i saw my ex 2 day and i havent seen him for a few months so why did every feeling i had for him come rushing back????
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i saw my ex 2 day and i havent seen him for a few months so why did every feeling i had for him come rushing back????
Simple. You're not over him. It's very common to still have feelings for an ex. I've dated my ex like an year ago but then everytime i speak to him (even online) I have feelings rushing back. It's the most helpless feeling.
Acknowledge the feeling, don't push it away. But it doesn't mean u have to act on it (there was a reason why you guys broke up). The key thing is just to be honest with yourself that you have those feelings for him but you have enough control over yourself to not act on them.
Use loveforum to rant about it all you want. Sometimes it helps.
Talking to my ex is like shooting myself in the foot.
I could never and never will go back to her, but if I ever do talk or see her all those feelings come rushing back out of my control. I hate it...
Sometimes when you see an ex, you forgot all the reasons you guys broke up ...
you're only reminiscing over the past. the better times to be exact.
raverboy
:D that is the point, u start as if he has done nothing deserves that breakup while there r loads of things to put u apart. You forgive him and cant forgive for others, that might mean u love him from one side only and he doesnt. Dont know!!Quote:
Originally Posted by tooxshort [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
When you said feelings, what exactly did you mean? Do you still love him or not?
You have broken for a few months, is it possible that you just can't let go of good memories when you were with him? Is it possible that you have missed being with him but not really being in love with him.
So it's best that you should take some time to sort out your feelings. If you still love him, is it worth to give your relationship another chance?
If you are no longer love him, then may be it's time you should move on. It's hard to forget someone when you have loved him once upon a time. So the best way is for you to take on some more work, spend more time with friends and family, and may be take on some hobbies like tap dancing or craft or painting.
Hope that you can move on,:emot62:
I appreciate what u said Cherry , hopefully i get more and more work until i die of working and still i am not over him yet while it is more than 4 years now! what else cd i do, awful family and no freinds.
I'm fortunate enough to not see any of my exs from my long term relationships in person after the break up, so it's hard to reply to this. Perhaps some of the feelings never go away. It's important to not get overwhelmed by them and remember why the break up occured in the first place. Your positive feeling will be quickly replaced by the negative ones.Quote:
Originally Posted by Just_Bein_me17 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
some time u prefer ur ex pits and falls to your awful loneliness
I used to feel that way about one ex I had. Seeing him was almost physically painful, I wanted him back so badly.
I think you have to try harder to avoid him if there's no chance of reconciliation. Sometimes that's the only answer.
u will laugh if i said we r in tw different continents and i did the travel to him once and spent soemtime together but went as we were while married sad and tearful ... and when i returned back he said we cant get back again and never asked about kid unless he is in a visit and i dont have nerves and when i fixed a date to see kid he said he was travellign and cd not meet hsi kid that time.!!!
I would say you dont really miss your "ex" but the security you felt with them. If u havent found anyone that makes u feel the same way they did then the thought of going back to them may seem like an easy choice. just dont forget why u broke up in the first place.
There are several ways you can use to get over him. Don't worry about this at all, you are definitely not alone in this as many have also gone through this before.
1. Take note of your body when you first see your ex. Normally the feeling is very intense and starts from some part of the body.
2. Keep quiet for a while and ask if the feeling itself is willing to let go.
3. Simply let go and let the feeling dissipate off your body.
You may need to do this several times per day and being able to move on is much greater for you.
heres something to lit you up, i dated this guy for a week, we had a stupid argument and just stopped talking. i have a lot of questions still...it's been 2 months and i think about him still. how's that for pathetic?
filcana, was he that attractive , special, romantic...anything about him?
Try writing a list of things that you hate about your ex. Paste it everywhere you are. Keep looking at it all the time. It will help you push away those feelings of wanting him back.
That's actually a really good idea, Pears.
Or just post a list of reasons why you broke up, reasons why you are not good together.
I've found that this is why it's wise to keep a journal.
Example: I was feeling guilty about a guy named Erik that I totally dumped years ago. I went back and read my journals from the time we were together, and was reminded WHY he needed dumping. He totally deserved it, and I had forgotten. He was a huge pain in the ass, but time had turned him into some kind of sweet missed opportunity.
Write yourself a note and send it in the mail.
I dont think it has anything to do with not being over him/her..Quote:
Originally Posted by lastwish [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I'm over my ex-fiancee, I've had several, short-term relationships since then, yet I still occasionally check up on her.. If you TRUELY loved someone, then there is always a place for them in your heart, even if you are "over" them..
Quite Cool what you say toocool...
hi! i think, most people experience that. (the rushing back of the feelings again with their ex..) maybe it's because your not yet really over him and still not ready to accept what happened ryt? maybe all you have to do is, do not entertain anymore that feeling. it will be good for you to move on. actually it's all your choice. you choose whether you still want him back and pursue him or totally forget him. if you still love him, go and pursue him.=)
I used to miss my ex terribly, even though he totally obliterated my trust and cheated numerous times.
Thank god, I'm now in a happy relationship. (It isn't perfect, but hey I'm not complaining.)
It made me realize that I wasn't missing my ex per say, but missed being with someone and feeling loved. I missed having that person I can turn to, cuddle with, and make feel better about myself. In other words, I missed the closeness and intimacy.
Seeing my ex just reminded me of those times, so I thought I was aching for him... when I really wasn't. I just associated him with those things.