Wat are some little things that a girl likes a guy to do????

I really need help. Yeah i have told the girl i like her and fair enough we give each other a chance to try out but from the point as a friend.....

wat are some stuff that girls like to hear???

Does giving her comment on the ear rings, accessories clothing that look nice each day helps???

like buy her small chocolates leaving on her desk each day helps???

giving her some encouragement and advice at times when she needs them badly helps???

wat are some other things i can do to impress her??? well not send flowers cos its slightly abit too aggressive....i suppose

Just don't overdo it. Be yourself. If the two of you are a good match, she will stick around. If you weren't meant to be, she will move on.

Telling her she looks nice is very generic. It is better to say something more specific (yes, the comment about her earrings would be nice) but don't do this on a daily basis because it starts to sound insincere.

Don't buy her chocolates on a regular basis, although every now and then is nice - just to let her know you were thinking about her.

ALWAYS give encouragement, but be careful about advice. Lots of girls don't really want advice about their problems - they just want to vent. It might be a good idea to say "do you want to know my opinion, or do you just want to talk about it?"

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Originally Posted by vashti [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Telling her she looks nice is very generic. It is better to say something more specific (yes, the comment about her earrings would be nice) but don't do this on a daily basis because it starts to sound insincere.

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I have found also giving off the wall stuff also seems to work. For example there was this girl where I use to work that had a top that made her look sexy. So one day out of the blue I told her that she looked sexy with that top. She ended up wearing it a lot more after that, but I only said it once.

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Don't buy her chocolates on a regular basis, although every now and then is nice - just to let her know you were thinking about her.

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So flowers are out now? Man I need a girl that will tell me these things because I do not follow such trends.

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ALWAYS give encouragement, but be careful about advice. Lots of girls don't really want advice about their problems - they just want to vent. It might be a good idea to say "do you want to know my opinion, or do you just want to talk about it?"

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I use to have a problem with this, but over the years if I was not sure if the girl wanted advice or not I would actually ask her before I opened my month to say something that would get her on my case. This seems to work very well and various girls liked the fact that I ask them if they actually wanted advice or not.

Vashti is right. Girls like to vent. So, just be there for her and listen.

Also, be sincere with compliments. Ever notice that when something is done repeatatively, it loses it's effect? So, do it once in awhile and take her by surprise. We definately like that.

You also don't need to shower her with gifts. Just little things that show us you are thinking of us mean more then anything. Even little things with meaning behind them that cost little to nothing at all!

Oh yeah, and I like flowers. Flowers are good, but thats just me.

thanks sis.....

i didnt know that repeatedly doing one thing will make it lose appeal.....im often trying to speak to her more...give her slight concern asking her hows ur day..hows ur mood etc....yeah the gift does come in handy......

n yes i notice that girls need no exp stuff..there was once when she was so sad....and i had to leave early......so i drop her a call in the evening to ask her check her cupboard..in there i place in her favourite marshmellow....and think it last at least 2 days being happy......

Its ok to repeatedly ask her how her day is, how she is doing. But throwing around the same compliments all the time or phrases can get old. We tend to take them for granted. They lose their effect.

But instead mix it up a bit. Or throw something really nice out there out of the blue. It will definately make an impact.

aww all of those sound so sweet... wish my bf would do that :) goodluck

What ever you do don't ask her how her day was!!!! don't! Do not listen to the people here telling you to do so. Ofcourse you should if you are looking to kill a few hours of your day or maybe commit suicide by bordem from listening to something you don't really give a shit about.

Oh, my God! OV- you crack me up! You spend plenty of time reading about how somebody's day was here on LF- wouldn't you be willing to listen to some girl if you might get some affection from her later?

OV's bark is bigger than his bite.

Don't ask her how her day way until she lets you know that she wants to ask her how her day was (little signs). And if you ask, listen and show compassion; but if its a story about how her best friend at work pissed her off, don't don't don't get more emotionally involved in the story beyond showing compassion. Don't say a f-ing thing. Don't say, "Well, what a b--tch that friend of yours is" (because they'll be friends again tomorrow, and your line above will be repeated to the new-found friend). Don't say, "Well, hopefully the two of you can iron this out." (because then she'll say, "So, you are taking HER side, huh? Jerk!") So, asking her how her day went is just gasoline on a fire, unless she wants you to ask.

For the most part, it works out better for men if they are quiet and at least at least appear to be emotionally strong/sensitive. Once you have committed yourself to a relationship, realize that your role is simply to be there for her, emotionally, physically, otherwise. But, for gods sake, don't let her think that you are "caring for her" in any way because she'll flip out over that. For the most part, even married couples I've known for years, the guy is still just juggling along...its like a game of "Beat the Clock." Long term, relationships eventually become a routine...so, as long as he stays on his path and she stays on hers, no problem.

If you want to succeed in the "what does a woman want", then be spontaneous with things that are for her (e.g.flowers, candles lit, a bath drawn for her, dinner prepared for her, open-ended tickets for two to a remote island--hopefully, she'll take you along!, etc); but do not in any way make plans for her about things that you think "she might like" beyond things like that. I mean, don't make plans like you are going to have the house repainted (or rearranging furniture) or anything like that without her prior approval. You'll have hell to pay, buddy.

Good luck :)

CAM, I think I want you to be my Plan B Guy. You sound so much like my boyfriend, I'm starting to wonder if you aren't him IRL.

Baby, is that you?

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Originally Posted by mik [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I really need help. Yeah i have told the girl i like her and fair enough we give each other a chance to try out but from the point as a friend.....

wat are some stuff that girls like to hear???

Does giving her comment on the ear rings, accessories clothing that look nice each day helps???

like buy her small chocolates leaving on her desk each day helps???

giving her some encouragement and advice at times when she needs them badly helps???

wat are some other things i can do to impress her??? well not send flowers cos its slightly abit too aggressive....i suppose

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Damn man, I thought this kind of thing was common sense.

Clearly it is not.

How old are you??

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Originally Posted by mik [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I really need help. Yeah i have told the girl i like her and fair enough we give each other a chance to try out but from the point as a friend.....

wat are some stuff that girls like to hear???

Does giving her comment on the ear rings, accessories clothing that look nice each day helps???

like buy her small chocolates leaving on her desk each day helps???

giving her some encouragement and advice at times when she needs them badly helps???

wat are some other things i can do to impress her??? well not send flowers cos its slightly abit too aggressive....i suppose

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Compliments- Yes, every once in a while. Don't over do it

Chocolates everday- Yea right! Dude you can't go chasing her all the time, you gotta make her chase you

Encouragement- Of course, just don't sound like a pussy

Other ways- Leave her hanging at times, like I said make her chase you. If you chase her all the time, you'll look desperate and like a pus.

Seriously, encouraging her all the time?

What the **** are you, her dad?

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Originally Posted by Frasbee [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Seriously, encouraging her all the time?

What the **** are you, her dad?

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Are you talkin to me?

Of course you wanna encourage and give her advice at times when she's down.

If you don't, then why the phuck are even there?

Don't play the leave her hanging game too much. If you have to play games like that with her, because of her immaturity or because of yours, then end the relationship right away. It ain't worth it. It will be a headache forever. If, however, the Score is the goal, then different rules apply (as they say on Parker Bros game boxes, "Ages 12 to Adult").

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Originally Posted by Freeway3137 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Compliments- Yes, every once in a while. Don't over do it

Chocolates everday- Yea right! Dude you can't go chasing her all the time, you gotta make her chase you

Encouragement- Of course, just don't sound like a pussy

Other ways- Leave her hanging at times, like I said make her chase you. If you chase her all the time, you'll look desperate and like a pus.

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Originally Posted by Gigabitch [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

CAM, I think I want you to be my Plan B Guy. You sound so much like my boyfriend, I'm starting to wonder if you aren't him IRL.

Baby, is that you?

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LOL. Nope, its not your boyfriend :) Just CAM

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Originally Posted by Freeway3137 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Are you talkin to me?

Of course you wanna encourage and give her advice at times when she's down.

If you don't, then why the phuck are even there?

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For the phuck?

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Originally Posted by The Great OV!!! [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

For the phuck?

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lmao good one!



and to the posts above urs...


im saying, only play the hang/chase game with her to get her. After your going out, you really have no reason to anymore cuz u already got her

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Originally Posted by Freeway3137 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

lmao good one!



and to the posts above urs...


im saying, only play the hang/chase game with her to get her. After your going out, you really have no reason to anymore cuz u already got her

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Right. Because then she's already a notch in your bedpost, so why continue to try, right?

A guy playing hard to get is every girl's weakness.

Of course you won't admit it, why would you admit to your weakness?

Freeway must be pretty young.

Yea I figured you and Giga were old.

Im 18

We aren't old. You are just a boy. :D

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Originally Posted by Freeway3137 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

A guy playing hard to get is every girl's weakness.

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And such generalizations are yours.

You better realize this fast.

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Originally Posted by Freeway3137 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Yea I figured you and Giga were old.

Im 18

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You're not even half my age, you sprog. At least you're old enough to be held accountable for your actions. Not like that Zarathu puppy.

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Originally Posted by Freeway3137 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

A guy playing hard to get is every girl's weakness.

Of course you won't admit it, why would you admit to your weakness?

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For girls your age yes, but that changes when you hit 20. As then the rules change some and they continue to change as you get older.

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Originally Posted by Gigabitch [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Oh, my God! OV- you crack me up! You spend plenty of time reading about how somebody's day was here on LF- wouldn't you be willing to listen to some girl if you might get some affection from her later?

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Yea, but on here I choose what I read and I can see the END.

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Originally Posted by jurupa [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

For girls your age yes, but that changes when you hit 20. As then the rules change some and they continue to change as you get older.

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O trust me I know they change after 20. I can play both roles.

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Originally Posted by Freeway3137 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

A guy playing hard to get is every girl's weakness.

Of course you won't admit it, why would you admit to your weakness?

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Right, because when a girl isn't interested you'll definitely get attention by ignoring her

I said I ignore them?

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Originally Posted by jurupa [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

For girls your age yes, but that changes when you hit 20. As then the rules change some and they continue to change as you get older.

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Can you specify the rules? I think everything is always the freaking same...she may want money and a long term relationship now instead of just a boyfriend but the strategy of getting her is still the same...and so is the strategy of ditching her. no?

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Originally Posted by Freeway3137 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

A guy playing hard to get is every girl's weakness.

Of course you won't admit it, why would you admit to your weakness?

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That stuff only works for guys that are EXTREMELY good looking. If you don't have the girls chasing YOU then playing hard to get is a lose lose situation. Some guys have to actually fight just for a bit of attention from the opposite sex or they will be alone. You have to have the fish at least hooked before you pull away.

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Originally Posted by The Great OV!!! [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

You have to have the fish at least hooked before you pull away.

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I like that.

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Originally Posted by The Great OV!!! [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Can you specify the rules? I think everything is always the freaking same...she may want money and a long term relationship now instead of just a boyfriend but the strategy of getting her is still the same...and so is the strategy of ditching her. no?

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Basically a lot of the rules you had in high school when it came to dating girls and what have you, are dropped. So Jon the band geek in high school can now at least talk to Sally one of the popular girls in high school as the social environment is different. Its things like this. Yes there are people that still go by or play by or use the same high school dating rules, but most people don't as such things are viewed as inmature. her.

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Originally Posted by jurupa [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Basically a lot of the rules you had in high school when it came to dating girls and what have you, are dropped. So Jon the band geek in high school can now at least talk to Sally one of the popular girls in high school as the social environment is different. Its things like this. Yes there are people that still go by or play by or use the same high school dating rules, but most people don't as such things are viewed as inmature. her.

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So basically the rules are the same, but the setting changed. That is what I mean. The rules are the same. You seem to think that in highschool everyone has some type of a part to play...you know...John the geek...Todd the mucho man...Ron the basketball player....Chris the dork...Kyle the popular stud...need I go on? you know what that is? it is called stereotyping. Guy likes band so he must be a geek? some girls may have classifed people but they were stupid.

So anways, my point is the rules are the same. The way you present yourself increases your chances of success with the girl. You know that Jon the band geek was actually allowed to ask Sally out in highschool right? no rule of high school dating police would arrest him...the fact the he was scared shit less then and later he actually got confidence is not a change of rules, it is a change in Jon's personality.

PS: You still didn't tell me what the rules are.

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Originally Posted by The Great OV!!! [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

So basically the rules are the same, but the setting changed. That is what I mean. The rules are the same. You seem to think that in highschool everyone has some type of a part to play...you know...John the geek...Todd the mucho man...Ron the basketball player....Chris the dork...Kyle the popular stud...need I go on? you know what that is? it is called stereotyping. Guy likes band so he must be a geek? some girls may have classifed people but they were stupid.

So anways, my point is the rules are the same. The way you present yourself increases your chances of success with the girl. You know that Jon the band geek was actually allowed to ask Sally out in highschool right? no rule of high school dating police would arrest him...the fact the he was scared shit less then and later he actually got confidence is not a change of rules, it is a change in Jon's personality.

PS: You still didn't tell me what the rules are.

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I am trying my best to explain this.

Its not the same rules from high school. Yes the same stereotypes exist out of high school. But in high school Jon the geek would get rejected by Sally the popular girl because Sally would not risk her reputation to go out with Jon. But after high school if Jon asked Sally out because the social rules are different as Sally would not be worrying about her reputation as much and be more willing to go out with Jon if she was interested.

In high school guys and girls would pass notes to the guy or girl that they liked, and from my experience it was usually the guys. Out side of high school this barely happens. Its expected that if you are interested in someone you show it in some manner.

Basically what I am trying to say is that yes some of the rules from high school are used after high school as high school is a training ground for such things. But stuff like using notes and other "inmature" things get dropped. Its like going to a college party where certain things are okay while other things are not. And then the next day going to a fancy party hosted by an upper class family and the social rules that where okay at the college party would not really be okay at this type of party.

I can't really list the rules as they are unwritten. But you learn them from society and they change all the time and change where you go as well.