Ladies how inescapable is your "friend zone"? :)

This is a question for the ladies about a topic i feel a lot of men are trying to address, without ever listening to the source of our struggles, the ladies!

So ladies, here are some questions that will hopefully help me and some of those guys who fall victim to the "friend zone".

How do you distinguish which man you put into the friendzone and which you do not?

How many of you ladies feel its important to be friends with a male before starting a relationship?

and lastly and most importantly...

If a guy is in your friendzone, and hes intersted in you romantically, what would you recommend he do to escape your friends zone (if even necessary), in order to be romantic with you?


Ladies you have no idea how badly many guys including myself struggle with this issue, your input is greatly appreciated.

Just another friend,

Xcepshun :)

Every time I have let someone escape the Friend Zone, it has ended in disaster. My Friend Zone is like Guantanamo Bay.

Tell him honestly & clearly that you aren't interested. Don't send him mixed messages so he holds hope. This way, he can move on to other ppl.

Or, if you have a hot, single friend, hook her up w/him. Two birds w/one stone.

Or, wait, are you a guy asking how to *escape* the friend zone? Can't be done, unless she's already interested. Which means you're not really 'just friends' in the first place. Then, its all about timing.

my friend zone is a black hole.

nobody escapes.

imo, guys go to the friend zone because they are afraid to express how they really feel.

If you're in my friend zone you will know it right away. If a woman wants to keep you there, that's right where you will stay. I don't know if you can escape it.

What about, If you just want to make female friends.
For me, it has't worked out so nicely, almost all females just want to get into a relationship...
I love to have friends of either gender and not take it seriously.
Girls are hard to please sometimes, even when you tried your best, they still want more.
You have to find a Girl that doesn't set standards too high for any guy she meets.
Keep trying, and you'll eventually find a combination that works to open the lock.

Friend zone is where you end up if the girl is not attracted to you or doesn't feel comfortable with you. If the girl is both attracted to you and feels comfortable with you, you are half way in her panties already.

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Originally Posted by Mishanya [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Friend zone is where you end up if the girl is not attracted to you or doesn't feel comfortable with you. If the girl is both attracted to you and feels comfortable with you, you are half way in her panties already.

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Not sure, If I want this to happen to some of my female friends.
My dance partner like mentioned before is married, and I respect that, but would never want to ruin her relationship because I like her as a friend.
I'm fine with just being friends, not sure If she would keep going to the dance classes and be my partner, If she wasn't comfortable with me.

P.S. I even got her to compete in June and learn newer steps in the Latin Silver / Gold when September comes around.
I'm fine with the friend thing, as long as we can both agree on it and there are no conflicts there are no situations that will make it worse.

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Originally Posted by Kromat [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Not sure, If I want this to happen to some of my female friends.
My dance partner like mentioned before is married, and I respect that, but would never want to ruin her relationship because I like her as a friend.
I'm fine with just being friends, not sure If she would keep going to the dance classes and be my partner, If she wasn't comfortable with me.

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It's different if they are in a relationship, some lines shouldn't be crossed.

I was more referring to the single ones to the OP :)

Escaping from friend zone is easy. You just pack your things and go far away, never come back. There. Escaped. You are free now.

It depends, because I've kept guys as friends that I've actually really liked, but was waiting for the right time to let them know. However, I think it's pretty obvious that I haven't thrown that wall up, because if they get flirty with me, I'll flirt back. Or I'll be more 'physical' with them.

However, there are those guys that you meet that you know immediatly you could not be attracted to no matter what (physically or mentally) and they get slotted into the friend zone immediatly and stay there forever. There's no getting out of it, and I generally make it pretty clear to those guy friends that there's NO interest on my part....I never flirt, I bring bf's to meet them, and would never hang out with them alone in any setting that was too 'date-like'.

When guy enter the "friendzone" it's very rare for him to leave that zone. If you're in it for too long you start to become like a brother and any romantic passes become awkward.

If a girl is interested, she's interested - and you'll know it.
If you're in the friendzone, she probably just wanted to be friends.

The friend zone isn't some huge obstacle that most men make it out to be. If you clearly show that you're interested in a relationship, you won't be put there. She'll simply tell you she's not interested.

The problem is that guys either over pursue the woman which scares her off, or he takes things too slow and she doesn't look at him that way anymore. The key is to draw a line between being her friend and being her lover.

The biggest key, in my opinion, is don't be the kleenex she uses to wipe her nose and tears. Just don't become the guy she tells all her problems to. If there was any interest, it'll probably go away because she doesn't want to lose that friendship. Let her female friends be the shoulder to cry on.

I fantasize about sex with all my male friends. If I like a guy enough to make them my friend, sexual curiosity usually comes into play.

I don't act on it though. Never.

Not me. There is a separate zone for guys I might be willing to sleep with under different circumstances, that's not the friend zone. I think that's being "in the reserves".

Eeew. Just the thought of fantasizing about my male friends is kinda icky, like we're related.

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Originally Posted by Gigabitch [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Not me. There is a separate zone for guys I might be willing to sleep with under different circumstances, that's not the friend zone. I think that's being "in the reserves".

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+1

Potentials. Or "potties" for short. Because I'm pretty sure that's what it must feel like. :P

What can I say? I guess I am a pervert. Or oversexed. Who knows?

Friend zones are inescapable once you're there because the girl knows you as a friend and nothing else. People act differently with friends to the way they act with partners, and once you have an idea of someone in your mind as being a friend.. you can't think of them in any other way.
The only way to escape the 'friend zone' is to not fall into it at all. There is a certain point you can go passed.. and after that there is no turning back. You should try and be more than friends asap. It doesn't have to be serious or anything. As long as you're making out or whatever once in a while.. and flirty and stuff.. then you'll be doing a good job of avoiding the friend stage.
Once she starts asking you for advice about problems.. particularly other guys.. you know you're pretty much in the friend zone.
However, there MAY be a chance if you haven't seen each other for a very long time. You could maybe overcome the friend stage that way.