a phobia

i have this weird phobia, and i want to get over it, but i'm not sure how..

i'm afraid to give oral sex or have any kind of sex with a woman that has slept with another man. it's tough to admit. i WANT to sleep with women i know who aren't virgins... but i have a part of me that doesn't want to either...

i'm not with a girl or anything right now, but i just want to get over it, just incase i end up with a nice girlfriend that has had sex before. i'm not sure what i can do to get over it, and i'm not sure why it disgusts me..

please help me figure out why it disgusts me and give me pointers on what i can do to get over it. :upset:

Stop watching porn for one.

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Originally Posted by Frasbee [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Stop watching porn for one.

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interesting. i'm curious, how would porn trigger this phobia?

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Originally Posted by lilwing [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

interesting. i'm curious, how would porn trigger this phobia?

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Would you ever date one of those women after viewing them in one of their movies?

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Originally Posted by Frasbee [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Would you ever date one of those women after viewing them in one of their movies?

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no way! i'd probably get really angry because i watched them have sex with someone else.

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Originally Posted by lilwing [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

no way! i'd probably get really angry because i watched them have sex with someone else.

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Exactly, but what you don't know, can't hurt you.

Unless of course it's an STI.

Straight up, try this, next time you inquire about a girls sexual background, don't go any farther than whether or not she's carrying anything, and what she prefers.

Do not ask a question you don't want to know the answer to.

We both know whether a girl is a virgin or not doesn't really matter anyway.

thanks for the tip bro

What about the pron stars that do lesbian only, Lilwing? Would you date one of them?

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Originally Posted by Gribble [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

What about the pron stars that do lesbian only, Lilwing? Would you date one of them?

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i doubt they would go out with me unless i looked that feminine :)

Dating porn stars? I am not sure that is a good idea, unless you get one that makes a lot of money..........

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Originally Posted by jurupa [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Dating porn stars? I am not sure that is a good idea, unless you get one that makes a lot of money..........

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i thought you hated gold diggers.

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Originally Posted by lilwing [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

i thought you hated gold diggers.

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Female ones, not male ones.

Wait, didn't you banged that girl in your Oldsmobile?

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Originally Posted by Only-virgins [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Wait, didn't you banged that girl in your Oldsmobile?

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yea, that's why i posted this, basically. i think i really didn't care because i only wanted sex.. but now i'm looking at more of a relationship type thing, where finding out about a girl's sex life would most likely offend me.

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Originally Posted by lilwing [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

yea, that's why i posted this, basically. i think i really didn't care because i only wanted sex.. but now i'm looking at more of a relationship type thing, where finding out about a girl's sex life would most likely offend me.

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But you don't even respect this girl. What kind of relationship could you possibly have?

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Originally Posted by Gigabitch [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

But you don't even respect this girl. What kind of relationship could you possibly have?

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haha, i am not thinking about going out with that girl! sorry, i understand how confusing that post was.

i am actually dating a foreign exchange student from germany now :) as of today

Well, be careful what you ask her. Some of it may not be stuff you want to know and isn't really your business anyway, IMO. Give yourself a chance to be happy, at least for a little while.

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Originally Posted by lilwing [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

yea, that's why i posted this, basically. i think i really didn't care because i only wanted sex.. but now i'm looking at more of a relationship type thing, where finding out about a girl's sex life would most likely offend me.

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That doesn't make sense to me.

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Originally Posted by Only-virgins [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

That doesn't make sense to me.

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because you "ain't had none" yet. :)

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Originally Posted by lilwing [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

because you "ain't had none" yet. :)

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Roffles. LOPL

Vaguely related story about the dangers of asking too many questions.

I met this really awesome girl years ago. She was an Australian gymnast. Very, very hot, though in miniature. I think she was like 4'11. But that's okay by me. Anyway, we were getting close. She was sure thing, a soon-to-be notch in the ol' belt.

One evening we were hanging out together and we got to talking, and as usual with me, I brought up sex. I asked her what her favorite position was, where was the weirdest place she'd done it, silly stuff like that. Then I asked her what the freakiest thing she'd ever done was. At first she was hesitant to say. Given that her previous two answers were pathetically vanilla, I expected something innocent and cute, so I pressured her. She made me swear not to judge her, to which I agreed. At this point I figured she was going to tell me she'd got it on with a girl or something cool like that. I was wrong.

She told me that when she was 18 her uncle came to spend a week with her family. And... uhm... yeah, I think you know where this is going. If I'd kept my stupid questions to myself I could have tapped that fine ass and been blissfully ignorant. But nooooo. I had to be stupid and ruin a good thing. Biggest mistake ever.

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Originally Posted by Gribble [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Vaguely related story about the dangers of asking too many questions.

I met this really awesome girl years ago. She was an Australian gymnast. Very, very hot, though in miniature. I think she was like 4'11. But that's okay by me. Anyway, we were getting close. She was sure thing, a soon-to-be notch in the ol' belt.

One evening we were hanging out together and we got to talking, and as usual with me, I brought up sex. I asked her what her favorite position was, where was the weirdest place she'd done it, silly stuff like that. Then I asked her what the freakiest thing she'd ever done was. At first she was hesitant to say. Given that her previous two answers were pathetically vanilla, I expected something innocent and cute, so I pressured her. She made me swear not to judge her, to which I agreed. At this point I figured she was going to tell me she'd got it on with a girl or something cool like that. I was wrong.

She told me that when she was 18 her uncle came to spend a week with her family. And... uhm... yeah, I think you know where this is going. If I'd kept my stupid questions to myself I could have tapped that fine ass and been blissfully ignorant. But nooooo. I had to be stupid and ruin a good thing. Biggest mistake ever.

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At least she tried to stop you from asking it.

I don't know why she ever admitted that to you, Gribble. She clearly wasn't the brightest bulb in the box.

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Originally Posted by vashti [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I don't know why she ever admitted that to you, Gribble. She clearly wasn't the brightest bulb in the box.

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UH Vash do you mean "she was not the sharpest tool in the tool box"?

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Originally Posted by jurupa [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

UH Vash do you mean "she was not the sharpest tool in the tool box"?

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It's the same thing essentially.

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Originally Posted by lilwing [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

because you "ain't had none" yet. :)

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I was not talking about the sex. Basically it sounds like you are the piece of shit stereo typing version of me. You want a virgin but only when you feel like it and you think you can bang anyone all the time but then get a virgin girlfriend, whille to me that is ridiculous. douche. Only take what you can give.

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Originally Posted by Only-virgins [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I was not talking about the sex. Basically it sounds like you are the piece of shit stereo typing version of me. You want a virgin but only when you feel like it and you think you can bang anyone all the time but then get a virgin girlfriend, whille to me that is ridiculous. douche. Only take what you can give.

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i am not a version of anyone. i am me. i'm not stereo typing anyone, you prick. lighten the **** up.

you're putting words in my mouth now. i DON'T give a **** whether a girl is a virgin or not, i just have a phobia of being sexual with them.

Men only want virgin girlfriends because they're scared of being crap in bed being compared to the other men they've slept with, that's your phobia. Low self esteem/confidence.

It also gets awkward when you hit her in just the right spot & someone else's name gets screamed out for the whole neighborhood to hear.

But,yes Converse,your right.

Guys are worried that "I am" no good in bed compared to .... ,means "I am" out the door & out of "her" life.

It is more of a common fear for men then phobia.
Woman show this in jealousy,men show it in fear.

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Originally Posted by Converse [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Men only want virgin girlfriends because they're scared of being crap in bed being compared to the other men they've slept with, that's your phobia. Low self esteem/confidence.

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actually that's not my fear/phobia. it just grosses me out if i know another penis has been in there. like there is germs or something.

i have no fear of 'being crap in bed' because i know i'm pretty good in bed.

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Originally Posted by Gribble [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Then I asked her what the freakiest thing she'd ever done was.

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That isn't freaky at all.

That's on a whole different level.

So not only did she scare you away, she didn't even truly answer your question.

Shame.

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Originally Posted by Chimeros0 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

It also gets awkward when you hit her in just the right spot & someone else's name gets screamed out for the whole neighborhood to hear.

But,yes Converse,your right.

Guys are worried that "I am" no good in bed compared to .... ,means "I am" out the door & out of "her" life.

It is more of a common fear for men then phobia.
Woman show this in jealousy,men show it in fear.

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I want to agree with this because it is very logical and I agree that for some men this is definitely the case, but not me. I want a virgin but not because I fear of the effect it may have on her opinion of my sexual abilities. "Out of her life" exactly...if she isn't a virgin I don't even feel like she is worthy of being in mine.

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Originally Posted by lilwing [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

actually that's not my fear/phobia. it just grosses me out if i know another penis has been in there. like there is germs or something.

i have no fear of 'being crap in bed' because i know i'm pretty good in bed.

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Dude, now you seriously make no sense...you already did a non-virgins..whatever germs there are you got them already :P lol

He has a symptom known as "Fear-Of-Non-Virgin-I tis".
Fairly common in those that get crabs ( from promiscuous partners ) for the first time...

Just pulling your leg Lilwing.
It has these nice shiny bells on it that go *tingle*, *tingle*, *plink*.

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Originally Posted by Chimeros0 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

He has a symptom known as "Fear-Of-Non-Virgin-I tis".
Fairly common in those that get crabs ( from promiscuous partners ) for the first time...

Just pulling your leg Lilwing.
It has these nice shiny bells on it that go *tingle*, *tingle*, *plink*.

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Those aren't *bells*.... those are *balls*.

Ouch,balls of steel with holes in them...
That go *tingle*, *tingle*, *plink*...

My childhood is ruined...

But wait...

But why would his balls have holes in them?
& why would they go *tingle*, *tingle*, *plink*?
Has he got testicular cancer?