I don't wanna get my hopes up anymore, this is just all too typical.
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I don't wanna get my hopes up anymore, this is just all too typical.
I feel ya man - seriously...
Zekk what the hell man? Arent you at a point where you want to take chances?
If you have that mind set you will get nowhere with anyone. :sad2: ..come on Zekk perk up and be positive... :)
what the .. what happened? Who rejected you?
Ms. Jane gonna come in and kick her ass for ya Zekk!! :goofy:
*huggles*
aww sugah. it will get better. you'll find the right person.
Regardless of what mindset I'm in that's what happens anyway.Quote:
Originally Posted by squirrley
Law of probability man. The more girls you flirt with and ask out, the more likely you are to get a YES from someone. So start asking! I mean last friday was my first number in A YEAR (granted I was in a relatoinship, however think about how before that relationship I didn't ask ANYONE out. So I got NO numbers.)
I'm starting. The ball is rolling slowly but I'm hoping for a snowball effect here. Start out small and meek, gather snow every Friday, and by the end of the summer I'll be cleaning up in bars nationwide. I'll be a household name. People will simply utter the name "Alexi" and girls heartrates will rise and they'll start looking around the room hoping - PRAYING - that they might catch my eyes and maybe even provoke half a smile . . .
Alexi!!!! :love:
Alexi
sfalexi.... its time to wake up.... lol jk
wow!!!! alexi can be that funny??? :love:
good work, girls like guys w/ great sence of humor!!!!!!
Zekk dont be like that-snap out of it!! SNAP SNAP...
Listen theres always gonna be disappointments-but dont look at it like every female has disaster written on her face-you'll find some women who actually are who they are-and you'll start finding them...get out and enjoy the variety!!!
Just remember, all women are nuts. The sooner you realize this, and lower your expectations, the better off you'll be!
:awe: and how do you suppose women get like that???
For every action theres a reaction. :nerd:
As logical thinkers, it's well beyond any males mental capacity to figure out what motivates women to do the things they do. But I belive it has something to do with hormones or something. ;)
lmao! oh goddess. iron that was a great reply.
I'm better today, I can typically get over anything with a good nights sleep. But see I can't just go and try to talk to random girls, I've conditioned myself to believe that whenever I see a girl I'd be interested in that they don't need another asshole coming up and bugging them. As much as I really want to be with someone, I'd rather be alone than leave a bad spot in anyones day.
well i'm glad your feeling better. AND you aren't an asshole sugah. I'm sure others will agree.
I agree with Halla. You aren't an asshole, it's the OTHER jerks who are assholes, and any women would be lucky to have you (or I) walk up to them and say hello. It will be the HIGH point of their day, and they'll be telling their friends about this 'really cool guy who came and spoke to me'.
Keep this in mind, and you can't go wrong! And if you don't believe it, CONVINCE yourself that it's true. It's all about attitude, and a positive attitude is KEY.
Oh, and EVERYONE get's rejected now and then. It's inevitable, in fact it's going to happen more often than not, just the odds. Don't let it get you down. Is it better to have not taken a chance? You won't think so when you succeed.
I dunno, it's just hard to change my way of thinking after believing in it so long.
Zekk its time to rewire your mind. You can do it. You need to stop looking at things so pessimestic and be optimistic of things.
Try not to look at every woman as a disaster waiting to happen but a potential at something great. Youre not a donkey stuck on stick that says asshole here. Youre a great guy and have a promising future. Look to the good in the things.
Get your bootie up, look into your mirror and tell yourself your worth something, and the women who come along in your life will see your confidence-the same confidence you look at everyday... :D
Keep your chin up buddy...life has great things waiting for you...just around the corner... :cool:
Yeah, but how do you suggest I walk up and say something without looking like a genu-wine ****tard? What are you supposed to say? I decided to go up and say something to a girl I was attracted to last semester and she didn't laugh in my face or anything, but she was seeing someone. Made me feel good but it wore off. What's a good icebreaker or really just anything to say to someone you don't know at all?
damnit I wrote something where the hell did it go? shit- I love the ****tard word-wahoo thats a good one.
Ok-you get your balls out, walk over to who ever has caught your attention-introduce yourself and just casually say you noticed you had class together or youve seen her around campus. Something really very simple. Dont ask her out right away. Just make friendly convo-where is she from, that sort of thing...
you expand your circle of friends that way-keep it simple.
Alright then, when class starts back up I'll try it out. If something comes along this summer I'll try to get myself to go for it too. Although I'm not really proud of my balls, ugly little things they are.
now i know what happened to my post-i get a pm and just when im done posting the pm cuts my post off and its gone-INCONVIENT....
Anyhoo-get in the starting gates first-youve got your eye on the finish line right?
Get out of the gates-start trotting to her...get around corner 1 with intro, corner 2 get her talking, corner 3 get the convo going with simple light conversation, and most importantly dont turn around, home stretch, youre now walking away with a little more confidence for leaving the gate, and possibly a hook up!!!!
Keep your eyes focused on the good stuff-you want that damn carrot and you'll get it!!!!!
Well, I'll give it a shot. It was kind of surprising how many replies I got to this thread. I have esteem issues. :stache:
WE all do at one point because of the fear of rejection. But how you are suppose to have fun and or healthy relationships if you keep closed in your box???
GET OUT MY FRIEND!!! Get out of your box!!!
Find some things that will help you to build that up...
lmao. isn't it squirrley? i tried earlier and gave up.
basically i was going to say the same thing as squirrely. just a simple hello and some little comment about seeing them. i'd be excited if a guy came up to me and said hi i noticed you around. lol.
though that aint going to happen. the only place i go where guys are..here and my work and they are pure jerks.
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Originally Posted by squirrley
God damn right I would... Obviously .. this girl is oblivious to his swuave demeanor... :smug:
... it is the achient chinese secret ... it through her.. she cant seem to grasp how important the Lord OF Goo actuallly is ... :mask:
I .. on the other hand.. am possesed by it. :evil:
DAAAAAAAAAMN!!! You go girl!!
Dont think you'll be needing my help on this one...
Hey people me new to this forum, and like don't know actually whats going on? SO like i would like to tell a lil about myself and like I have kinda sad story,I broke up with my boyfriend and its hate for me to forget him!
SO let me know what should i do?
hey people..... new in here!
Senorita-welcome!
But let me give ya a tip. Search the forums first. There is a thread called Introduction. Go there and post yourself-who you are where youre from, etc.
Then if you have an issue-there are many topics you can post under...such as your problem now would go under DUMPING...
Goodluck but search around first...
what exactly happened? why were you rejected? one rejection is making you have no faith whatsoever? it's hard to tell someone to cheer up and there's other fish in the sea and all that stuff. but what happened?
Ooppz! Thanks for helping!
Well basically here's what happened. My best friend said we should start talking cause we seemed a lot alike. So she messaged me on AIM and we talked and what do you know? We were a lot alike. So we really hit it off and agreed on all kinds of stuff and had a lot in common. Silly silly Zekk now starts to get excited and hopeful. So we talk on the phone a few times and we're just hitting it off left and right, clicking all the way. So it comes to where we wanna meet. We told each other that we already liked each other a lot so not to be worried about feeling rejected cause it wouldn't happen. (We'd talked on the phone and seen pics of one another, what could go wrong right?) From the moment we saw each other I could tell she was disappointed. Somehow she wasn't expecting the guy she had been talking to and had seen in the pictures. She was very quiet and very much disinterested especially after how excited she had been just 5 minutes before when I called to let her know I was on campus. She hasn't attempted to call or message me afterward yesterday or at all today. I could call her but I don't wanna bother her if she doesn't wanna talk again. So there's the whole scenario.
Zekk she might be busy or something...are you basing her being aloof because of your pic? Why wouldnt you want to call her? I mean you established this already with her-dont change what youre doing because of one day or something...dont give up yet.
aww Zekk.. what the does she know?
um.. wanna make out? :evil:
She did have to pack all her shit cause she had to move out of her dorm the next day. But do you think that her having a lot of shit to do would really make her that distant and that less interested in me? You think that would affect it that much?
it might
I mean she may have just been busy .. ya know? She was moving.. i wouldnt throw it out yet.. wait and try and contact her again ;)