Cain had said something about a rut where you are friends with a girl, and so she most likely cannot see you in any other way. So how do you avoid letting that happen?
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Cain had said something about a rut where you are friends with a girl, and so she most likely cannot see you in any other way. So how do you avoid letting that happen?
^.^ mystery of my life... please i would love to get this answer too, lol i seem to be put into that category really fast.
Imagine the situation where its the other way around.
You picture this girl as nothing more than a friend...how do you feel about her?
If you really had feelings for that person then you would probably do something about it.
Do something that is less "friendly", but don't be creepy or pushy.
If she refuses then it probably won't work out.
Just remember that clear communication is top priority.
I would say, one way you could stop it from happening is by establishing early on that you are getting to know her, but also are interested in her romantically, too. Some guys try subtle hints, flirting, or just flat out telling her he's attracted to her.
There's really nothing to do though, if she she's not feeling the right kind of chemistry with you.
Yeah, but...hmmm what I mean has to do with my previous thread, toward the end. The girl who sits two seats behind me is new to the school. So I was thinking that in a week or so I could ask her to meet me somewhere and get her phone number if she says yes. But from there on how do I not seem as intending to only be a friend? Since is what she observes that matters.
Don't become her friend. Have her see you beyond that.
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Originally Posted by starbuck [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
What you mean just if she meets me somewhere tell her that I'm attracted to her and that I would like to know more about her? Isn't that kinda putting her in an awkward situation?
:P funny thing is i have an extremely high self confidence in all things but dating, well i like to put it this way, i have great self confidence but no self esteem, i gotta learn to get past the fear of scaring girls off. "establishing early on that you are getting to know her, but also are interested in her romantically" i have genuine interest in getting to know them but i fear that if i put the idea that i want to seek a possible relationship then i ruin the possible friendship... >.< any ideas... i would love to get over that fear.Quote:
Originally Posted by starbuck [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
A week or so? Why wait?
Just be careful, if she is new to school she may not have many friends and want to make you one of them.
Get to know her and then ask her on a date or something.
I always have more than one reason for anything I do, even the way I walk.Quote:
Originally Posted by ACR [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
In this case I wil give you only one, though there are three.
Since she is new at school she might want to make me one of her friends, this is the first week of school that just ended, so waiting another will giver her a chance to make some other than me.
though i can agree with ACR, the sooner the better ^.^... especially if your interested in her, every day is another day someone else can get interested and they may not wait >.<
Sounds like you make things too complicated.
Just go with it, and if it doesn't work...there are plenty more out there.
hnh. Still she's sitting two seats behind me. The one right behind me has none in it (conspiracy theories is the course, only about 8 people in it.) so I guess on Monday I'll just sit one seat farther back so I can talk to her. Besides, the screen for the movie we're watching is so close to me I have to crane my neck a little and it hurts after keeping it like that for an hour.
And yeah, I usually do make things too complicated. I have a nack for seeing most possibilities and their outcomes almost simultaneously, so its hard for me to make decisions.
That sounds scary.
Hopefully she won't think so. Good luck man!
Power to you man ^.^ i really hope it works out for the best
what sounds scary? A kink in my neck?Quote:
Originally Posted by ACR [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Haha no, that you over-analyze everything. ;]
I've noticed that being a little bit of a dick helps.
wow this is acctually something i hear a lot and really bugs me to hear lol, i can be a natural smart ass but it isn't in my nature or anywhere near my morals to act like a dick... lol i wanna know how right that is... and what happens when you act like a dick and thy find your a just a sweetheart? do you loose it when they know you were only acting? lol or maybe it's a tactic the nice guy can't take.Quote:
Originally Posted by Shadow2121 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I used to think like you.Quote:
Originally Posted by I'm not telling [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
It didn't get me very far for the reason you stated.
You spend so much time thinking about why it won't work, and not enough time making it so it does, you end up living in a very safe, though very boring life.
Thinking is good and all, but so long as nobody is gonna get hurt, force yourself to act every now and then.
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Originally Posted by Frasbee [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Lol i heard something from a friend of mine, and they got it from Big Bang Theory:
If you put a cat in a box without food or water for two weeks do you accept the fact that the cats dead or do you open the box to find out for sure. if you accept the fact the cats dead and bury the box, then no matter what the outcome it died in the end. but if you open the box...
yeah being a cat person I never favored this saying, but i love the meaning behind it.
You wouldn't happen to be the science, math, or engineering type would you? We tend to over analyze everything to the point where we're analyzing our analysis...lol.
This is something you've got to just overcome, you've got to learn when not to think...if that makes any sense, lol. Just do it and don't worry about the outcome.
I over-analyze too. It's so hard! I over-analyze my analysis lol. You have to really let yourself go, and it will be difficult at times. It almost feels like gambling, lol.
^.^ in the personal development area i posted my thoughts... basically how i think... in a nutshell... but yeah i find i not only over-analyze, i tend to argue with myself to get a better grip on the scene. i throw it at myself and then argue it to strengthen my outlook... causing me to take a lot less risks...