i did it, kinda

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03-01-08, 03:58 AM
alidile

i did it, kinda

so i'm sure that many of you predicted i would take the cowards way out. after the night, this morning upon my leave after the making out and kissing goodbye which was awkward, i sent him a txt from outside of his place. lame, i know! i'm really dissappointed but i couldn't bring myself to say anything to his face. the msg read this:

"i was gonna tell you this to your face but i didn't so don't make it awkward. it's not some severe deal. I think, actually know i might have this crush on you which is f*ckin weird. cos i never like anyone, i mean like one other guy. but really don't read into it or worry. it won't change anything. it will pass. you are one confusing person!"

as you can see my thoughts were SUPER scattered this morning. :S i think i ruined life. but maybe that's for the best now.
03-01-08, 04:00 AM
Mathias

Heh, I'd think it was cute if a girl sent me that.

I have different standards for girls and guys in how they pursue people. This is fine, as far as I'm concerned.
03-01-08, 06:54 AM
Gigabitch

I'd be willing to bet that in no other part of your life are you anywhere near this squirrley, ali. What a pathetic message! That's not really you at all- why are you going belly-up in front of this guy like a submissive dog?

Stop it at once! You're not asking him for a ****ing favor, you're not confessing some weakness (no, you AREN'T, don't talk back), and you're probably doing him a favor. You know very well you present yourself as this difficult porcupine-girl, and you've just offered him a get-in-free pass.

Your message was silly. Stop selling yourself short.
03-01-08, 11:21 AM
alidile

so what do i do now then?
i wasn't going to contact him, he hasn't replied to the message. my friend said i made it sound like it was so unimportant i just carelessly decided to say something but don't want a reply. i don't think so at all.
what do i do now though? i'm not going to reach him.
i'm actually feeling kinda sad and watching lame movies and reading my favourite books :S
03-01-08, 11:46 AM
DoesntMatter

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03-01-08, 01:13 PM
alidile

what's wrong with that?
favourite?

guys, seriously, any help would be much appreciated on this one. i'm runnin blind here.
03-01-08, 02:48 PM
DoesntMatter

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Originally Posted by alidile [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

guys, seriously, any help would be much appreciated on this one.

I would help if I could
03-01-08, 03:00 PM
baby shaq

well for starters you maybe should ahve told him to hi face that message but its over and dont with so dont worry about it. If you continue to like him then maybe think about going out with him.:oriental:
03-01-08, 03:17 PM
alidile

him: hey... i like you.. your cool... cynical... fun... and our sex is great... but you must know... i may act like a boyfriend sometimes... but i am not getting into a relationship with anyone... just so there's no confusion

me: who said i wanted a relationship. i know very well you don't. and i'm actually not mean. you have me very wrong i was actually pissed when you said that.

him: what's confusing then. meh.

me: oh you are just wishy washy with things. i'm used to having sex with people i don't like. i think i might just be confused about what i want. what's that supposed to mean meh

him: ahhaa nothing... i like our agreement now but if it gets hard for you then tell me... like if you want more.

me: um i'm good for now haha

him: excellent

GIGA you are right. this is soooo out of character for me in any other place in life. even with guys, i always just say and then leave. i never beat around the bush about stuff... i'm basically the lamest person in life right now. i want to not care like i usually do. but i'm not able to do that, so i'm still trying to act nonchalant. i can't just give into the whole thing. what does that mean if you want more?
03-01-08, 07:07 PM
Only-virgins

You forgot the "I slept with half of earth's population" part in it.
04-01-08, 12:33 AM
Gigabitch

End it now, ali. There is nothing wrong at all with wanting more out of this thing you've got going with him. He's somehow got you acting like you're more of a guy than he is- that's so twisted!
04-01-08, 01:31 AM
alidile

how am i acting like more of a guy?
04-01-08, 03:36 AM
Only-virgins

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how am i acting like more of a guy?

Maybe she thinks that because you sent the message and took the initiative...you can't make us men think that you women actually have a brain and can think for yourselves...that is just silly...stop now! you may ruin all the hard work women have been doing to prove that wrong over the years. Anyways, as a guy....you would catch me dead before finding a love text message from me. I think you are being open with him and thats fine...just do it in front of his face....because that forces an immediate response from him.
04-01-08, 03:39 AM
Gigabitch

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how am i acting like more of a guy?

You two are having a battle of "who could care less".
04-01-08, 03:40 AM
Only-virgins

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You two are having a battle of "who could care less".

She will lose. You can't beat men at that. :)
04-01-08, 03:51 AM
Gigabitch

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She will lose. You can't beat men at that. :)

Exactly my point. This is a slow-motion train wreck.
04-01-08, 07:39 AM
alidile

schiesse.

well, i guess what i can do is just keep having sex but forget about him otherwise.

and OV i haven't slept with that many people at all. i've had a lot of sex but my actual number of persons is not so high.
04-01-08, 08:49 AM
Only-virgins

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well, i guess what i can do is just keep having sex but forget about him otherwise.

I feel good that we have done the right thing....for some other brother out there. Man he makes you his sucker. I would love to meet him and shake his hand.
04-01-08, 03:05 PM
alidile

does he really know he's made me his sucker though. that's the first "give" i've given him.
i guess by saying anything at all i gave in.
i think he's lying that he likes me anyways to be nice.
04-01-08, 03:13 PM
DoesntMatter

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Originally Posted by Only-virgins [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I feel good that we have done the right thing....for some other brother out there. Man he makes you his sucker. I would love to meet him and shake his hand.

LOL OV you're such an ass sometimes
05-01-08, 03:06 AM
Only-virgins

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Originally Posted by alidile [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

does he really know he's made me his sucker though. that's the first "give" i've given him.
i guess by saying anything at all i gave in.
i think he's lying that he likes me anyways to be nice.

What does saying anything have to do with "giving" anything at all?

Trust me, he knows.

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LOL OV you're such an ass sometimes

Thanks.
05-01-08, 06:50 AM
Gigabitch

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Originally Posted by Only-virgins [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

What does saying anything have to do with "giving" anything at all?

Trust me, he knows.

Agreed. You're only fooling yourself, here, ali.
05-01-08, 11:17 AM
IndiReloaded

Oh god. Okay, if you are serious about what to do here goes:

Don't contact him at all until he contacts you first. When (if) he does, see him in person and ask him what he thinks about your message. Then SHUT UP and let him talk. If he bails or is lame, collect your remaining dignity in a thimble & stop seeing this guy. You are poised to be shredded.

If you ignore my advice after asking, BTW, I'm never reading another one of your threads about this. My advice is the only thing that has a hope in hell of a reasonable recovery.

If he *does* happen to respond favourably, DON'T sleep w/him. Have a good talk w/him & then post on here to us immediately so we can give you a clear perspective.
06-01-08, 02:02 AM
alidile

okay, i'm not going to talk to him until he contacts me. agreed.

haven't we already discussed the situation for now though, like i feel it shouldn't be brought up again right now.

i mean he said he likes me but he doesn't want a relationship now .and i don't want a relationship right now, i just want him to like me so at some point i can say i want one if i do.

i could ask him how he felt about having that txt convo with me, but i feel that would be redundant?
i'm really listening this time though guys.
06-01-08, 02:55 AM
misombra

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Originally Posted by alidile [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

okay, i'm not going to talk to him until he contacts me. agreed.

haven't we already discussed the situation for now though, like i feel it shouldn't be brought up again right now.

i mean he said he likes me but he doesn't want a relationship now .and i don't want a relationship right now, i just want him to like me so at some point i can say i want one if i do.

i could ask him how he felt about having that txt convo with me, but i feel that would be redundant?
i'm really listening this time though guys.

i'm sorry dear, this is never going to happen. as in, ever ever.

the line has been crossed, there's no going back.

stay away from this lest you put yourself in a world of pain and embarassment.
06-01-08, 03:14 AM
Gigabitch

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Originally Posted by alidile [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

okay, i'm not going to talk to him until he contacts me. agreed.

Stick to it.

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Originally Posted by alidile [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

i mean he said he likes me but he doesn't want a relationship now .and i don't want a relationship right now, i just want him to like me so at some point i can say i want one if i do.

I think you're both full of crap. You're having a relationship. You're sleeping together, for ****'s sake. What you're talking about is having a commitment, which, as far as I can see, would simply be an agreement between the two of you that you don't sleep with others.

You already spend time together beyond simply having sex. You already have an emotional connection, however either of you dance around the matter. You just don't have an agreement to be exclusive.

That's a recipe for disaster, IMO. Eventually, one of you (and I think we all know which one, in this case) is going to get really, really hurt.

I hate watching you do this to yourself, and especially hearing you act so cavalier about it in your interaction with him. I really have to wonder how you think this can possibly turn out if you aren't even willing to admit you want a relationship with him.
06-01-08, 03:21 AM
misombra

she's in the danger zone.

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06-01-08, 06:21 AM
Maus

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Originally Posted by alidile [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

so i'm sure that many of you predicted i would take the cowards way out. after the night, this morning upon my leave after the making out and kissing goodbye which was awkward, i sent him a txt from outside of his place. lame, i know! i'm really dissappointed but i couldn't bring myself to say anything to his face. the msg read this:

"i was gonna tell you this to your face but i didn't so don't make it awkward. it's not some severe deal. I think, actually know i might have this crush on you which is f*ckin weird. cos i never like anyone, i mean like one other guy. but really don't read into it or worry. it won't change anything. it will pass. you are one confusing person!"

as you can see my thoughts were SUPER scattered this morning. :S i think i ruined life. but maybe that's for the best now.

Mistake. I'm a guy, and if you continue down this road you'll regret it. Guys love sex, many guys will do anything for it. And if a guy thinks your emotionally weak and therfore easy to take advantage of, he just might. Not all guys are like that... But really most are, I'm not. If you want to attract the right guys, be strong. Strength in a woman is very attractive, if it's not taken too far.

Don't worry, life's a learning experience. Right up until you die... Try to make the right decisions, and if you make mistakes. Don't dwell, learn from them. Regret is a terrible think, and it tends to put your mind on the deep freeze, frozen in that terrible moment. Ask yourself, why would anyone want to remain in such a moment mentally and emotionally?

Good luck.