I would like to think you could stay friends for the sake of the children if you have em, But if it's an 'affair,' then definitely NO.
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I would like to think you could stay friends for the sake of the children if you have em, But if it's an 'affair,' then definitely NO.
You don't need to be 'friends', but you definitely need to put on an amicable front for the kids, and never speak badly about the other parent to them.
Most of my friends are good friends with their ex. One friends current wife has actually become friends with my friends ex. The ex was also invited to their wedding.
So I would say yes, but it's a question of maturity,so it depends on whether you are mature enough to value the friendship of someone who have had a great impact on you life or not.
Every time after break up, we usually got to be friends. It just the I don't want brought that hatred in me if there is.
Why you cant be friends which in fact you have a past?
Just act like nothing happened.
Maturity is such a dirty word. Everyone has a different opinion of what it means. Inviting an ex to a wedding is the opposite of mature in my opinion.Quote:
Originally Posted by alter_ego [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I don't want to meet my girlfriend's exes ever...EVER.
In the truest of aspects, I have to say "NO".
You can NEVER EVER be friends in the manner that you are with your other friends of the opposite sex. Because of your personal & romantic history it will never be the same.
Especially if you or that other moves on to another relationship...it's going to hurt, you're going to see and feel that hurt differently than you would with a friend you have a crush on for example.
I have a friend who has been friends with her ex- since the beginning of the year...and SHE dumped him. They continue hanging out to this day as far as she tells me, and I think it hurts them both in the end...they keep their friendship mostly out of the companionship (someone who you know closely,are comfortable with,etc.) and she openly acknowledges that it has to end eventually. But ahh well...that's how it goes right?
I think there's nothing wrong with being friends, as in you send emails to one another once in awhile.
why? Jealous?Quote:
Originally Posted by Only-virgins [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I've met met my former gf's ex. I don't see why it should be a problem. I can understand if her ex feels awkward about it since you are the one sleeping with her. But why would you feel uncomfortable?
It is the other way around, I feel awkward because he used to sleep with her. I naturally hate them. People have this strange notion that having the girl with them NOW is all that matters and that they WIN...weird because in reality the winner is the dude that gets the **** and GETS THE **** OUT OF THERE. Plus he thinks he is better than you, he dumped the stupid bitch and she wasn't good enough for him...so here...take his left over shit that he is already bored with. Maybe it is jealousy about the idea that maybe they had a bigger cock or something...gimmie a ****ing break.Quote:
Originally Posted by alter_ego [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Honestly, I just put myself in their shoes...the first thought in my mind is "haha he is dating the chick I banged and banged her brains out...haha what a chump". There
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Originally Posted by Only-virgins [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I think both my fiance and I will have an ex each at our wedding...it just depends on the circumstances I guess. His ex is still a really good friend, she married one of HIS good friends after he set them up. My ex is a really good friend too. Both of these people care about us and aren't people we have any type of beyond-friendship attachment to, so its fine.
My ex-husband? No ****ing way. Although his family asked me if they could come. Completely awkward....
This part made my stomach muscles tighten up and sent a "wtf" message all over my brain. I think I will just pretend that maybe the ex just didn't have sex with him, that way I can understand the story and still stay sane.Quote:
Originally Posted by bluesummer [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
It really just depends on the situation surrounding the break up. If it was completely amicable, then there's nothing wrong with it. Deep down, however, if there are any feelings, friendships likely won't succeed. There will always be some form of emotion there that goes beyond being just friends.
Sigh. OV, when you get older and you've been in a few relationships, it's just a given that you've had sex with those people. It's not a big deal. We can't take back what happened in the past.Quote:
Originally Posted by Only-virgins [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
My fiance's ex was someone he dated briefly, and I guess they realized they made better friends than being a couple. He started seeing someone else, and then he tried setting her up with some other people. She hit it off with one of his friends. I guess it sounds weird, but it worked out.
How old do you think I am and how many relationship do you think I have been in? I'm not saying you should have sex with your Bfs or some shit but I am not having sex with someone that my friend had sex with. We can't take back the past but we can accept or deny the future based on it.Quote:
Originally Posted by bluesummer [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Wow. How did you deal with this?Quote:
Originally Posted by bluesummer [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Do you really want us to answer that ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by Only-virgins [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
But... the stripper....Quote:
Originally Posted by Only-virgins [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I think OV is one of those old-fashioned men that draw a distinction b/t girls to fcuk and girls to marry.
I didn't **** the stripper. Strippers are like toys you rent for an hour.
In my opinion, it depends on the type of relationship and if you were friends before the relationship even began.