Long distance flirting?

Okay. I have a situation and would like to hear some of your thoughts. There is this guy, (let's do a poll on how many threads start like that.....lol) anyway, there is this guy, and although he works in the same company as I do, he's at a different location, some 45 minutes away. I know he's not seeing anybody at the moment and we've met a few times, know each other's voice and talk on the phone from time to time, (all work related, mind you). Here's the thing. How can I flirt innocently enough to let him know I'm interested? He's very shy and I don't know how to just come out and ask him if he's interested in dating. I would like to know that he's interested TOO, first. Any thoughts? Confused? I know I am. :lol: Thanks everybody.

Breezy-does he get over your way at all or vice versa? Why dont you ask him for out for coffee sometime? Thats an easy opener...Id ask him out! Start off something simple...like hey would you like to get together for coffee on Sat morning? And go from there. Never know unless you try! RIGHT? Its time YOU started having some fun in your life gal!!! Get to it...chop chop-come Monday morning ask the man out for coffee!!!

lol lol Girl you make me laugh. Thanks. Yes, he has been at my office and vice versa. (That's how I know he's cute! :lol: ) Anyway, I don't think he has a clue that I'm interested. That's why I'm so nervous. I don't know how to just "out of the blue" ask him out for coffee. Although, now that I think about it, he's in Belleville and my DAD lives in Belleville. hmmmmmmmmmmm..... getting an idea here........ :smug:

See there ya go! Why dont you tell him oure going to be over that way (to see your dad)-and was wondering if hed like to have a drink(hehe) whether it be coffee or stiffy-get him out of the work environment...thats the idea. It sounds like hes shy-but you are yourself in some sense-so be bold! It doesnt hurt to ask right?

Let him know you'll be over in that area on such such time and you'd like to know if hed be interested in having a drink. Simple-Breezy why would he reject? Its a drink. Nothing complicated about two people meeting at your local breakfast dive! (kidding-even though thats all we have where we live) Let us know what happens...

lol lol breakfast dive.........hahahaha Girl, you're KILLING me!! I barely know the guy, but hey, "ya wanna go grab some breakfast?" That reminds me of the old joke, "so.........should I call you or nudge you in the morning?" LMAO Seriously, Tim Hortons is a GREAT place to go and all the towns have one on every corner. It's kind of a Canadian thing.......these donut shops. Although they did partner up with Wendy's, so you guys are probably seeing more of them crop up. Great hockey player Horton was, (played for the Leafs)........okay getting WAY off topic. :lol:


yes yes.................sneaky........ :mask: I haven't seen my dad in a while, so it's time I went to visit anyway. Of course if "R" says no, then I'll never be able to answer the phone again.........brave........MUST..........BE....... ..BRAVE

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Be brave my friend...take a chance...you'll never know if you dont try!

Heck-when I read Iron was a personal trainer-I sent him a pm asking for advice. By no means did I have any intention of ANYTHING-just wanted some advice-and look now!

So ya just dont know-gotta take a chance-Columbus did!

Goodluck! BE BRAVE BE BRAVE

its funny, when we're younger its always us who hafto initiate everything, but older females always seem to be more aggresive towards hooking up- i wonder why that is.

squirly and breezy read what i just now put up on the love poem forum

Outlines-I dont know if its because were older we "seem" to take initiative-Im just encouraging Breezy to go for it. Because were older than 20 we have taken our experiences and used them or learned from them. Whether they work the next time around might be a different story.

Personally-I havent been interested in dating or finding anyone. So I keep to myself. UNTIL recently obviously. But I have taken some initiative with Iron. I pm'd him first-but had no intentions of "hooking" up. I wanted advice on fitness. But here we are...and I am happier than a pig in shit...(i could try and come up with something better to say-but no time right now) But yea I AM EXCITED!!

Anyoo-at 18 or 20 or whatever-were still finding ourselves...who we want to be that sort of thing...even if a female is aggressive at the age it might be for different reasons than say at 30 or whatever. Get what I am saying-youre at different levels in your life...emotionally or physically. It comes down to the woman and THEIR own confidence. Breezy has it-she has confidence and she can do this...WOMAN RULE!!

awe..........thanks Squirrley. I do have a lot of confidence........in SOME areas. Work, family, friends, trying something new. Not as afraid as I used to be. But with men it's the same old thing. You never "outgrow" that insecurity or wonderment, for that matter, about the opposite sex. And outline, FYI, I've always been the aggressor. (Hate that word, it makes me sound so tough, and I'm SO not). I even had to ask the guy I liked to my prom. I just go after what I want and I LOVE to flirt. Besides a lot of "older" men, I think, expect a woman our age to initiate sometimes.

Oooh Breezy darling...wouldnt you agree that men in our age bracket might "prefer" we're the aggressor somewhere else... :evil:

I think confidence has got to be at the top of our game...without it where would be right? If youve got it-go get it! And by all means USE it! As far as men-I agree it can still be intimidating...but when you put on your pearly white smiles how can you go wrong... :lol:

Theres always going to be a "sense" of insecurity with a "new" man around...but if you feel youve got what it takes to make a go of it-then why not plunge head down first! Go down that water slide with your eyes open and head first! Hell its funner that way! I cant always go down the way youre suppose to-gotta take those chances! You never know how deep its gonna be at the bottom...but when you hit it-and you stand up! What a great feeling...oh yea!

Go get your long distance flirt gal!!! Tell him when you eat out for breakfast at your local dive that youd like your eggs sunny side up!!! :lol:

Goodluck sweetie!

lol Hilarious!! Yes, men DO like us to take the lead in other places sometimes.......hehehe

Anyway, FYI, I didn't get the chance to talk to him yesterday. Still unloading that damn trailer. (Truck tires are heavy man!) I hope I get the chance today to casually get him on the phone, but I may not. We are having a staff meeting soon, so I'll be able to see him in person, which is always easier for me. (Flirting is always easier in person cause you can use body language :evil: ).

I gotta get to work, Squirrel, but I need your advice about something totally different. I'll PM you later. Have a great day! :)

im heading out the door too! Work...bla.

YES body language at its best...you go sweetie...swing those hips so non chalantly!!(hehe)...alrighty Breezy I'll get with you later...

GOODLUCK and dont kill yourself unloading tires...i mean its good youre building up your arms though! Talk to ya later!!!

HAve a great day girl!!!

straight up tell him that you think he's cute. honestly is really blunt, but it will catch attention. raverboy

ps... he will remember it if he's interested. raverboy

OMG Illusional..........that's so blunt! No, no, no my friend.........sneaky............must be sneaky... I like the flirting game..........until I have him right where he wants me......hehehe

haha you're still young that's why. i f*cking HATE games. honestly after the initial flirting and all that other bullshit is over, you'll start to see where i'm comming from. just ask the older memebers here. raverboy

Oh my gosh, dear, sweet Illusional. Will you marry me??? lol lol That is the sweetest thing anyone's ever said to me.............no, my friend, I am one of the "older" members. You obviously haven't seen my other postings. Silly me. I shouldn't have put that 18 after my name. It's too confusing. It's the day I was born, not my age. Didn't think it would create such a problem when I did it. My name has been taken before so I thought I should add the number. Sorry dude.

But back to the flirting thing. I married my ex right out of high school and hadn't really had much experience before him, (or since, for that matter), so I guess I'm new to the whole dating thing. Wish I had done this in my younger years. It's flipping tough!! That's what I learned from this whole situation. Not to get married young. Fat lot of good it does me now, for crying out loud! Experience is a hard teacher. She gives the test first and the lesson after. I may be in my mid thirties, but I'm still a scared little girl inside. Strong, confident and independant, but, at the same time, worrisome, insecure and painfully shy.

me??? didn't you know that i was the sweetest, yet bluntest person? hahaha. well i haven't really been paying attention too all the post because i rarely post about love and what not anymore. yet as you might know, my bluntest and honestly comes from just being burned. raverboy

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Originally Posted by Illusional

me??? didn't you know that i was the sweetest, yet bluntest person? hahaha. well i haven't really been paying attention too all the post because i rarely post about love and what not anymore. yet as you might know, my bluntest and honestly comes from just being burned. raverboy

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I gathered from your posts that you were blunt, but always knew you were sweet. ;)

I was burned pretty badly too, but it has just made me more cautious. (Or is that supicious?? They seem so similar sometimes! lol)