not something that im as into as most guys are.

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Originally Posted by bluesummer

Girls think about sex more than you think. They are just not as forthcoming about it.

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What?! I hope that was a joke. But do you mean ordinary, good girls or girls that are often called as "sluts" or "bitches"?

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What?! I hope that was a joke. But do you mean ordinary, good girls or girls that are often called as "sluts" or "bitches"?

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Regular, ordinary girls. Humans are sexual beings. The female sexual peak is later than the guys' peak and maybe that's why girls are stereotyped as being less sexual than guys.

It's impossible to measure or compare girls and guys simply because you can't swap minds, so you just can't measure how 'sexual' somebody is in total.

Well spoken, Tiay. I am trying to find a teenager girl whether she's into sexual stuff but I just can't and don't know how lol.

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Well spoken, Tiay. I am trying to find a teenager girl whether she's into sexual stuff but I just can't and don't know how lol.

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Thanks

heeh.. that's the problem.. most of them keep it secret. There are some here on lf, though I think, to be fair, any teen who seeks out a forum that has a 'sex talk' section is probably more likely to be sexually enlightened and open.

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What?! I hope that was a joke. But do you mean ordinary, good girls or girls that are often called as "sluts" or "bitches"?

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What Tiay said.

I've never been someone you'd call a slut or a bitch, and I think about sex a lot.

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Just an opinion !!! Other factor I think is the modern girl's fashion, As my-self I usually geting horny when seeing a beautiful girl in her sexy dress. But man rarely put themselves in ''sexy'' but ''cool'' with long trousers ,so fancyness would also relatively less.

Some women can control their sex drive more than others. I know sex is on my mind alot but only when I really like someone. I have sex for more of the emotional bond rather than physical pleasure. Sex when in love is so much better then just casual. Women are more emotional

like bluesummer said, being sexually out there for a female borders on slutiness.

so, we keep a little bit intact.

until we meet the right person, that is. or people. :)

One of my girlfriends has a case of chronic "overshare". Sometimes she actually grosses me out.

Frankly, I don't want to hear about anyone's most recent oral sex experience, male or female. I want men to talk about sex less, not women to talk more.