Developed a bad opinion of Sexual Activity

Right, so my first sexual experience was with a serious girlfriend that i had been dating for several months. We had already experimented with various activity but she wanted to take it a bit further, get the act over and done with at last.

See now, I'm one of those "romantic" types and I wanted my first time to be something a bit more special than "Hey babe, let's you and I get jiggy with it". I knew that the time and place would just feel... right. I was absolutely certain of this, I still think it could have been.

Yeah, i'm a guy, I denied sex for some degree of time, we do exist, we are a rare and perishing breed I am aware of this...

At any rate... Eventually she began to put emotional pressure on me to "get my freak on", you might say.

I broke... I engaged in the act.

I HATED IT. It was hollow. There was nothing in the act. I may as well have been a department store mannequin! I felt souless, empty. I wasn't making love to her, I was ****ing her, she made that very clear to me. But I didn't want to **** her, I wanted to love her, and she destroyed that. I was disgusted in her for guilting me into the act and doubly so for my giving in to her demands.

Heh, but I wore the mask well... we had such a relationship for about six months more and I always did it when she wanted to, avoiding it when possible.

To the point, I have very little interest in sex anymore... I'm actually becoming a bit frightened by my disinterest. Has she destroyed my sex drive? Will I ever be able to be intimate with a woman again without feeling that... that sense of revulsion? That sense of corruption?

Just to keep the question from popping up, no I am not a homosexual who is merely finally finding out that his desires lie elsewhere. I find men disgusting by nature and wonder how women could possibly be attracted to the bloated, reeking psuedo-corpses we refer to nowadays as "men". The vast collection of lesbian porn from my high school days is also a testament to the truth of my inner nature.

Perhaps I simply didn't find her sexually attractive? I will admit I often asked myself if I truly ever thought her beautiful, as I so oft told her...

I don't know. I am losing my sex drive and you are losing your interest in sex. It is odd though because even if the sex was not passionate and was more down right ****ing a man should usually be turned on anyways, unless like you said, you were not as attracted to her as you thought...but I don't understand how you don't know your level of attraction...that is beyond me.

maybe you're a lesbian?

Based on your views of virginity before you had sex, I suspect your warped perceptions preexisted your sexual activity. Stop blaming her. You did what you did, and now you feel guilty. You made your own choice, now take responsibility for it like a man.

You probably have some sort of a madonna-whore complex which is fueled by your interest in porn while remaining chaste. Are you a religious guy?

I suggest you get some good counseling.

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Originally Posted by Varulfr [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Yeah, i'm a guy, I denied sex for some degree of time, we do exist, we are a rare and perishing breed I am aware of this...

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Sorry, but you're not that special.

Oh god that must've been sooooo horrible for you, having your girlfriend asking you to sleep with her, and then having to actually **** her. I'm amazed you're still alive after that 'hollow' and 'corrupted' experience.

Vashti's right, you have no business blaming the girl, she just wanted to have sex. You wanted to do some freaky two-intertwined-souls bullshit. Now, because you didn't have spiritual sex you're pissing and moaning and being a drama queen.

You've had one, ONE, sexual partner and nothing about your experience with her was scarring. If that somehow causes you to lose your sex drive then you're a lost cause and you might as well become a monk.

Next time someone "pressures" you, hold out for someone you really want to be with. Keep in mind that even though you might feel you were PRESSURED, you had a right to say no. So, if you didn't, you cannot blame anyone but yourself.

I think you had too high of expectations for the first time. I held out for a long time and my first time was far from picture perfect. In fact, the guy used me. (I found that out after the fact.) But, the point is, it wasn't all his fault. I admit that I always had the opportunity to say no...and never did. So, therefore I learned from my mistake and was much more particular about who I got involved with sexually after that.

So basically, you live and you learn. No point in focusing on what happened in the past cuz you can't change that. But focus on the future.

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Originally Posted by Varulfr [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Right, so my first sexual experience was with a serious girlfriend that i had been dating for several months. We had already experimented with various activity but she wanted to take it a bit further, get the act over and done with at last.

See now, I'm one of those "romantic" types and I wanted my first time to be something a bit more special than "Hey babe, let's you and I get jiggy with it". I knew that the time and place would just feel... right. I was absolutely certain of this, I still think it could have been.

Yeah, i'm a guy, I denied sex for some degree of time, we do exist, we are a rare and perishing breed I am aware of this...

At any rate... Eventually she began to put emotional pressure on me to "get my freak on", you might say.

I broke... I engaged in the act.

I HATED IT. It was hollow. There was nothing in the act. I may as well have been a department store mannequin! I felt souless, empty. I wasn't making love to her, I was ****ing her, she made that very clear to me. But I didn't want to **** her, I wanted to love her, and she destroyed that. I was disgusted in her for guilting me into the act and doubly so for my giving in to her demands.

Heh, but I wore the mask well... we had such a relationship for about six months more and I always did it when she wanted to, avoiding it when possible.

To the point, I have very little interest in sex anymore... I'm actually becoming a bit frightened by my disinterest. Has she destroyed my sex drive? Will I ever be able to be intimate with a woman again without feeling that... that sense of revulsion? That sense of corruption?

Just to keep the question from popping up, no I am not a homosexual who is merely finally finding out that his desires lie elsewhere. I find men disgusting by nature and wonder how women could possibly be attracted to the bloated, reeking psuedo-corpses we refer to nowadays as "men". The vast collection of lesbian porn from my high school days is also a testament to the truth of my inner nature.

Perhaps I simply didn't find her sexually attractive? I will admit I often asked myself if I truly ever thought her beautiful, as I so oft told her...

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I can understand that you might have felt pressured into it but you still made the decision yourself. Its not her fault at all.

But you simply need to find someone who feels the same as you in your values and perspectives on stuff like this. Thats all there is to it. Wait till you find someone who shares your views.

Much <3. --Zach

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Originally Posted by misombra [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

maybe you're a lesbian?

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LOL !!!

The original post reminds me of "Dr. Strangelove" where General Ripper is telling Mandrake how he wants to maintain is purity of essence and not give it to women!!! (I'm still laughing)

Sex is sex. One gets tired of sex unless it was someone who looks like Misombra (I was told in another thread that Misombra looks like my dream woman).

Why did you let her manipulate you into doing something you didn't want to do? Take a stand. Be strong. Don't let women walk all over you. Next time, you decide. You will once again fall in love, and when you do, try my advice.

Save it for when you want. Don't let any woman manipulate you into something like that. When YOU feel the time is right, and feel the perfect moment, you will want it. Don't worry about it.

Who said sex is sex? Whoever it was was RIGHT. The first time was only the first time.

Yes, you can have amazing sex. Mindblowing, soul-touching, stellar sex. The kind of sex where you're absolutely sure God is watching and approves.

But it's still sex. And you're not getting any better at it at the rate you're going.

Whatever.

In the end.

This guy's a pussy.

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Originally Posted by Gigabitch [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Who said sex is sex? Whoever it was was RIGHT. The first time was only the first time.

Yes, you can have amazing sex. Mindblowing, soul-touching, stellar sex. The kind of sex where you're absolutely sure God is watching and approves.

But it's still sex. And you're not getting any better at it at the rate you're going.

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It was me, giga. I was the one who said "sex is sex."

I agree with the rest of your post. Mind-blowing sex usually does involve something deeper than just sex. The woman with whom I had the most amazing sex...there were parallels in our lives and in our responses to things...we knew each other's minds and bodies and our level of trust and sensitivity to one another was truly amazing. It wasn't love, it was an unbelievable level of trust, however.

Result: absolutely amazing sex sessions that would find us in bed together for 6+ hours at a time.

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Originally Posted by CAM [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

LOL !!!

The original post reminds me of "Dr. Strangelove" where General Ripper is telling Mandrake how he wants to maintain is purity of essence and not give it to women!!! (I'm still laughing)

Sex is sex. One gets tired of sex unless it was someone who looks like Misombra (I was told in another thread that Misombra looks like my dream woman).

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i'm every man's dream woman so, go ahead and step in line. :D

lol jk. that's sweet.

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Originally Posted by misombra [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

i'm every man's dream woman so, go ahead and step in line. :D

lol jk. that's sweet.

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Can I see a picture?

sorry, i don't have any. but a lot of people say i look like young liz taylor...

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I think you look like that singer... what's her name? Damn, I can't remember.

I want to squeeze her boobies.

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Originally Posted by vashti [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I think you look like that singer... what's her name? Damn, I can't remember.

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amy lee?

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i get that a lot too. but i'm a little more brown than her.

what thread are you talking about anyway?

Yes, that's her... only a little more like this picture:

[url]http://www.amyleeworld.com/new_amylee_pics/02.html[/url]

sex is supposed to be fun too, you forgot about that.

misombra says:

"sorry, i don't have any. but a lot of people say i look like young liz taylor..."

don't lie. This is what you look like.

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:tough: religion coming through:

hey, sex is for making babies, and yeah thats pretty much what we were giving sexual organs for.

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Originally Posted by koolwhip [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

:tough: religion coming through:

hey, sex is for making babies, and yeah thats pretty much what we were giving sexual organs for.

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If sex is solely for making babies, then why do women have a clitoris? They serve no reproductive function.

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Originally Posted by koolwhip [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

:tough: religion coming through:

hey, sex is for making babies, and yeah thats pretty much what we were giving sexual organs for.

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Strictly business huh?

You can keep your religion, I feel bad for any girl you happen to get with though.

Oh I'm sorry, you wouldn't be "getting" with her anyway.

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Originally Posted by NeoSeminole [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

misombra says:

"sorry, i don't have any. but a lot of people say i look like young liz taylor..."

don't lie. This is what you look like.

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lol. elephants are my favorite animal. they're actually quite smart and not at all as disney portrays them. not that disney portrays anything accurately...

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Originally Posted by vashti [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

If sex is solely for making babies, then why do women have a clitoris? They serve no reproductive function.

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Encourages intercourse. Women would think twice if all they got out of it was nine-month delayed agony. Not that I buy into that nature BS. It's just a thought.

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Originally Posted by Gribble [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Encourages intercourse. Women would think twice if all they got out of it was nine-month delayed agony. Not that I buy into that nature BS. It's just a thought.

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This only reinforces my argument that they are there for PLEASURE. Sex is still pleasurable, even without orgasm, and lots of women do not have orgasms because (let's face it) some of you guys are no good in bed. Still, their women continue to have sex.

All stimulation and pleasure that comes from sex is there to force the person to do it in the first place, to actually look for it. Face it, these days you may think it is easy and just being with a girl is fun enough, but nature had to battle woman that have shit still coming out of their ass, hair everywhere, and it had to force males that have been hunting for food all day to mate....different now isn't it? Ofcourse it is going to make it feel good as hell, so you do it agian and agian.

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Originally Posted by Gribble [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Not that I buy into that nature BS.

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Where do you shop?

You said the clitoris serves no reproductive function. In my opinion it does. Pleasure encourages us to have sex. That's all I'm trying to say.

Bah. Women don't have orgasms because their equipment is overly complicated and, for whatever reason, many of them never try to educate their lovers. I would love nothing more than for a girl to show me what does it for her. I want her to have a great time. I don't want her giggling with her girlfriends over how pathetic I am.

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Originally Posted by The Great OV!!! [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Where do you shop?

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Same place you do, C-mart. See you in Toledo.

point taken...but still, i mean cmon, im religious, and i never said anything about following those ways did i? im just statin my opinion.

I think Vashti's made a good point, Varulfr. You do seem to have a double standard with your "beliefs" and the porn collection.

However, the term "making love" carries a very sensual tone. And women, the incredibly sensual beings that they are-wouldn't you say that lesbian porn carries a lot of this sensuality as well? Perhaps that's what you are looking for?

In response to Koolwhip:
You hold a very old view of the Church. (Unless this has changed, the Catholic Church allows only timing as a contraceptive method-which would be completely hypocritical if sex organs were meant only for procreation). I'm sure there are sects that still hold to that doctrine, but if you research Church theology today, you will find that many have changed to something more along the lines of, "Sex for pleasure is a beautiful and pleasing thing to God, so long as it is in the confines of a marriage." The last part could very well change in the coming times as Christian marriage is showing a downward trend.

...im basically following the "so long as it is in the confines of a marriage." If that gets changed then ill stop arguing.

well, not arguing, but stating my opinion about "that"

they will still be religous based though

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Originally Posted by koolwhip [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

well, not arguing, but stating my opinion about "that"

they will still be religous based though

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My religion dictates that you're wrong.

That's not my opinion, that's truth.

whats your problem dood, im just saying what i think its best.

just because you have your own religion doesnt mean you should get mad at others for not believeing in what you believe.

and isnt there something in the rules about deleting religion talkbacks?

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Originally Posted by koolwhip [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

and isnt there something in the rules about deleting religion talkbacks?

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No, but there is something about deleting irrelivent religious posts. I didn't notice Fras getting mad anywhere, he just gave you a statment.