My unrequited love

Hi guys, i'm new here. I need your help.

I think i'm in love with a married woman. I met her in a hotel in Lago de Orta, Italy. In the hotel, she was in a room next to mine. When i was in my hotel room i spoke to her from the balcony. Her name is Samata. She is from Belgium. She has black hair and blue eyes. When i saw her sitting in the hotel lobby with her husband, i couldn't breath. I waved her hi and she smiled at me. Since then, i can't erase her smiling face. I think i'm deeply in love with her. I wish i could meet her earlier in life before she met her husband. When she left the hotel with her husband, i knew i will never see her face again. I know i need to move on and forget about her but the problem is i can't stop thinking about her.

How old are you? You seem like you might be a teenager. Is that right?

How in the world could you be in love with her?

Do people really think this is how love works? I know I've been really harsh on here lately, but Jesus, someone has to.

You know, time is the best healer. Take up something interesting, hang out with your friend. Or take her telephone and then go out with her.

dude...for god sakes, she was just a damn hotel neighbor... really, have some common sense.

You're infatuated with her, not in love.

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Originally Posted by Gigabitch [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

How old are you? You seem like you might be a teenager. Is that right?

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I'm 21. I think she is older than me but i don't know her age.

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Originally Posted by Alex.ko

You know, time is the best healer. Take up something interesting, hang out with your friend. Or take her telephone and then go out with her.

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I think you're right. Time is the best healer. Only time can help get strong emotions into perspective. But just spending a lot of time thinking about her without actually seeing her, can cause my feelings to grow out of proportion. I love her but i know i will never see her again. She's a married woman so i could probably never have her. Because i won't see her again, in time i'm sure i will forget her. But i can't fall out of love with her over night, after all, and in some ways i need to grieve for this lost love.

We all have an idea in our mind of "The Perfect One". Now you have a face to put to it.

It has nothing to do with who she really is or what her life is like. She's a fantasy girl.

i feel you should get over her quickly because i agree with mssleepy there is no such thing as love at first sight. The reason you fall in love with someone is because of her personality towards you and likewise for her. You had just met this girl, you don't even know who she is, well anyways i get over someone by putting every picture and everything they gave me away and then hang out with friends and keep yourself busy. thats my advice. good luck

What Giga said. You don't know anything about her, except her looks. She could be a total bitch for all you know.

Anyway, she's married, so forget it & find someone available.

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Originally Posted by IndiReloaded [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

What Giga said. You don't know anything about her, except her looks. She could be a total bitch for all you know.

Anyway, she's married, so forget it & find someone available.

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That's why it hurts so bad to know she is with another man and that i will never be with her. When i talked to her she seemed very friendly. I wish i met her earlier in life before she met her husband. But it might be comforting that i will never see her again so i can forget she ever existed and move on with my life.

Is this what poses for a problem nowadays?

In terms of severity, this issue is about a notch below fretting over a stray string on a sweater

You knew the situation wouldn't be so well as a women usually wouldn't go to a hotel all alone.............but atleast her memories will be a little more faint as you didn't get to know her as much if you know what I mean. Otherwise, the cliche , time will solve much.

this is so childish. This is not love

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Originally Posted by TDurden [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Is this what poses for a problem nowadays?

In terms of severity, this issue is about a notch below fretting over a stray string on a sweater

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This made me spit water out. Like, for real.

Wow.

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Originally Posted by MOCAMBO [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

You knew the situation wouldn't be so well as a women usually wouldn't go to a hotel all alone.............but atleast her memories will be a little more faint as you didn't get to know her as much if you know what I mean. Otherwise, the cliche , time will solve much.

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I wish i met her in Belgium earlier in life before she met her husband. But now it's too late because she is already married and i will never see her again. I still can't forget her smiling face but with time i'm sure i will forget her.

I don't think you can call that an unrequited love since you knew her for what, the length of some conversation?

Although it is a ridiculous thought that a person can have such intense feelings for someone they just met, I don't doubt that your feelings are very strong. It just isn't love. By some cruel biological mechanism you are now being punished in longing for her. That sucks. You'll get over it.

Well, i understand what people are saying about infatuation, but the hopeless romantic in me does believe that there is such a thing as love at first sight. However, the reality check here is that she's married and probably very happy for all we/you know - so just try and let it go whilst remembering the profound impact she had on you. Lifes too short to wish it away dude y'know?

Well, thats in my opinion anyway

kinda like if you fancy a waiter,or waitress,on holiday.you only like them for what they look like really and dont know anything about them,but hey,it happens ! People have crushes on them and sometimes things happen with them.I've liked people on holiday before

I think you should try going for it. give it a try...