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so there's this really cute girl that is the hostess/receptionist of this japanese restaraunt. You know, the ones that brings you to your table but doesnt wait tables, i think that is about right
Anyways i'm going there for dinner tommorow with my friends, anyone got any good ideas on how to start a conversation with her? seems a bit harder cause she doesnt wait tables. :surprised
Walk up to her and ask "Chung yung yung wa?"
Maybe you could ask her to show you how to use chopsticks...
Or, you can ask her to suggest something to eat...
sorry but that's probably closer to chinese even though it's still bullshit.Quote:
Originally Posted by lilwing [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
well when you first enter, ask the other hostess if she's single, that's a dead give away. f*ck it, if you get rejected who cares, BUT if she thinks you're cute then you might have a chance.
raverboy
haha hmm interesting stuff, vashti, unfortunately. it's a dead giveaway that i know how to use chopsticks haha. Do people really ask whats good to eat to a hostess instead of a waiter? @illusional, haha no beating around the bush i see! might have to work up the courage for that one @_@
ask her "where is good place to sit?"Quote:
Originally Posted by naoki322 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I actually like Illusional's approach.
Just say thanks if she do some thing, for example if she show you a place to sit, or some thing like that, you can say...
You: "Ok...thanks...ehmmm...what's your name again?"
Her : "Maria ozawa"
You : "Ohhh...yes...thanks again maria..."
Say her name...then repeat it again when your going to leave the restaurant. This is enough for start conversation...after you doing that (next when you go to that restaurant again) then you start to introduce your self ... :)
Tell her there's room for one more at your table, then waggle your eyebrows up and down.
well this night if obviously over, but if you didn't have the courage to do it yourself, you could always ask your friends to do it for you.
raverboy
haha unfortunately i didnt have much of an opportunity to talk to her QQ D: so my friend was like "if you're not gonna do it! just leave a note with your number on the check" he then proceeded to rip a piece of paper somewhere and write my number down O_O. oh well haha. dont hurt to try as some would say
I'd be surprised if she responds. You'd better try Illusional's approach.
i was thinking about that, but it might seem desperate that i am only going there for her? haha. plus another thing is, hypothetically lets say i do ask her if she was single or not, then she answers yes, where would i go from there? be like "then would you like to go out sometime?" would seem to jump right on the boat a bit too fast lol
how the hell did you not have time to talk to her?? you were there for atleast an hour where at any time you could've walked away from your friends and talk to her, her coworkers, or atleast something. shit, if i were you'd i'd plan another dinner for this weekend. show her that you're interested and if she shuts you down, then you never return there again haha. when i was interested in this girl at the supermarket, shit i bought beer from her everyone other day. that is.. until she didn't wanna gimme her number, then i cut it down to buying beer on the weekends haha.
raverboy
ahah but what about my previous question? :O! ; ; if she does say yes hmmm.
haha i believe that if that happens, you'll know what you do. obviously you ask for her number, isn't that the entire point of going up and talking to her?? i think you should set up a date after you've talked to her on the phone and you've got a better feel of her personality.
raverboy
When she's serving you, the first time you get a look at her, pretend you are dazzled and paralyzed, giving her a hint. Then say could i have your phonenumber? Thats the classic movie style way. :)
But I see lots of holes on your crush with this person cause she might only speak japanese or she might be married. But good luck.
haha well jimmy the problem is, she doesnt wait tables or brings the food. all she does is bring people to their table and sometimes the check. I know she speaks english though. not very loudly but yeah, pretty sure she knows how to.
yup, i was about to say that this jimmy character is worse than me when it comes to NOT reading the damn thread.
raverboy
Ah yes, the waitress, the cashier, the hostess, the stewardess...unfortunately, most of the people you meet today are waiting on you or helping you. It sets up the impossible situation.
Friends and relatives regularly call to tell me about the nice young single woman who worked at the store where they shopped. "You should go down and meet her, Cameron!"
Yeah, and then what? I should ask her out while she's weighing my asparagus or scanning the Cream of Wheat box? Or, better still...the bank teller who is all cuddly sweet and smiley...well of course she's smiling, she's looking at my account balance. Give me a break!
Back in college days, everyone was in a community and weren't identified by their roles. Now, we meet most people while they are not just themselves; rather, they are filling a role, doing a job. Very difficult to ask the person to emerge from their role and interact with you as a person...when, in fact, the only reason you are meeting them is because they are working and are interacting with you because that's their job. Even when Mormon sisters come to my door to convert me and save my soul...usually beautiful and nice women...what the heck am I going to do? Say, "Hey Sister Smith, after you are done converting souls for the day, perhaps we could go out for a glass of warm milk?"
So, the waitress...enjoy the eye-candy and your little fantasy and if it makes you feel better, leave a big tip so that she smiles ever more brightly at you...but don't expect much more.
sorry i just have the biggest urge to say, who pooped in your oatmeal today?
The next time you go in, just tell her you were so nervous the last time that you forgot your standard pickup line and ask her if she'd like to grab a bite with you when her shift ends...
cam.. just because they are helping you out, it doesn't mean that they don't want to feel attractive too. so what better way to show them attention than to ask for their number??
side note.. a lot of the jobs that you mention, don't work off tips so that always a factor that you have to considered. they aren't being nice to you because they want a larger tip.
raverboy
Very true. Perhaps I verged from my normal level of cynicism into extreme forms of cyncism :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Illusional [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Asking for a number isn't hard to do...I have problems with it not because I'm timid.... It is more of a very rigid personality that sees things in black and white terms...namely, they are at work filling a "role", so I don't personalize the relationship. However, my very rigidity about this distinction means that there is rarely an "acceptable" time for me to actually pursue women.
So, to reiterate...you are right. Go ahead, ask for the poor woman's phone number. A good idea...just one that I wouldn't personally feel comfortable doing.
LOL, Aegis!
Yeah, you can't win with the bank tellers...they know it all. If you have a high account balance, then you know why they are smiling. If you have a low account balance, then you also know.
I think that dating the bank teller would be the equivalent of dating a therapist...ever see that episode of Seinfeld where Elaine dates her therapist? Hillarious. She goes to break up with him and he just looks as her and says, "Elaine, have you been having that dream about a lesbian tryst with a older Chinese woman?" Elaine like totally shriveled on that comment!!!
The bank teller would be the same sort of thing. If you have a wad of cash and she knows it...then, you buy only a half dozen roses on Valentine's Day, she'll be thinking, "****ing cheap bastard! I KNOW he can afford more than that!"