I'm Moody

Ever since I've been laid off it's been really hard to get myself in a good mood. I was doing so well, completely over my breakup, starting to feel like myself again, and now I feel like I'm backpeddling. I don't know what to do with myself around my apartment, and all I want to do is sleep.

It's Saturday night and I don't feel like going out tonight even though I could easily call up my friend and find something fun to do. I'm even finding it hard to respond to peoples' relationship advice because I just don't have the mental energy.

I hate that I am coming on the forum to complain, but I just feel so blah lately. Maybe I should never have put so much of my identity into that job. I know other people have bigger problems, and I should count my blessings that I don't have another mouth to feed or debt to pay, but I really feel like this was one of the worst things that could happen to me right now. Whenever something would go wrong in my life, my job was always a bright spot, and I often threw myself into work to help overcome whatever I was going through. It's like I have to make an extra effort to feel good right now.

It's not surprising that you feel that way Starbuck. We build our places of work as one of the pillars of self, it helps us define who we are (just like in any other relationship). And ofcourse when that avenue disappears it's like we have lost a part of self. And when that choice is not personal and is forced, It's like that self was ripped out of us. And this is probably what you are feeling right now, a loss of a part of self which was the proffesional you admired for your talents and skills by so many people in your workplace.

But what will make you feel better in the future is another realisation, one which will define your work self lost as an old self and seek out progress and imporvement through other avenues. Suddenly you will see that at your previous work you have reached a certain stage and now the time has come to step onto another ladder and start climbing to new heights. Maybe you are not at that stage yet, but rest assured it's already on the horizon and the time is coming :)

find a guy and get laid. Problem solved. Maybe one of the horny bastards on here can help.

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Originally Posted by NeoSeminole [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

find a guy and get laid. Problem solved. Maybe one of the horny bastards on here can help.

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Yeah that's exactly what I need. Mindless sex. Might as well drink a whole bottle of whiskey or shoot some heroin into my veins while I'm at it. Those will make my problems go away, too.

Neo = nerd who can't read

And starbuck - you should considering getting a low-class job until you get everything fixed up again. Even if it's "embarrassing" or "low paying", it'll at least give you something to do. Trust me I'm in college right now, and I had... a "mental breakdown" and soon confined myself to my room. Soon I just didn't had anything else to do but eat and sleep. :( a semester wasted because of depression (because I just had it so many shit was happening then). I hated it too.

But on the bright side, you could start a new hobby you wanted to before getting a job, or do something to improve yourself. Set up some kind of goal so you could feel like you have a reason why you get up. When you had your job I bet it gave you a sense of importance that got taken away when you got laid off. That what eventually happened to me. I withdrew my classes and didn't have anything else to do till my semester was over. Time just doesn't feel like it exists anymore, so I just got on the computer, went to sleep, got on computer, went to sleep.

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PS: Penis = bad at a emotional distress such as this, as right now your feeling insecure and more likely to fall in love with a man for being with you even if he is just a asshole who only wanted to be with you long enough to bang you. Don't listen to the clit! lulz it'll just put you in the emotional hole more

listen to the dildo if you have urges :3

Move down to New Orleans so we can hang out.

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Originally Posted by starbuck [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Yeah that's exactly what I need. Mindless sex. Might as well drink a whole bottle of whiskey or shoot some heroin into my veins while I'm at it. Those will make my problems go away, too.

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I call dibs on starbuck!

Don't want to come off as an asshole. But are you looking for a job? If I were in your position my new job would be out every single day looking for one.

Zatguy says:

"Neo = nerd who can't read"

choke on a dick, you f*ckface. I assure you I'm less of a nerd than you and I did read what starbuck wrote. Sex relieves stress, improves health, boosts self-esteem, and helps you sleep better. So explain how my advice doesn't pertain to the OP.

Maybe you should consider doing some sort of volunteer work (soup kitchen, or something) a couple of times a week until you find another job. It would give you something to do, get you out of the house, and make you feel better about yourself.

i suggest that you go with either the drugs or drinking...

raverboy

I imagine you're lightly depressed, Starbuck. Totally not unexpected under the circumstances. Just don't let it run away on you & make sure you are doing something everyday to help yourself.

While I think some of the distractions mentioned might help temporarily, my advice would be to only focus attention on things that will eventually help you in your next job. Take this time to hit your library and read up on new books in your field?

Perhaps you should attend a local Chamber of Commerce or other networking event. The cost is usually low & you will make networking contacts. Breakfast ones are usually reasonable.

Also, have you given your resume to headhunters yet? That may help. Cast your net wide (i.e. out of state/country), you never know.

A part time job is a possibility while you are looking. So long as its fairly brainless & won't distract you from your job hunt.

You'll be fine. Chin up!

I like the volunteering idea, shh. It might make me feel somewhat productive during this time. I just wasn't at all prepared for this to happen to me. Maybe I should have had a game plan set up just in case it did. But I guess it doesn't matter now.

This coming week is when I'm really going to hit the pavement, so to speak. I had been somewhat sending out my resume and following up leads this last week, but it was tough to put all of my energy into it since I still had some turnover work to do, not to mention stuff like making sure my corporate card had no outstanding charges on it, updating my resume and portfolio, packing all my work samples up (I had five boxes worth of stuff which I now have to unpack). I had an overwhelming about of stuff to take care of before I could even call a headhunter. Now that all of that's done, I feel like I can jobhunt hardcore this week which makes me feel more positive.

I am fighting a mildly depressed feeling though. I think I was just really blindsided by this.

don't stress starbuck everything will be fine. ::hugs::

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Originally Posted by Illusional [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

i suggest that you go with either the drugs or drinking...

raverboy

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LOL, raver. The drinking would be bad. I am not a good drinker. I get hungover very easily and tend to drunk dial people that I shouldn't, like the sloth. I seriously need to hide my phone when I drink.

I'm not a drugs person either. Guess I need to go with the penis. It's my only vice left.

I think you'll feel a lot better when your day has more structure to it. Hang in there.

Lulz, unless the penis is from someone you know, I still say it could be horrible because I have not seen enough posts from you to tell if your the "emotional" type or not, but I don't want you being attached to someone whose purpose in sexing you up is for sexing you up and doesn't really care about your "distress". Could end in more depression that I don't want to see from someone as cool as you if a guy just ****s you and leaves. :(

Thanks, Zatguy. All joking aside, I'm not really the type who sleeps around casually. And my ex lives out of state, so even in a moment of weakness, I'm pretty safe from being his booty call.

Even though my lay off was a curve ball, I'm much better off emotionally than I was last year when I was fighting off a mild depression. I'm just fighting some moodiness.

I'm like this guy:
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Originally Posted by starbuck [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Thanks, Zatguy. All joking aside, I'm not really the type who sleeps around casually. And my ex lives out of state, so even in a moment of weakness, I'm pretty safe from being his booty call.

Even though my lay off was a curve ball, I'm much better off emotionally than I was last year when I was fighting off a mild depression. I'm just fighting some moodiness.

I'm like this guy:
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Not like this?
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Awww darn =D

Well anyways good luck with that resume! I'll be rooting as I do my physics, calculus 2, and database management... T.T I have too much to do

Edit: Because of people not seeing my picture, I made a replacement!

Zat, your picture is showing up as just an ad. I'm a little scared of what it is though.

All I see is planet climax.

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I won't edit your posts but you've already crossed a line.

Keep the porn to your google searches.

Ok, :( *reads the rules so I won't do it again*

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Originally Posted by starbuck [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

LOL, raver. The drinking would be bad. I am not a good drinker. I get hungover very easily and tend to drunk dial people that I shouldn't, like the sloth. I seriously need to hide my phone when I drink.

I'm not a drugs person either. Guess I need to go with the penis. It's my only vice left.

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Penises aren't a vice starbuck!

But in all seriousness, if you are feeling depressed the LAST thing you want to do is drink or do drugs. The VERY last thing you want to do. Drinking and drugs should only be taken in moments of celebration, because you may very easily worsen your depression or become dependent on them otherwise

Starbuck if you have MSN or whatever we could chat. :)

Thanks all. My out-of-town friend just cancelled a trip to see me and she said it's because of money, but I'm wondering if it's because I'm in such a bad mood lately. I'm probably being paranoid, though.

My emo-ness is starting to get on my own nerves, so I am really trying to feel better. I don't want to be a debbie downer. It's not really like me.

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Originally Posted by starbuck [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Thanks all. My out-of-town friend just cancelled a trip to see me and she said it's because of money, but I'm wondering if it's because I'm in such a bad mood lately. I'm probably being paranoid, though.

My emo-ness is starting to get on my own nerves, so I am really trying to feel better. I don't want to be a debbie downer. It's not really like me.

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When we are down we often imagine things which are the furthest from the truth to bring ourselves down even further (Ironic isn't it?). It's obvious that your friend couldn't make it becuase of some personal issues. The fact that your friend had some personal issues to attend to when you needed a get away only says to me that he/she is not a very good friend and this casts no negative light on you.

Awww. We <3 you starbuck =D don't go emo on us

Why don't you to west virginia and take boxing classes with me =D

Only thing better than a anti-depression pill is beating the **** out of someone until you feel better

What you need to do is to do stuff that makes you feel good about yourself. Treat your self and know that you are worth it.

I would suggest taking a long warm bath with lots of candles so that you'll feel well-rested and relaxed. Get up, dress real nice and go out and do something very nice, something that you normally wouldn't do that would make you feel good.

Get a massage, manicure, pedicure or what ever, as long as you feel that you are indulging your self.

When you feel a bit better, you'll have more energy to write a good resume and applying for new jobs.

Starbuck hang in there.

Even though I haven't lost my job I can identify because I have had a series of unfortunate things happen to me in the last couple of weeks. This is why I haven't been coming to LF as often.

It's tough to ride these waves of depression and to get back out there. Don't be too harsh on yourself though. Losing your job is a difficult thing to handle. You are not getting depressed for no reason at all. The remedy really is finding a job that you enjoyed as much as your last. Just keep pluggin away and sending off your CV as much as you can.

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Originally Posted by starbuck [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Yeah that's exactly what I need. Mindless sex. Might as well drink a whole bottle of whiskey or shoot some heroin into my veins while I'm at it. Those will make my problems go away, too.

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Sorry.., but I'm not going to promise you sex.., though hopefully you'll have a chance to get your mind to cool off and relax a little bit..

I don't know if you've ever been fishing before.., but I'm going out to Long Island next weekend for bluefish.. You're more than welcome to come.. If you start acting weird.., I'll just kick you off the boat..

Not sure what you like to drink.., Personally.., Chivas.., I like my whiskey and women the same.., 18 years old and mixed up with coke.., though I'm a lot more picky when it comes to wine..

If you want to meet a couple of new people with the possibility of something more.., you can stop by the city one night.. No need to make plans for just one hot spot.. You know what they say.. "Good girls go to heaven.., bad girls go everywhere" ;)

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I don't know if you've ever been fishing before.., but I'm going out to Long Island next weekend for bluefish.. You're more than welcome to come.. If you start acting weird.., I'll just kick you off the boat..

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Do it starbuck! Have some fun!

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Originally Posted by GrkScorp [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Sorry.., but I'm not going to promise you sex.., though hopefully you'll have a chance to get your mind to cool off and relax a little bit..

I don't know if you've ever been fishing before.., but I'm going out to Long Island next weekend for bluefish.. You're more than welcome to come.. If you start acting weird.., I'll just kick you off the boat..

Not sure what you like to drink.., Personally.., Chivas.., I like my whiskey and women the same.., 18 years old and mixed up with coke.., though I'm a lot more picky when it comes to wine..

If you want to meet a couple of new people with the possibility of something more.., you can stop by the city one night.. No need to make plans for just one hot spot.. You know what they say.. "Good girls go to heaven.., bad girls go everywhere" ;)

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Check your email Grk :)

i wanna go toooooooooooooooo!!!

I can't go actually. I wanted to, but my out-of-town friend who wasn't going to visit, is now going to visit so I'll be picking her up at the airport that morning.

By the way, my job hunting is paying off. I have a couple of interviews for freelance work, one that may actually keep me employed at least through the end of Decemeber, so I'm feeling much better today.

Wish me luck!

good luck starb!!!