Worried. Advice needed. Cheating.
I'm worried about a very good friend of mine (Marietta). She is 22 years old, a smart girl, a student, also working in a ministry. She has a boyfriend (Justin), with whom she's been together for about 7-8 months. They met in springtime, spent a lot of time together.
Her boyfriend has a lot of business trips out of the country. Actually - he spends most of the time on business trips. He is also 22 years old. It's not like he'd really want to go to the business trips, but he has to do so... And he's with her girlfriend about... 2-3 days a month, when he's not on a business trip. At Christmas he was home for 2 weeks, though.
She missed him a lot at first. Swore to stay true and really believed she could. But the relationship with her boyfriend didn't stay as good as it was at first, in spring or in summer. They had long distance calls every night and... after about a month.. they started to argue a lot. They're both a bit stubborn. And the arguments really... made her think that maybe he's not "the one" for her. Though they "kissed and made up" after every argument, still she didn't like the whole situation.
In October she noticed a good-looking and interesting guy (David) at the ministry she works in. She didn't flirt with him or anything, she just acknowledged the fact that David was a good guy, who'd probably be a very good boyfriend. David isn't her direct boss, but he works on a higher level at the ministry.
One day after work David and Marietta went to a cafeteria to have a friendly chat. They drank bear, ate... something. Justin arrived home that day. Marietta was supposed to meet him later on and she did. Only she was late for 4 hours, because she got too drunk and kissed David. She felt really guilty. She cried like nuts.
She didn't want this situation to repeat again. She spent more time with Justin and sort of forgot about David. In January, David called Marietta to tell her he's in love with her. She didn't know what to say. She didn't want to hurt Justin or to cheat on him. She was friendly with David, nothing more. David asked her to meet him and... she did. She got too drunk again and... had sex with David. And she felt terrible. She cried like nuts again. And when she told me about the situation, she cried again. She feels really guilty. She feels very bad! She didn't want to cheat on Justin, but she did. In the worst way she could possibly imagine.
She explained David that what they did was wrong and shouldn't repeat again. But they still have to work together! David told Marietta that he can't control himself near Marietta and that he's really in love with her. Marietta fears him a little, as well, because it seems like he can make Marietta do things she has never thought of doing before.
Justin is coming home this weekend and Marietta doesn't know, how to act or what to do. She doesn't want to tell Justin anything, because it would hurt him and probably end the relationship. But then again she knows, that not telling equals lying... big time. She told me she loved Justin. She told me she really cared for him... a lot. She doesn't want to lose him. But then again... he's going on another business trip on Monday already. They are still having arguments about silly things. She doesn't know where this is going. She liked David, maybe still does, I don't know. But she knows that she'd never have a long term relationship with David anyway. Which I also believe.
I'd really like to give some advice to Marietta. She's at home, sleeping and crying. She doesn't want to eat, she doesn't want to do anything, except sleeping. She says, that when asleep, she doesn't think about the things to come or the things she has done. I'm afraid she might even do something bad to herself. Justin's coming home, they're going to meet. She doesn't know if she can face him without crying. What to you think? What to do?
