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well this girl that i really like might be coming round next week, and yeh we talk a fair bit and get along well. I just want to know how i can lead up to making a move or anything. I want to know how i can get to that stage. I like her and am going to see her again but wat do i do from here!! somebody help!!!
Best move I've ever seen/heard of/used is the 'playful wrestling'. Simply horse around for a bit. Eventually (being stronger, which I'm just going to assume although I could be wrong) you can pin her against a wall or the floor or something. Keep your face close to hers, hopefully you'll both be tired from laughing (cause you were tickling her while wrestling, right?!) look into her eyes, and kiss her. Hasn't failed yet. And if she does seem shocked and didn't want it, you can always back out with a "Sorry. I was caught in the moment." and get off easy.
Go for it.
yeh that sounds ok i guess but i dont know if it'll work with this girl ive done it before with others and ur right it works wonders. But i just rekon this girl will be different has ne one got other ideas plz???
Most girls will pretty much give the opportunity to you on a silver platter. As in you'll be talking or something and you'll just stop talking and look into each others eyes. That's the signal. Of course it's up to you whether you take it or not.
When you're hugging her, try going as though you were going to kiss her on the cheek but 'miss' and get a little bit of her lips. Then it seems to her like you went for the cheek but really wanted the lips and she'll get the message that you want to kiss her.
Alexi
ok
thanks :)
...hhhmm... how about asking? I mean .. why not be upfront...
"I think you are beautiful.... ( put on a loving smile..;)) canI kiss you?"..... BAM... job done!
Jane! That takes all the romance out of it! What about "the mood"? The "moment"? C'mon now! You seriously telling me you would rather have someone say, "jane, may I kiss you?" than to be tickled and wrestled, look deep into their eyes and then just be kissed?
Alexi
.. you know what.. it depends .. that can be romantic.. lol...
I would rather he be "natural" then try some strange and akward way to kissing me that he may fail at... just my view on it! :)
The whole point of a move is to make it SEEM natural. Even though it's a move. Same thing with kino and everything else. It doesn't work when you force it, but if it seems natural and just looks like it's a part of you, it works!
Alexi
I remember asking permission for my first kiss. I wish I could go back and just DO IT! But too late for that.
.. oh man.. Alexi! No .. dont tell me you are falling into the "kino" trap? :bored:
man,.. I thought you were smarter then that.
What's the "kino" trap?
... the gay interprataion of "how to hit on a women"... ? Are you now a MVP follower? Not that there is anything wrong with that .. MVP sometimes knows what he is talking about but ... kino?
What happened to men who actually went after a women the "natural" way? Explain to me why you need to have "moves"?
well thanks to all that replied but are there more suggestions coz i dont know if these will work. I realy just dont know what to do. If i see her at the start of the night how do get to that stage when we muck around and stuff??
The natural way is all fine and dandy Jane. But kino is just a test to see how interested she is in you. If you place your hand on her back as you open a door for her, or just touch her arm as you talk to her, and she shy's away, she's probably not that attracted to you and therefore you know that it probably won't go anywhere. but if she feels comfortable with bodily contact with you, you know that she holds nothing against you and you know that there's a chance.
What's wrong with that?
well.. I guess nothing .. but I hate the fact that it has to do with the "moves" ya know? Thoe are natual things.. As a girl.. I just dont want to think about why a guy is doin that kind of stuff. make sense? It just ruins the moment.
what about if you take both her hands, look her in the eyes and tell her something that you really like about her and lean in for a kiss.
hhmmm bit rash i think
i think it all depends on how comfortable you are with that one person, my first girlfriend, i kissed her after we argued...it was like a retarded moment but it worked...and other girls i've been with i either asked because it seemed the right time for the situation and other times it just happened i was close enough to her lips that i went for it and she let me kiss her...*sigh* those were the days...
While you're talking to her face to face, casually reach out and touch her hair as you say something like "your hair looks so soft". While you're looking into her eyes, lean in a kiss her.
And if she freaks at you touching her hair, you'll know to bail before it's to late.
that sounds cliche...but it might work...i don't think anything is natural anymore these days...
just kiss the girl, forget the moves or whatever, you'll "know" when the moment is right. Put yourselves in a situation where it can be done! Dont tihink just do...
doesn't work when i see a girl walk passed me, i usually get slapped...i'll keep trying tho...:goofy:
you'll have u understand firstly where this girl stands...has she been dating before, she shy, such questions to these gives u a bit of insight on wats going on...does she kiss in 1st dates such as these...it took my date about a good 1 1/2 to kiss her...she never dated ne one so it gives out a big advantage to me... but now she kisses me now...better feeling ever cuz i don't like to forced to kiss someone they do it for me...other than that...plz post on your updates ;)
all these ideas, comes from movies & tv shows...i guess they'll work
what i did with my girl, was that i just went for it
some girls love it when you are getting straight to the point
but don't be like......"yo, imma kiss you"
just be very relax, and then slowly touch her hair or something, while you watch a movie
oh yeah, thats it, get a movie and watch it.....make sure its a good movie, not like a horror type
otherwise you get jack
it really depends on the situation, you can't be all like inches away from her face and automatically assume you will get to kiss her. it's really all on the girl cuz then you'll look like a perv or just some guy who wants some. i don't usually initiate a kiss but i go as far as waiting for the girl to give me signals that she wants to be kissed. like one time i was talking to a girl i was going out with and we were talking and for some reason i couldn't stop looking into her eyes (corny but oh well) and she was just right there smiling and so i just gave her a kiss and she liked it! she really, really liked it! :astonish: but ya, all dependent on the girl/situation.
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Originally posted by sfalexi
Best move I've ever seen/heard of/used is the 'playful wrestling'. Simply horse around for a bit. Eventually (being stronger, which I'm just going to assume although I could be wrong) you can pin her against a wall or the floor or something. Keep your face close to hers, hopefully you'll both be tired from laughing (cause you were tickling her while wrestling, right?!) look into her eyes, and kiss her. Hasn't failed yet. And if she does seem shocked and didn't want it, you can always back out with a "Sorry. I was caught in the moment." and get off easy.
Go for it.
This is true.... :detective :P
Have you seen his wife though, so very beautiful. Being a guy this is funny for me too say...but men are some dumbass sometimes. But I guess you could say that about anyone now-a-days huh... :bored:
A move my friend did is he was watching a movie with this girl and they were kinda cuddling and he look at her and said, "There's something I've been wanting to do a while." and he kissed her. I don't like it but hey, it's an idea. My current girlfriend kiss me first. (movie, cuddling) looks at me and says, "I could make this situation really weird." I said," how?" she said," I'm not the mean." I said, "I like mean." Then she kissed me. Oh and you know your good if your cuddling.
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Originally posted by sfalexi
Jane! That takes all the romance out of it! What about "the mood"? The "moment"? C'mon now! You seriously telling me you would rather have someone say, "jane, may I kiss you?" than to be tickled and wrestled, look deep into their eyes and then just be kissed?
Alexi
I couldn't agree more. I've had guys ask me before if they could kiss me and it was a total turnoff. Of course every girl is different, but I personally like a guy with confidence who knows what he wants. Now I'm not saying just grab her and go for it because that's a little too extreme. But I will say that the whole playing/wrestling move does work. It all comes down to the right timing. I know it's cliche, but you'll know when the right time comes. Just take your time and check her body language. Good luck!
I'm not very good at giving advice and I'm not overly experienced in this area but I would like to say one thing. No matter how you kiss her - ask her, wrestle with her, cuddle, compliment, w/e - just be sure you DO kiss her. The first time I wanted to kiss my girlfriend I wanted to wait until the perfect moment. Turns out I waited a little too long and next thing I knew the day was over and we were apart. I made sure that the next time I saw her (about a week later) I just made it the right moment. Maybe it wasn't the most romantic thing in the world but it worked. And now we've been together 10 months and it almost comes naturally too me. I can just lean in and she'll know I want to kiss her and it's amazing. So don't be afraid to take a chance here. All journeys begin with a single step ;) .
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I only get one chance to do this. So, wrong or right, I'll live without regret.
But shouldn't it actually be natural? I usually just find all of a sudden we're kissing. You just know it's what you both want and it just happens.Quote:
Originally posted by sfalexi
The whole point of a move is to make it SEEM natural. Even though it's a move.