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my grandfather died last night.
he had been in hospice for about a year. he was a survivor of the bataan death march in world war II and spent 3 and a half years in a japanese pow camp where he suffered, and survived a fate worse than hell.
he came back to create a family and carry on the strength and courage that lived in him.
now, go and tell your mom or dad or whoever that you love them for me. it would make me feel a lot better.
Aww, sombra.... I am really sorry. He was such a true hero.
I know he must have been so proud of you - just as proud as you were of him.
My heart goes out to you and your family.
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How old was he, 'sombra? Was he sleeping when he passed?
i think so. i didn't get a call with a warning you know. usually someone could know within a day or two when it's going to happen. i don't think anybody did. which is good. he's 88. i'm not sure exactly how old is is. crazy thing is today (sunday) is my sisters birthday.
ayyyyyyyyayay.
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he liked to sing that song. he liked when i sang to him. i would sing this for him...
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I'm sorry Misombra to hear of your loss in your family. My granfather was in hospice and then eventually transferred to the VA hospital. VERY nice atmosphere they make for our vets.
You know he's in a better place and at peace. My prayers and wishes are with you and your family.
My condolences on your grandfather's passing. He sounded like an incredible guy. You seem to be going through a lot right now love. I have no doubt he was proud of you, you're a fighter and a strong woman.
thanks you guys.
i'm having quite a week, no?
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I'm sorry about your grandpa misombra
From your description he lived a good and fulfilling life so that is something to be thankful for
I'm sorry to hear about your grandad Miso. I hope he passed away peacefully.
Sadly, I don't have any more of my grandparents. They were all WW2 vets as well. Granma lived in Stalingrad in 1942. Their whole family escaped on a tiny rowing boat across the Volga river at night when the city was being leveled to the ground.
on the brighter side, you are very lucky that you got to be with your grandparents. sometimes, i wonder how much better life would've been if i actually got to converse and associate more with my mother's side of the family. half of my family is in another country and there is also the language barrier.
raverboy
thanks you guys.
i think i'm numb to death. i've seen so much of it in my life that i'm just not all that upset by it anymore. i don't see it as the end, or anything close to it.
I kinda feel what you do Misombra. The grandpa I lost I was not close to though, my other grandparents and grandmother I'm not sure how I am going to handle their loss. And it's coming within the next couple of years. I dread it. I've also had many losses in my family and have been to the funerals, but I'm trying to prepare myself.
You've had a troublesome week no doubt. I know things will improve for you no matter what. You are a very strong woman!
I love you somby
my condolences ... must be rough with all the things going on lately ... keep ya head up, girl ...
i don't know if its possible to be "numb" to death ... i think we just cope differently now ...
Life goes on, sweet. He sounded like an amazing guy. He wouldn't want you to be too sad for too long, I'm sure.
I called my parents today & had a lovely chat. :)
I feel you. I have lost all my grandfathers and a real father. So you must face it that everybody dies one day, especially when they are getting old, appreciate that you still got other people around.
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my grandfather was a gardener. i don't remember one single time he ever needed to take a trip to the grocery store. interesting just today a swarm of honey bees moved into one of my trees.
My grandparents were gardeners too. They built their own house after the war, from scratch, and lived there until they died. After I lost my grandfather, I helped out my grandmother in the garden. We didn't have a tractor, so all fields and work had to be prepared by hand. Everything vegan was self grown, so I know very well what you are speaking of ^^ We also had bees, a lot of them at the beginning, but as people started to pass away, it was harder to provide for the bees also.
yeah, i'm having to make room in my animal care routine for the bees. you have to feed them, give them water and honey. or they die. i saved 2 today from death by feeding them and i have a little bowl for them that i have to fix everyday to keep them fed and happy. they're so gentle too. one i saved hung out on my arm for a while and didn't want to go. they're like, my new little babies.
oh yeah, and my sister is being SO dramatic and pathetic right now. i love my dead family members more than the alive ones.
i just noticed that you have nearly 2.5 as many thanks as me... dammit. i don't feel sorry for you anymore.
raverboy
does that mean i don't get my hug raverboy?
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lol.
i have to go to bed now. i've been running around like a headless chicken all day, and i have a couple more days of it. i'm making beans for 100 people. just put them to soak. i'm freakin tired.
here's my song for tonight...
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buenas noches a todos i love you guys!!!
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How are you feeling, sombra? Will there be a funeral?
i'm feeling alright. kinda sad you know. but i'm glad that he's moved on. even until the last days he was afraid to sleep because he was having dreams about the war. he lived that every day he was alive and suffered it long after he came home. yet he never wanted to be defined by it or rewarded for it. i think he felt more shame and guilt. for surrendering and for coming home while most of his friends didn't.
the rosary is tonight and the funeral is tomorrow.
I admire you for being so strong. I've never experienced a death in the family and I'm scared to.
I agree with pear, I admire you misombra. I'm nowhere near as strong as you. I've lost a family member a while ago when I was younger and it was really hard for me.
Just recently my grandfather in Florida was in the hospital. We all thought the time was coming, the morning after my dad left from florida to come back from visiting him in the hospital his heart had stopped and they had to resuscitate(is that the word?) him. He wasn't in the best shape, and well I cried that night because I knew I couldn't see him and didn't know if I would again. Luckily, he's back at home now and he's doing ok. He's as strong as an ox though, he's in his late 80's and refuses to take medications. He's given us quite a few scares.
You're definitely a strong woman misombra, and I look up to you.
thanks aj.
as if all that's going on isn't enough, this morning, on my way to the funeral, i got a call that my other grandfather passed away.
yeah. no more grandparents left for me.
this is why they say, "when it rains, it pours."
Oh, man! That was unexpected, wasn't it? What happened?
he had heart problems. he was old. he smoked a pack and half a day. drank a lot, etc. etc.
he was in his 80's too. bummer. total bummer.
Sorry, hun. You sure are having a bad streak of luck, aren't you? I wish we lived closer so we could go out a-drinkin'. It sounds like you could use it.
i need a massage.
you guys should've seen the funeral procession though. wow. there were so many cops. i'd say there were 10 cops in cars and 15 on motorcycles. they closed the freeway for us. we had an honor guard, 3 gun salute, bagpipes, trumpets. it was incredible.
my other grampa, well, my mom didn't even call me to tell me about it. my dad told me.
Wow
2 in one go? That's horrible! It's so unfair. It must be really devastating for you :(
So, you're like me now. No grand parents at all.
At least the funeral procession was quite spectacular. If I could choose, I'd like to go like that as well when it's my time.
yep, no more grandparents left for me.
what are the chances that one grandfather will die during the other grandfathers funeral? it's just my luck i think.
i'm an outcast in my mothers family. not her or anyone from her family called or wrote to let me know. i'll have to find out when the funeral is in the obituary.
how sad is that? that's more sad than all the death put together for me.
What's wrong with your mom's side of the family? They sound really fcuked up.
they're not all ****ed up. my mom is. and it's like she works at keeping me and my sister from her family. i really think she's trying to forget that she had children.
my sister said yesterday that she didn't give a shit about those people. (meaning my moms family.) i wish i could feel the same.
Can't you maintain contact without your mom's involvement?
yeah. i can. and i just called one of my cousins and wrote another one.
it's just weird, you know? one of those things i have a hard time dealing with, so i just don't. and it picks and prods at me constantly.
i need mental help.